How to spend time together as a couple

Despite the Hubby and I both being at home all day we don't spend every hour of every day together. Because the Hubby works at home and has a good work ethic during the day he works, regular work hours are when he sits at his computer and makes games. And while he works I either tap away on my computer in my office or I do the housework. Most of the time during working hours we don't see each other, although we may send messages to each other. But of course all this means we still have to make an effort to actually spend time together as a couple.

It's easy to get lost in the day-to-day routines and forget that you really ought to be spending time together, not just as a family but as a couple. Whether you both work out of the home, both work at home, or one works out of the home and the other doesn't, you need to allow time for each other.

It can be difficult trying to work out how you should spend time together and that's where this post comes in handy because I'm about to list ways that you can do just that, ways that the Hubby and I spend time together as a couple. We both make a conscious effort to spend time together, we put our phones down, put the iPads away, and connect.



Keep love alive


Spending time together as a couple is about as important as spending time as a family and spending time alone. You need that time as a couple, to connect and remember why you fell in love. Far too many people fall out of love, for whatever reason, but I believe that if you're with the right person there is absolutely no reason you shouldn't be able to enjoy each other's company for a lifetime.


An old couple dances together as a way of spending time together.


If you allow time for one another you learn together, you laugh together, you grow together.



How to spend time together




Movies


Watching movies together might not sound like a good way of spending time as a couple but it really is, especially if you both enjoy the movie. What watching movies does is spark conversation, much like when you watch movies with your children. If you watch a movie and then talk about it afterwards, chat about what you both thought and your opinions you're sharing something with one another. You may have opinions someone wouldn't agree with, something you'd be afraid of sharing, but when you're with your partner you can share those opinions in the knowledge that you won't be judged for it.





If I can, I love staying in pajamas all day and watching movies and eating good food. 

Becky G





I love watching movies with the Hubby and whenever we watch something new we always end up talking about it afterwards. Some of our favourites, ones that have sparked huge conversations afterwards, include Gravity - where we talked about Sandra Bullock's talent, about the brave astronauts who dare to go into space, and the fact that space is filled with debris that could cause such havoc at any moment - The Great Gatsby - one of our favourites because of the director Baz Luhrmann, the music is amazing and the story is really well told - and Moulin Rouge, a movie that has been a favourite for many years and is another Baz Luhrmann movie.



Walking


More than once I've mentioned the good things about walking together. When it's with your family it does you all good but it's also great to get outdoors walking with your partner. Getting out into the open, breathing fresh air and maybe even seeing nature while you're out does you both good and again can spark excellent conversations.

Hubby and I walk regularly, we have a routine that allows us to get a walk together as a couple every Sunday. LP has a Karate class every Sunday and while he's in his class the Hubby and I go for a walk around the area, our walk takes us along footpaths and close to a supermarket but more than anything we talk a lot. We discuss plans, we make new plans (like adding a day to our upcoming holiday!) and we talk about life in general and what may happen next. It's a great time to talk about the things we're uncomfortable talking about in front of the boys and we get to be just a couple, rather than parents. I always look forward to our Sunday walk.



Games


Work together or get competitive (although not competitive enough to cause an argument!) and play together. Working together usually works better because then you need each other to complete tasks and such, it makes you realise that you need the other person and you end up laughing together when you inevitably mess up!

Because the Hubby has worked in the games industry for more than 20 years games have always played a huge part in our lives. When he worked on console games like Timesplitters it was those games that Hubby played and we didn't often play any games together. More recently, with the Wii U we enjoyed playing Super Mario 3D World, it was great being able to work together to complete the game and we did actually have fun doing it. These days Hubby is involved with mobile games and I play those games too. We've found a few games we can play together on the iPads, as well as competitively and that's fun too.

Of course I don't just mean computer games, board games are fun too. We used to play Scrabble together, although I'm a little less keen on that these days because I don't remember the last time I was able to win a game, but the simpler games are fun.



Music


This may only work if you have similar tastes in music, or it may widen your music choices. Listening to music together can bring you closer. The Hubby introduced me to Eminem and although that might sound kind of odd he opened my eyes to the fact that I do like Eminem's music. When I actually sat and listened to the lyrics in the music I realised that he is not only a talented rapper but also an amazing song-writer. I love that Hubby made me listen because I had completely decided that Eminem's music was not for me.




Could it be the same for you - has your partner introduced you to music you never thought you would like, but actually now love?



Shows


Whether you call it a date or not make the effort to go out and see a show. It could be a musical like Legally Blonde or Shrek, or it could be something a little more serious like An Inspector Calls. When you see a show together you're both enjoying (or not as the case may be) the same show and can talk about it afterwards, much like watching movies together.

I love seeing shows with the Hubby, possibly because we like similar things, but I always enjoy it. In the past we've seen Much Ado About Nothing which starred Sienna Miller, we saw An Inspector Calls, and more recently we saw Around the World in 80 Days, although we took the boys to that one too. It's always fun watching shows and again it sparks conversation afterwards.



Restaurants


If you're anything like the Hubby and I you like your food. From burgers and chips to foie gras and sirloin steak we've tried all sorts. I enjoy going for a good burger at Five Guys just the same as going for a fancy meal, although I have to say when we go for a fancy meal I do get to dress up which is nice because I don't do it that often. Sitting across from your partner talking while you eat a lovely meal is one of the nicest ways to spend time together and I highly recommend it.





Food is not just eating energy. It's an experience. 

Guy Fieri




Make it extra special


Sometimes it's nice to make a whole day of it, that's why it's great when Hubby and I take a day together when the boys are at school. We get to go for a walk, go into Nottingham, even go to a restaurant for lunch if we want to. It is such a lovely day when we do that.


How to spend time together as a couple - from walking to restaurants I've got some top tips for you.


I know it can be difficult to make time for one another but it so important to, spending time together when you're not thinking about daily chores and responsibilities allows you to connect as a couple.


When was the last time you spent time together as a couple?



If you enjoyed reading this post you might enjoy my post entitled 9 ways to keep the love alive in a marriage where I talk about how to stay connected or if you're looking to spend a little more time on your own why not check out Why it's important to have 10 minutes to yourself.

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18 comments

  1. It is so important to spend some time together as a couple, we try to at least go out for a coffee every week, without the children, although most of our conversation tends to be about them!#pocolo@_karendennis

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    1. ๐Ÿ˜‚Just typical isn't it? If you're not with them you're talking about them! xx

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  2. We absolutely love food and films so that's what we spend all our time doing when we get a chance.

    https://lizziedailyblog.blogspot.com/

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    1. Fantastic way to spend your time. xx

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  3. Gravity and The Great Gatzby are both movies worth watching. Haven't seen Moulin Rouge yet. Love watching movies. Usually a late night Netflix indulgence in our case. #PoCoLo

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    1. You MUST watch Moulin Rouge - brilliant movie! Gotta love Netflix too - plenty of great movies on there. x

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  4. My hubs and I like to do nice dinners together. #pocolo
    Tracy www.viewfromthebeachchair.com

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    1. Aw that's lovely, it's always nice to have a meal together. x

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  5. Fantastic post and really important to make time aside for your partner X #pocolo

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  6. Peter and I are either together 24/7 or apart for months at a time. We walk the dog together, go out for coffees and watch netflix together when we're both in the same country. When we're apart we talk and message several times a day and plan lots of things to do for when we're together, it usually involves family and friends #pocolo

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    1. That's so great Suzanne. I think even if you are together a lot you still need to consciously make the effort. It's great that you're so close. xxx

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  7. Morgan I can't actually remember the last time we had time as a couple. We tend to do everything with he family. Ooooppss! I will have to take on board some of your excellent tips. Thank you for hosting #POCOLO ๐ŸŒˆ

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    1. Aw thanks Catie - and yes, get some YOU and HIM time! You really must - it's so nice when you get that time that you'll want more! xxx

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  8. Spending time together - just the two of you - is really important. Now the Tubblet is older, we go for a walk every night. Keeps us fit and gives an opportunity to just hang out. Not sure how this will go when winter comes though but so far so good!

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    1. Fantastic way to spend time together Nikki, I love walking with the Hubby because we get a great chance to talk and actually it helps us both think about other things too and we tend to bounce ideas of one another. xx

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  9. Heading for a nice meal Saturday lunchtime feels quite a luxury as well as a great way to delay the hubbub of everyday life #PoCoLo

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