Why it's important to have 10 minutes to yourself

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As a busy mum to two school-aged boys I find it difficult to find just 10 minutes per day just for me. It might sound ridiculous but when I think about my day it mainly consists of doing things for others or working and just when I think I may get 10 minutes to enjoy a coffee and read a magazine the boys are causing havoc and I have to intervene.

But those 10 minutes to yourself are so important, you really must try to have at least that.
tea in a flowery mug, cupped in a pair of hands. A flowery dress in the background.

After chatting to Michelle Reeves a couple of weeks ago I decided to get up 30 minutes earlier than usual. My usual waking time is 6:30am but I thought I would get up at 6am instead so that I could enjoy a hot coffee and watch the news without interruptions or arguments from the boys. 

My alarm went off at 6am and I hit the button quickly so as to not wake the Hubby. I crept out of bed and into the bathroom where I tried to go through my morning routine as quietly as possible. I then crept downstairs, avoiding the one creaky step, and went into the kitchen, closing the door behind me. Closing the door I hoped would keep the noise of the boiling kettle from waking the boys. So I boiled the kettle and made myself a coffee and with my coffee in hand I opened the kitchen door.

And sat on the stairs with his best smile was LP.

I can never be disappointed to see that smile in a morning but I was a little disappointed that my first attempt to get some time to myself didn't go so well.



  • I think women are natural caretakers. They take care of everybody. They take care of their husbands and their kids and their dogs, and don't spend a lot of time just getting back and taking time out. 

Reese Witherspoon




Why is it so hard to have time to myself?


Being a mum to school-aged boys doesn't mean I get the whole day to myself, unfortunately. I spend the time while my boys are at school blogging. Yes it is a choice I make and I could just as easily have 6 hours all to myself right?

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Nope.

Instead I would use that time to do housework and then by the time the boys came home the housework would be done and I'd spend time with them. Because being a mum isn't about how I can spend time on my own, it's about making life good for my children and husband. I forget to think about myself.




So how do you get time to yourself?


It's not easy. If you're a morning person you can try getting up a little earlier than normal and attempt what I did, but it's not a guarantee. 

Here is where giving your children chores will help you have more time. Perhaps your 10/11 year old can load the dishwasher and your 6/7 year old can pick up dirty clothes and put them in baskets. The vacuuming is an easy job to give to your older children and it doesn't even take long but it will give you a few extra minutes.



  • It is amazing how quickly the kids learn the operation of the DVD, yet are unable to understand the vacuum cleaner.

Etienne Marchal





Hiding in the bathroom may work occasionally but you can't really sit in there with a cup of tea and enjoy peace and quiet while you're hiding from your children can you?

If you have older children you could instigate times during the day when they're not allowed to interrupt you, no matter what (barring emergencies of course). They can entertain themselves while you enjoy a drink and read a magazine.




Why is it so important?


Having time for yourself allows you to think.

You can sit and be you, without thinking about housework or things the kids need. Ignore everything but your drink and your magazine or book, or whatever you choose to do in your time. You have time to wind down, to enjoy something for yourself, just like everyone else does.

Giving yourself that time may help you find new hobbies, learn new things, or even stumble across a business idea.

brunette woman sitting in a yoga position by a lake, relaxing. The lake is in the blurred background.


You are not just a mum. You are not just a wife. You are a person, someone who devotes their whole being to making others happy, and allowing yourself 10 minutes will make you happy. It doesn't matter what you do in those 10 minutes as long as you get to be happy.

I haven't yet managed to get my time in a morning, whenever I try to get up early LP joins me. He is a light sleeper and the sound of anything downstairs wakes him. I'll get that time eventually, perhaps on the days he has after school clubs. He'll be extra tired on those days so perhaps I can take advantage of that?



How do you make time for yourself during your busy days?


20 comments:

  1. Lovely post and so true! My time for peace is in the evening when the two little ones fall asleep (around 7pm), the older two are still awake (often later than I manage to keep my eyes open) but at almost 14 and 11 they do their own thing so I get to chill out in bed with a hot drink and a book :)

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    1. That sounds so lovely! I'm so glad you get time to yourself. :)

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  2. I think we are on the same wavelength this week! I've just written a similar post. It is so important to take the time to take care of yourself. I'd go as far as to say take longer than 10 minutes if you can. x

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    1. Oh totally, I think we probably only allow ourselves 10 minutes because it's fairly reasonable. I'd definitely push for longer if you can manage it. :)

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  3. I'm a morning person, so I do get up half an hour or an hour earlier than anyone else. Yes, I do the chores, but I do have me-time too. Meditation, crafting or just listening to the birds at the moment. I taught my youngest the time and he is not allowed down before 7am. It gives me time and him his sleep. #PoCoLo

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    1. That's such a good idea. I wish mine would stay in bed when I tell them! :)

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  4. I don't Morgan! Great post because you are spot on we all do need and would definitely benefit from that extra 10 minutes. It is just the practicalities of getting it! #POCOLO

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    1. Oh I hear you hun. Even if it's just a few minutes while you're still in bed it's something. I hope you get some time for yourself soon. xx

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  5. Oh my I'm not a morning person at all. I'm currently going with the flow. Hope you find some you time soon. #PoCoLo

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    1. Going with the flow is good, as long as you're trying to squeeze some time for you. xx

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  6. Oh bless you but well done for trying - I also think it's lovely that he wants to join you in the morning. So many would choose to stay in bed! My time tends to be in the evening when Little Man is in bed and the hubby is at the gym. #PoCoLo

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    1. Thanks! That sounds great. Good to hear you get your time alone. :)

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  7. Like all moms, I don't get time to myself. I think that the reason why it's so hard is that our partners incorrectly believe that we don't need time to ourselves. I don't think it is entirely accurate to say that women are natural caregivers. Men are perfectly capable of taking care of others. The difference is that we will put the needs of others above our own while they will generally not. So when they see us not taking that needed time for ourselves, they think it's because we don't need it. If they were in our shoes, they would have taken what they need. But we don't. We just keep giving while everyone keeps taking. We have to allow ourselves to be selfish once in a while. #PoCoLo

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    1. Absolutely! I totally agree with you. I think a lot of the time women resent their men for taking time for themselves when really it's the women that need to be more selfish. :)

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  8. I so need this right now, I cannot wait for some me time! Dont know when that will be though :( #PoCoLo

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    1. Oh you really must try to get some time for yourself. Perhaps have a hot bath while your Hubby takes care of the little one?

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  9. oh how I craved me time, now the kids have left home I wish i'd just enjoyed spending more time with them without the constant need to feel I wanted some time out #pocolo

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    1. It's typical isn't it? When you're in the midst of crazy children and hectic days you want time for yourself and later you miss the crazy days. If only things were simple! ;)

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  10. My time tends to be early morning. I doy yoga stretchrs and a bit of reiki if im lucky... yourr right, time out is vital. #pocolo

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    1. Oh boy I miss yoga! I used to do it a lot but have lost that time unfortunately. I really must try to get back to it. x

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