How to get 10 minutes for self-care

Self-care can mean many things, but when you're a stay-at-home mum who spends her time taking care of other people it usually means something you haven't got time for. But with a little organisation, knowing what to spend your time doing in order to get self-care, and prioritising yourself, you can get 10 minutes for self-care - even when you're a stay-at-home mum.

Why getting 10 minutes for self-care is important

As a mum you tend to put everyone else first, without thinking about the impact on yourself. Then when you get stressed out and have an outburst you feel guilty. By taking 10 minutes to take care of yourself you're helping everyone.

How To Get 10 Minutes For Self-Care | Sitting to have coffee is a form of self-care - when will you do it?
Mmmm, a hot coffee...

  • Thinking time. Getting time to be alone and just think is good for you. Whether it's sitting looking out of the window with a hot coffee in your hand, or walking along the canal and watching the ducks take care of their ducklings, that thinking time helps you. You can organise your thoughts, think through your to-do list, and even check things off that have already been done. All in peace.

Lighten up on yourself. No one is perfect. Gently accept your humanness.

Deborah Day

  • Be you, without obligations. When was the last time you thought of yourself as anything but a stay-at-home mum? You spend all your time looking after others and as a result you tend to lose yourself. Getting 10 minutes for self-care allows you to learn who you are, it helps you work out what things you like, what you don't like, and most of all it helps you know yourself.

  • Learn something new. An opportunity to learn a new hobby, read an interesting article in the paper or online, or even taking an educational course, makes you feel good. When you do something that makes you happy you're ready for anything.

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  • Taking care of you IS taking care of others. When you spend time taking care of yourself you're more willing, and even happier, to take care of others. By getting 10 minutes for yourself you're saying you value yourself and that you play an important role - your family will start to see you're right too!

Benefits of using 10 minutes for self-care

  • Less stress. When you get 10 minutes for self-care you have time to let the stresses go. It is easier to cope with stresses when you are getting down time.

  • You're more positive about life. As a result of those 10 minutes for yourself you're happier, which means you're more positive about everything. Something might be going wrong, or there's a mishap somewhere but because you're getting time for you you feel ready to take on whatever it is.

How To Get 10 Minutes For Self-Care | Smile - it makes you feel good!
Just smiling can make you feel good.

  • Improve self-esteem. You start to feel good about yourself. You could be taking a yoga class, or delving into a new hobby but you're spending time improving yourself. And that feels good.

  • Improved health. By taking the time to think of yourself for a little while every day you're noticing things that need to change, or things that are a niggling issue and you get them sorted. You may start an exercise class in order to lose weight. You could notice something hurts and get it checked out by a doctor. Either way, you're taking care of yourself - and that's important.

  • Improve concentration. When you're not spending every second of every day thinking about whether your kids' school trip is sorted or the Hubby's washing is done, when you're getting 10 minutes to take care of YOU - the jobs where you need to concentrate are easier. You feel ready to put your brain to work and concentrate on the job at hand.

How To Get 10 Minutes For Self-Care | Spending time with your kids can be a form of self-care.

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  • Better productivity. Have you noticed that when you're happier you tend to work faster? I know I have. Whether it's getting the washing into the machine, sorting out the kids' packed lunch, or seeing the Hubby off to work in a morning, it all goes quicker when I have a smile on my face.

  • You feel more giving. When you take 10 minutes for self-care you are more willing to help others. You're happy, you're fulfilled, so giving some time to a family member makes you happier.  

How to get 10 minutes for self-care

Start small

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In order to get self-care into your day a good start is to make small changes to your current routines. Instead of getting straight on with the cleaning as soon as you get up why not take a minute to drink a coffee? That's how I started my new self-care routine and it really helps with my motivation in a morning.

Learning to love yourself is like learning to walk - essential, life-changing, and the only way to stand tall.

Vironika Tugaleva

Start doing one thing just for you

Like I said, that coffee is a must for me but for you it could be something different. You might enjoy a nice breakfast, or watching your favourite show could be what makes you smile. Whatever it is make time for it in your day.

Change your priorities

It really is okay to put yourself first sometimes, even when you're a mum. I know we spend our days putting everyone else first but doing something for you is allowed. I regularly take 10 minutes for self-care - it can be yoga, drawing, or even sitting and drinking my coffee - but I do this regularly so my family know I'm taking care of me as well as them.

Learn to say no

How To Get 10 Minutes For Self-Care | Learn to say no!

Whether it's the friend who always stops by, a family member who asks for your help too much, or even the kids asking for snacks - it's okay to say no. By saying no to some of the demands on your time you're giving yourself that time back - which you can then use on self-care.

Create routines to get 10 minutes for self-care

The very best way you can get 10 minutes for self-care is to create routines for yourself. Daily chore checklists, the kids' routine for school. It will take time, believe me, but if you do the same things every day and establish a routine you'll soon find that you have those 10 minutes for self-care - then you just need to work out what you're going to do with it!

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As a busy stay-at-home mum you need to start prioritising yourself. Not all of the time, but at least 10 minutes. Self-care is important - it makes you happier and that means you're more ready to deal with the day-to-day stuff that comes with being a stay-at-home mum. I hope this article has helped you see how to get 10 minutes for self-care and I would be happy to hear how you've been spending those 10 minutes.

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If you're struggling to think of things to do when you get that 10 minutes for self-care why not grab my printable list of ways to spend alone time.

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  1. Self care is so important and you are right, ten minutes can make all the difference. I have got much better at it now the kid has started school but I should not have left it five years!! #twinklytuesday

    1. I know what you mean. It took for me to be diagnosed with cervical cancer to realise I really ought to take care of myself! Now I try to write about why it's a good thing so other women prioritise themselves at least some of the time. 💖

  2. I found that learning to say no was the biggest thing that made the difference (in ALL our lives!). Being more intentional about our time and how we spend it. :)

    1. I totally agree with that! Being intentional is a great way to look at it too - that's what we're currently practising because Hubby has a new job which means he's home less. 😊

  3. I couldn't agree more with this blog post. Happy Mum + Happy Family. I have taken to listening to podcasts and music when I am out walking which always gets me in a good mood. And I definitely say no to people and commitments when it all becoming too much. Thanks for sharing #twinklytuesday

    1. Thanks so much. I think saying no is definitely the way to go when things are just building up. Thanks for stopping by. xx

  4. Fab ideas and that ten minutes can make a big difference to your mindset X #twinklytuesday

  5. Morgan, I agree with every word you have written. Great post and great reminder that we are important too! #dreamteam xoxo

  6. Just returning back from #pocolo fab tips X

  7. Taking care of yourself is the most important thing a SAHM can do. I can remember when I had 3 little boys at home. I looked forward to the 30 minutes I spent running each day. Sometimes my hubby would walk in the door from work, and I would practically throw the baby at him and run out the door! :)

  8. I found myself getting really stressed earlier so i just picked up my handbag and went to the coffee shop for some 'me time' even though I'm on my own all day, a change of scenery is often the tonic I need #pocolo

  9. Absolutely agree, just 10 minutes can make all the difference, even if its just for a hot cuppa! Thanks for linking up #twinklytuesday

  10. I absolutely LOVE this! I'm not a stay at home mum. But, working full time and then coming home and working hard to fit home life in can be really tough. It makes those 10 mins of self care seem like a distant unachievable glimmer. But, it's so important to grab that time each day to keep ourselves clear headed, feeling good, and then as a result as you say, much more productive in the long run. Thanks for sharing this with the #dreamteam xx

  11. Thinking time - so important - but so what I'm missing out on at the moment! #PoCoLo

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