Post Comment Love 30th September - 2nd October

Welcome back to another Post Comment Love, I'm looking forward to reading all your wonderful posts.

This week has been weird, after last week's super organisation and lots of productivity I seem to have lost my motivation and I haven't been able to focus. So much is happening right now and it's difficult to focus on one thing at a time, but focus I must. I'm determined to get back into a good routine. Hopefully next week will be better.

Sometimes it SUCKS being a woman!

It begins at age 10 or 11 - your body starts to change; hormones cause havoc, boobs grow, and BAM!

You’re a woman.

Just like that.
And it's not as if it happens nicely either. 

How do you know you're finally a woman?

You start bleeding.
From your genitals.


Children's chores and what they teach them about responsibility

I have a list of chores for my boys and every day they have to make their way through the list before they can play games. Not only does giving them chores make my job a little easier but it also teaches my boys about responsibility. 

Making their bed

Both LP and BP have to do this in a morning after getting up. For LP I don't expect him to get it perfect but as long as his quilt is in the right place and neat then I'm happy. BP is expected to make sure his bed is made properly. 

Making their bed is becoming part of their morning routine and teaching them to keep their own things neat and tidy.

Opening their curtains

Letting the morning sun into the bedroom first thing in the morning is the easiest way to wake yourself up. Either before or after making their bed they have to open their curtains, not only does it allow light into the bedroom and help them wake up but it adds to the morning routine. 

Tidying their bedroom

The boys' bedrooms are their own areas, they keep toys in there, they have books they like to read. On occasion their bedrooms end up with toys all over the floor or books piled on the floor. I like them to make sure their bedroom is tidy by the end of the day so that they don't have any trouble getting in or out of bed. If they didn't tidy their room and tried to get up during the night they would probably end up tripping over a toy and hurting themselves.

Taking dirty plates away

While I don't expect my boys to wash the dishes (we have a dishwasher) I do expect them to take their dirty plates into the kitchen. Leaving their plates on the table or on the sofa is not an option. 

Empty their washing basket

Again I don't expect them to wash their own clothes but taking their dirty clothes into the utility room helps me. It makes it easier for me to get through my washing quickly rather than trawling through the house trying to find dirty clothes. My boys do this about once a week or so, they simply carry their basket into the utility room and empty it onto the floor. 

There are certain chores I can't expect LP to do, he's only 7 so he can't do some. BP on the other hand can manage a lot more.


Every few days I'll ask BP to do the vacuuming, while he does that LP will go around and make sure there's no small lego pieces that will get hoovered up. They work together (for the most part) in doing this chore.

Putting the bins out

On bin day I ask BP to put the bins outside the gate, it takes just a few minutes but it helps a lot. 

Getting your children to do chores may sound like a mean thing to do, especially if you're a stay-at-home mum, but it teaches them. My boys realise that I work hard at keeping the house tidy and by keeping their rooms tidy and doing their chores they're helping. They see the work it takes to keep a house tidy, they see the daily routines. 

When they grow up and have a house of their own it will be much less of a shock when they have to do all the chores themselves. By giving your child chores you're teaching them how to take care of themselves when they're older.

Do your children do chores?

Children's chores and what they teach them about responsibility. Do your children do chores?

Best of Worst

Menswear Autumn/Winter Staples

With the cooler weather heading our way and having already featured my Autumn/Winter Style Staples for us ladies I thought I'd list a few for the men too. With these staples you won't need to go shopping every season, these will last and for all the men that hate shopping that's a bonus.

A great jumper is an absolute essential in any wardrobe. This Vivienne Westwood Round Neck Jumper is gorgeous and I can imagine it keeping your man warm on those chilly nights. It's a little pricey, at £155, but for that price you can expect it to last a few years. The jumper is described as lightweight and it has the Vivienne Westwood orb logo embroidered into one of the arms. If this one is not to your liking though there is a huge selection of great jumpers at the Garment Quarter.

How to improve your child's handwriting

LP loves his sports, from football to badminton he likes nothing more than being outdoors running around burning off energy. He's an active boy and enjoys playing sociable games. He also enjoys maths (he relishes a challenge) and reading. LP is an insatiable reader and at bedtime he will often stay up late reading his favourite books. 

The problem is handwriting.

At 7 years old LP's handwriting is not great, his letters are all one size and he will often write letters backwards. When I attended parent's evening at the end of last year his handwriting was one of the things mentioned and his teacher said he needed to work on it. 

LP practises his handwriting every day after school. When trying to get him practising it can be tough to think of things for him to write but over the last few months I've come up with a few ideas.

We need to talk about home improvements

Ok, so when you have a young family to care, for certain things can get pushed down the list. One of these is definitely home improvements. They can seem so overwhelming when there is so much to do already. But actually, a few small changes here and there can make a massive difference in the look and feel of your home. Carry on reading for some information and inspiration.


You can change the look of a whole room, by just updating the window dressings. It can make such a difference. If you would like to get more light into the space, go for a translucent or voil type dressing. This will allow your windows to feel dressed, without compromising on light.

Post Comment Love 23rd - 25th September

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We're well and truly back into the school routine now, LP is loving his after-school clubs and BP is enjoying seeing his friends. LP enjoyed a school trip to Nottingham Castle this week, he was so excited and he learned lots while there. It's so lovely seeing him excited about history. BP continues to push boundaries and stomp about the house when he can't get his own way but sometimes he's such a sweet boy. I love it when he's in a good mood, he's a lot more talkative then and I take the opportunity to listen to him when I can.

Tween issues you'll face as a parent

BP is a tween, he's 12 years old and this time next year he'll be a teenager (OMG!). Over the past few years the Hubby and I have had to deal with a lot of new issues and I'm sure these things will continue to be issues for a few years yet. As your little one grows you'll have to deal with a whole host of new issues and when they hit that tween stage they become more complicated. Here's a few of the issues you'll have to face when you have a tween.


While I hate the thought of BP knowing about sex it has happened. The internet is filled with sex videos, there's all kinds of sites filled with "information" about sex, and his peers will be talking about it constantly. The older he gets the more curious he will be, it's inevitable. 

As his mum I have to come to terms with the fact that he is growing up, it is one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. It doesn't seem right. All I can do is talk to him and hope that he makes the right choices. 


BP doesn't like rules, he doesn't like doing chores, he doesn't like homework, and he doesn't like having to obey. He would much rather sit on his bottom (or lay around) in front of the TV. We have had rows over chores, BP stomps through the house because I've asked him to vacuum the lounge, and there has been tears over homework, but these rules teach him. 

Whether it's chores or homework if you have rules stick to them. While your tween will complain and argue they are learning that there are things in life you have to do. It sounds like a harsh lesson but it will do them good in the long run. 


BP is not good at coping with the emotions and hormones that race through his body. He bursts into tears at the drop of a hat, he can be truly happy for no apparent reason, and he snaps at his brother all the time. It can be amusing watching his moods change from sad to happy after a text from a friend but at the same time it makes us realise how fragile he is right now.

An innocent comment can be taken the wrong way and become a huge deal. Arguing becomes a shouting match. And tears flow.

Tweens are fragile, they're trying to deal with peer pressure at the same as these hormones are causing havoc. It's okay to give them a break.


As their bodies begin to change they need to change their hygiene habits. Starting to use deodorant, being reminded to change clothes and shower often, it's all a part of growing up. I have to remind BP every day about his hygiene. 


Tweens have secrets. Everything is a secret, from friends to going out. While it may seem like they're keeping things from you you have to realise that it is okay for them to have secrets. Respecting their privacy is important, but at the same time you have to make them aware that you'll be there if they need you. 


Their sleep patterns change as they get older. BP's bedtime is 9pm but I know he will often stay awake until at least 11pm either reading or drawing. It is difficult getting him to realise that although he may not feel tired at night he still needs to sleep. Him struggling to get up in a morning has been the cause of a few arguments.

Being strict on bedtimes and trying to ensure they go to sleep at bedtime is all you can do. Whether or not they listen is another matter.


From arguments about bedtimes to rule-breaking your tween is testing their boundaries. They're trying to break out and be their own person. It is a difficult thing to deal with, you want them to be independent but you also want to protect them from anything that might hurt them.

All you can do is be there for them, and make sure they're obeying the rules when necessary!

Are there any issues you've faced with your tween that I didn't mention?

The Perfect Date Night Outfit

As busy parents it's not often that the Hubby and I get to have a proper date night. More often than not, when given the opportunity to go out, we'd much rather stay in watch movies and drink bourbon. But sometimes a night out is just what you both need and with that in mind I thought I'd put together my perfect date night outfit.

Let's start with the dress, because let's face it - it has to be a dress. Being around a UK size 18 at the moment I'm conscious about the type of dress I wear, I know certain styles suit me and certain styles do not. A bodycon dress certainly wouldn't work very well but I have a bigger bust and a V-neck or plunge neckline works. Halter neck is another great choice.

Visiting Chester Zoo

At the start of summer we asked the boys to come up with ideas for things to do during the summer holidays. One of the ideas was to go to a zoo and after a little research we settled on Chester Zoo. It is supposed to be the best zoo in the country with thousands of species of animals.

When we settled on Chester Zoo we worked out that we had to book in advance to get the best deal on price. It’s always a bit of a risk doing that in this country because you can never count on the weather being good. We did book in advance and checked the weather report daily as the day rolled round.

We got up on the day and it was pouring, the skies were dull and there was no sign of the sun. Typical. Of course we couldn’t abandon the trip because of the weather and I did hold out hope that the weather would improve during our journey to Chester.

Building Lego Palace Cinema 10232

Those of you who follow me on Twitter and Instagram will know I'm a huge Lego fan and have been enjoying building a few kits over the last year or so. We purchased the Lego Palace Cinema recently and below you'll find how the build went.


The fun thing with Lego is there's always something intriguing about the build. As you're piecing something together you're guessing what it is. You look at it wondering what on earth it could be, until you place one more piece and all of a sudden it dawns on you what it is. This happened to me with this...

Post Comment Love 16th - 18th September

Welcome back to another Post Comment Love, can you believe we're half way through September already? Where does the time go?

I'm happy to report my tidy kitchen survived the weekend! As did my utility room, the washing mountain is no longer a mountain, just a little hill. I have been tackling my ironing daily and that mountain is reducing too. The state of the house is improving by the day and although I have to do most of the jobs daily I'm slowly tackling bigger jobs. I even tidied my desk yesterday!

I've found that taking the little slots of time where I would usually stand around waiting for the kettle to boil or watch food cooking and using them for attacking my chores I get much more done. The dishwasher gets filled while I make myself a coffee, the washer gets put on while lunch is cooking, and by the time the boys have finished school most of my daily chores are done. 

Tween Independence: how to cope

BP is 12 years old, next year he will be a teenager. Ever since he turned 10 things have been slowly changing for us and in his tween stage he has become more independent. This is partly due to having to start Secondary School and partly because, well, that's what happens. 

This stage of parenting is tough, you have to watch as your child, who once clung to you for security, now ventures out into the big, wide world without you. He/she begins expressing his/her own opinions, voicing problems or worries, and makes mistakes. And all the time there's not a lot you can do about it.

Tween independence is not only a learning experience for the tween but for the parent too. As BP steps into the world and begins his long journey to adulthood I'm learning along the way. I've found it hard to cope with some issues and others have been a breeze. Here are my thoughts...

The Evolution of Parenting

When you first think about having children you don't realise the many stages you will go through as a parent. Right now I'm the mum of two boys and they're both at different stages, one being a tween (12 year old BP) and one being a tween-in-training (7 year old LP).  In the time I've been a parent I've learned about the various stages and they remind me of the many stages of evolution. 

While pondering the stages of evolution and the comparison to parenting I came up with The Evolution of Parenting.


An extinct genus of hominins. Related to apes but walked upright. They had a projecting face, a small brain, and small canine teeth. They had curved and strong fingers, and their S shaped spine allowed for balance when standing.


The first genus of "parenticus". Close to exhaustion, often fails to walk upright. They have half-closed eyes, a half-functioning brain, and a strong stomach for coping with spit-up, vomit, and other bodily functions of Baby. They carry a large bag containing nappy-changing materials and extra baby clothes which causes imbalance when standing. 

Cute anniversary gifts your Hubby will love

Anniversaries can be a great time to celebrate your husband and show him exactly how much he means to you. Unfortunately, buying anniversary gifts for men isn’t quite so easy. He may not be so easily pleased with a box of chocolates and a bunch of flowers! So what do you get that special man in your life? Here are some cute gift ideas.

Men’s Grooming Products

These days, grooming products are a big deal for guys. They now want to look good whenever they go out, as the rough and ready look is slowly going out of fashion. Buying your man a grooming kit would go down very well on your anniversary. But you can also go one step further and treat them to a beauty treatment. In fact, why not spend the day in your local spa together. You can enjoy a massage while he unwinds with one of the many different mens facials on offer.

Post Comment Love 9th - 11th September

Welcome to another week of Post Comment Love, it's September and the boys are back at school. Hands up - who is both relieved and sad?


The quiet, being able to drink a hot coffee in peace, just sitting, these are all things I've enjoyed this week. It's quite a change to the hectic days of the summer holidays, and in some ways they're just as hectic but the craziness is confined to mornings before school. The boys have enjoyed their first week back and they're both loving seeing their friends every day.

I'm back to my morning routine, which is lovely. My washing mountain is reducing (but the ironing pile is growing), my kitchen is clean and tidy, and the lounge is respectable. Every morning I get up and tackle my chores, by 8am it's all done and I can tackle something else. I hope I can stick to this routine but only time will tell, it's rather tiring getting up at 6am and starting on chores straight away. But at the same time it allows me to concentrate on the blog during school hours.

Visiting Hardwick Old Hall

At the start of the year we bought English Heritage Annual Passes, we've done it before and had a blast going around all the local castles and old buildings and now LP is older we decided to do it again.

We'd been to Hardwick Old Hall before and had a wander around the building but we'd never done the audio tour. As it was the holidays we decided to try out the audio tour and not only did we learn a lot but the boys enjoyed it!

As you walk towards Hardwick Old Hall you can't help but note how big the place is. The many windows, much larger than today's, fill each side of the building allowing as much daylight into the building as possible.


With the audio tour playing we walked to our first stopping point. This is where we learnt a little about Bess of Hardwick, she rebuilt the Old Hall in 1587 to make it suitable for her wealth and social position at the time. She was well known and interested in architecture, she used an Italian architecture book as inspiration when she was building.

Visiting The National Space Centre

I should start by mentioning that we have been to Kennedy Space Center: Cape Canaveral. The National Space Centre, while interesting doesn't compare but I tried to keep this in mind when we visited. Just because we'd already been somewhere to do with space exploration didn't mean we couldn't enjoy our time somewhere else so we decided to give the National Space Centre a go. 

The drive there wasn't too bad, it's just over 31 miles from us and we often spend longer than 45 minutes in the car. The boys are used to occupying themselves on car journeys and it ended up being a pleasant drive. 


On arrival we had to pay to park, £3 covers you for the whole day which isn't too bad I suppose. However when I tried to pay the machine wasn't working properly. I tried three times to put my money in and twice it didn't accept it. On the third try it swallowed £2 and didn't register them which meant I had to go to the ticket desk and talk to them about it. The lady behind the counter dealt with the issue and it ended up being a lot less annoying than I thought it would. I simply paid the extra £1, wrote my name and car registration on a list and that was that. 

There's a female Prime Minister. QUICK! She needs a nickname!

I don't normally write about politics but this morning I heard something that annoyed me so much I couldn't not write about it.

Women have been fighting for equality in jobs for an age, whether it's equal pay or just the opportunity to get the powerful jobs, but there's always something to prevent or diminish that equality.

We now have a female Prime Minister for the second time EVER. I am proud to have a woman in the most powerful job in the country. I don't know a lot about Theresa May but her being a woman is going to help a lot of young women realise it is possible to have a job of power.

However, when watching the news this morning I heard that during the G20 summit Theresa May has been dubbed "Aunty May". She has been in the job for a little less than 2 months and she already has a nickname.

There's only one other politician I can think of that had a nickname. 

Coping with weather changes when you're an Asthma sufferer

Asthma is a long-term health condition that affects many people. In fact, it’s calculated that there are 5.4 million sufferers in the UK. If you’ve been diagnosed, you’ll understand how debilitating this condition can be.

The most common asthma symptoms include coughing, wheezing, breathlessness and a tight chest, and there are a number of triggers that can cause your asthma to flare up. For some, changes in the weather can set off symptoms. If you notice that your asthma is particularly bad in certain weather conditions, keep reading. Here are some tips on how you can cope with your health problem despite the changing temperatures.

Hot weather

Some people find that hot weather can worsen their asthma symptoms. It’s thought that as the temperatures rise, breathing in the warm air can cause the airways to narrow, leading to difficulties breathing and coughing fits. Also, on warmer days there is more likely to be an increased amount of pollen, pollution and mould in the air, all of which can set off a person’s symptoms.

Your Child's First Sleepover: The Steps To Take To Prepare Them For It!

With the kids going back to school this week, it’s a reminder for us parents that they’re quickly getting older and growing up. As our children get older, they start wanting to do more and love trying new things. A popular right of passage for all kids is attending their first sleepover. This is something that usually happens when they’re around seven or eight years old.

While a lot of kids are excited about this, it can also be a somewhat daunting experience. However, it’s important that they get used to spending nights away from you, as sooner or later they’ll have a school residential to go on. The good news is that you can help to make their first night away from home an enjoyable one by preparing them properly for it.

Post Comment Love 2nd - 4th September

Welcome to the last Post Comment Love of the summer! How has it been for you? Are you ready for the kids going back to school?

That’s it people, summer is almost at an end. In 3 days the boys will be back at school, I’ll be back into a routine, and the house will be quiet during the day.

This year I have mixed feelings about the end of summer, I’ve enjoyed our time with the boys and spending time together as a family was priceless. But for at least a week now I’ve been looking forward to the boys being back at school. Their bickering is more annoying, they have less patience with each other, and I have less patience with them. Six weeks is a long time and it’s been rather tiring planning days out and arranging time for work too. We’re all ready for a change.

I’m definitely looking forward to some peace and quiet. Driving home after school drop off, making a hot coffee and being able to drink that coffee while listening to the news uninterrupted sounds dreamy right now.