Screens on holiday - Yay or Nay?

It's been a week since we got back from Orlando and while we had an amazing trip there's one thing that annoyed me, and it still does. Did you know there's a babysitter in your pocket? Well, there is - apparently. No matter where I looked while on holiday there were children either walking around with a phone in their hand or sat at dinner tables staring at screens.



Screens on holiday


Now I admit I let our boys take their iPads on holiday. They played on their iPads for all of about 2 hours in total - that's in six weeks! We were far too busy having fun in the parks and eating at fabulous restaurants for them to be playing games on tablets. But it seems my opinion on this differs wildly from the opinions of most.

Everywhere I looked, both in the Walt Disney World parks and the restaurants, children had tablets or phones in their hands. I first noticed it when we sat down for breakfast on our first day. Scanning the various tables in the restaurant most had children sitting with phones in their hands. I shook my head and ate my breakfast, not thinking any more about it.


iPad, nexus devices, laid on a table with picture of sunglasses and a drink nearby.


But it was something I noticed again and again. In the parks, the Walt Disney World theme parks where there are rollercoasters around every corner and entertainment wherever you look, I saw children wandering around looking at screens rather than the breathtaking things all around them.

I was sad.

Such wondrous things to see and they were choosing to look down at a screen? Or rather their parents were allowing them to look at screens.





Technology is a useful servant but a dangerous master. 

Christian Lous Lange





Parent's responsibility


It seemed like the screens were all the children were interested in. But for me it was more about the parent's decision to allow them to look at screens that bothered me. If the parents are allowing their children to walk around a theme park while looking at a screen what on earth are they teaching them?

It's okay to ignore the world around you?
Life is inside the screen?
There's no need to consider what's happening in the real world?

I tell you, I despair. I cannot stand the thought of what those children will grow up thinking about real life.

The worst case I remember seeing was at a show - a show where there are people on stage putting in a lot of effort to entertain. It's a brilliant show called Hoop De Doo Musical Revue and there's singing and dancing and you spend a lot of time laughing. And yet there was one child a few tables away from us and they were watching their screen the entire time. At first I thought it was just while they were waiting for the show to start but having glanced across while the show was on I saw the child was still staring at the screen and not at the actors on stage.


Dancing people in the show Hoop De Doo Musical Revue in Walt Disney World.


I wondered why the parents would bother buying a ticket for the show (it's not cheap) for the child to sit there and not watch it - it seems like a waste to me. But it's also so so sad. That child didn't get to experience the laughter because they were too busy playing games or watching shows on the screen.



Evil Mum time


I've written before about how I am Evil Mum - the persona I took on when my eldest became a teen - and how I started reducing screen times and disciplining the boys for bad behaviour. But I've also written about how being an Evil Mum is a good thing. You have to be able to accept your children aren't going to like some of your decisions but that you know what is best for them.

Like not letting them use a screen in a theme park!

BP has had a phone for a few years now and during our trip he used it more than usual. He spent a lot of time messaging his friends back home and chatting to one particular friend who happened to be in Orlando at the same time as us. However, I still ended up telling him to put his phone away when we were in the parks. I couldn't stand it when I saw him walking through the parks staring at his phone - and I told him so. I started pointing out other children staring at screens and the things they were missing because of it. And that ended up being a useful teaching opportunity. My boys could see the other children missing out on some brilliant sights - like seeing the March of Storm Troopers through the streets in Hollywood Studios - and it proved I wasn't just being Evil, I was doing it for a reason.


Marching Storm Troopers in Hollywood Studios, Walt Disney World.




Make your children have fun - even when they don't want to


I don't tend to tell other parents how to raise their children - it's none of my business after all - but when it comes to this I have to say I think they're doing it wrong. To allow your children to miss out on what could be a 'once in a lifetime' thing because they want to look at screens is a BAD THING. A parent should say no to that kind of thing, especially when in theme parks!

I lost count of the number of times I had to tell BP to put his phone away - but I did it, again and again because I knew what was best for him.

Telling our children what to do when they're growing up is our job.
We do know what is best - no matter what our children think.

And while screens have become a part of everyday life I don't think it's a good thing to let them take over everyday life. We need to make our children take breaks and enjoy life, to see the wonderful things around them and and be an engaged part of society.





New technology is not good or evil in and of itself. It's all about how people choose to use it. 

David Wong





Having 'screen time' and limits on technology are the ways I teach my children to be part of society rather than living their lives within the confines of a computer. I want to raise well rounded children, I want them to become men who can function in the real world and interact with other people without having to resort to staring at a screen.


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11 comments

  1. I totally agree with you that personally I wouldn't let Olivia on her phone whilst on a day out or holiday like this. i have paid for the experience and want her to have that experience. When i was on holiday in Devon, during the evening entertainment I watched a dad setting up tablets for his boys and wondered why when a show was on in front of them. But then I realised I didn't know his situation. why the boys needed the tablets or what he had been through that day. i thought what if he was a single dad on holiday with his boys and this was the only way to keep them out of the caravan so he could experience what the holiday had to offer. Sorry for the rambling comment I don't personally like seeing kids on screens all the time but I do appreciate there are some children who meed them for different reasons but at Disney, i would expect I would have felt the exact same way as you. #pocolo

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    1. No I totally get it hun. You're right of course, there are different situations and coping mechanisms and things might have been tough on a particular day. My only thing is when you are in a restaurant and every child you can see is staring at a screen while the adults talk. It makes me very sad. We have always tried to involve our children in our conversations, particularly when you're sitting at a dining table. xx

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  2. Ok this is a hard one for me. I don’t think you should judge anyone’s choices as you have no idea on their personal circumstances. Having been on the end of rude, thoughtless comments about my sons mobile phone usage. I am really quite sick of people looking down their noses at us. Our son’s mobile phone is a lifeline for him and for us and for many families and children with additional needs.
    However, as a teacher I do see the communication skills and social skills of children are becoming a problem especially where parents have used screens as electronic babysitters so I do understand where you are coming from.
    It is sad that when parents mention screens now they feel the pressure to qualify their choices with a phrase like; but he’s only allowed to play for 45 mins a day. I DONT CARE WHAT YOU DO ITS YOUR CHOICE.
    Rant over sorry.
    Thank you for hosting #POCOLO

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    1. No need to apologise for the rant. I want to encourage people's opinions and I totally agree with you that it is up to the parents to make the choice. I do understand that there are children, like your son, that rely on the phone or screen, like you said it's a lifeline.
      For me it is just sad to see most of the children in a restaurant sitting staring at a screen rather than talking to their parents. But it wasn't just the children - and I think that's what I forgot to mention in the post. The parents are setting a bad example by doing exactly the same thing. Like I said above (in response to One Frazzled Mum) I don't mean to judge, that wasn't really my intention, it was more an observation that made me sad. I DO worry for the future of our children, and like you said, as a teacher you see communication skills becoming a problem. I think that's why I felt I had to write the post. It just struck me that so many children were using screens while in Walt Disney World.

      But again, you are right. Everyone should parent the way they see is best. xx

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  3. My first thought was why would you want electronic screens in Disney World. What a waste but then there is children who need them to feel comfortable. I do know if I went to Disney I wouldn't even take the electronics. Well apart from a camera. hehehe #PoCoLo

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    1. I agree with you Kim, there ARE children who need the escape. I know that with all the hectic days in Walt Disney World I did feel the need to escape myself a few times. But I also think they should be encouraged to enjoy the amazing things there. And yes, my camera never left my side! 😂

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  4. I feel that this is happening everywhere, church, restaurants, home, in anyone and everyone's company. Children will lose the proper ability to communicate with those around them soon. There are rules for our young grandchildren and screen time is a special treat time, something which I hope they appreciate well into the future.

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    1. I'm the same, I try to encourage our children to talk to us during mealtimes, and especially when visiting their grandparents. Communication is such an important skill for your entire life and I hope by encouraging my children to speak to people I am helping their future. xx

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  5. we didn't have to restrict screen time when my boys were growing up as they just didn't have mobile phones till they were 14 and then there was no internet access and their credit was just enough to make a call home. We had a DVD player for the car and a couple of hand held games for long journeys or to use when one child was doing an activity and the others had been dragged along to football training or scouts etc. There were no arguments, devices gathered up and locked in the car until the return journey. #pocolo

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    1. We do that kind of thing too - gathering up the devices and leaving them in the car or at home. I know that children these days like to stay connected, either through Facebook, Twitter, or WhatsApp, but I don't think that should come at the expense of talking to people you are actually with. xx

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  6. I think I'd much rather have fun in real life rather than through a phone, but then again mine's often close to hand. But in Disney, kids (and parents) should be disney-ing surely?? :)

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