The honesty of women

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Today is International Women's day and as a result I saw a BBC News broadcast this morning as they hosted Gillian Anderson chatting about her new book. This post is not about the book or about what they said. While they chatted they happened to mention Emma Watson and the recent photo she posed for in Vanity Fair. She (Emma Watson) was portrayed as doing something wrong, and that set me off on a rant to the Hubby about the honesty (or dishonesty) of women.



Why the rant began


The Hubby pointed out that Emma Watson would've been paid for the photograph, she did it to promote both Vanity Fair and herself. Now before you start to bash on me about being proud of other women I am not saying what she did was wrong, what I am saying is she needs to be honest about why she did. To say she posed for the pictures to help women realise they can do whatever they like is simply dishonest, or at least that's how it seems. Posing in that way just adds to the objectification of women. If she said she posed for the photograph because she was paid and it was what she wanted to do I would respect that much more. Because it was her CHOICE.

For me International Women's Day should be about women being Honest. Women making choices. Women helping other women. Women realising that by making a choice and being honest about it helps other women feel more confident.



Celebrities go on TV or pose for magazines and talk about doing things to help other women. But here's the thing... I feel patronised every time. These women, whether they're being honest about their motives or not, are beautiful, rich, and seemingly perfect. I cannot believe for a moment that someone like me could achieve the same as these women. 

Having to look after my family, keep a household running smoothly and trying to write and maintain a blog is hard work. I rarely wear make-up, struggle to find time for a shower even, and spend a lot of my time taking care of other people. I can't simply ask for what I want, I have to consider others, I can't just GO FOR IT. Because if I did my family would be left wondering what was happening. I choose to prioritise my family, that is my CHOICE.





  • I do not wish women to have power over men; but over themselves. 

Mary Shelley 




Unlike the celebrities I am not beautiful, not in an obvious, in-your-face way, I am not rich (not by a long shot!) and I am certainly not perfect. 

But I am Honest.




Why is honesty important?


To be honest with your fellow women, to really tell them what you think, is tough. There's the constant fear of being judged. If you walk in the street with pink hair women think something must've gone wrong for you to want to do that to your hair, if you're overweight and breathing heavily on the school run other women think you ate too much and you should take better care of yourself. 

Some women don't see the effort that goes into appearing normal. 

That woman with the pink hair may just really love the colour pink and having pink hair makes her happy. She made the choice to have pink hair and it got her noticed. She is being honest, she's putting herself out there and telling the world who she is instead of hiding in a body she hates. 



While I wouldn't have pink hair myself I love that some women choose to do that, it makes me smile every time because I see their honesty without even talking to them. They are who they choose to be.

The women who was breathing heavily on the school run is wearing her running gear. After dropping her kids at school she will run, she will let the wind blow at her face and she will put in the effort. She is doing that because she chooses to. I often see women running near the school and I love to see a heavier girl running. Again it makes me smile and actually it encourages me to be more honest.



Honesty and choice


Allowing women to make choices and be honest about who they are is empowering. It inspires other women. It makes us think anything is possible. 

I wish celebrities would be honest. About it all. If they're struggling with the children and having a bad day - say so! If they're having a heck of a time with PMS then have a duvet day and tell us that's what they're doing. And if they pose for a photograph because they were paid to do so they say that! 

It would be much more empowering to think that Emma Watson CHOSE to pose for that photograph because she could. She didn't do it to empower women, she didn't do it to make a point, she did it because she wanted to. 

Celebrities make choices. They choose to pose for photographs, to star in movies, and to sing their hearts out on stage. They cannot know how difficult it is for regular people but at the same time they deserve to be able to say they're making these choices for themselves.



  • No legacy is so rich as honesty. 

William Shakespeare




International Women's Day should be a time for all women to be honest, to make choices for themselves, or their family, or whatever. 

They should be allowed to be themselves.



So just for today look at other women with compassion. Try to empower each other by being honest, make choices for yourself or your family.

Just be YOU. HONESTLY.

23 comments:

  1. I haven't followed the Emma Watson story but I do agree with you. There's few things more annoying than a celeb justifying their choices by spouting something worthy. (And male celebs are just as bad).

    Why not admit that you did it because you wanted too. Or because you could. Or because they offered so much money it would have been rude not too.

    Or simply say nothing at all as it's none of our business anyway and they don't actually have to justify themselves to us at all.

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    1. So true. I hate to feel like I'm being lied to and I often get that feeling when reading about the celebrities (not that I read about them much!) and their causes. x

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  2. Very well said!
    Most of what celebrities do is for the money and the fame. We all know it so why can't they just be honest about it. I would respect them a lot more for it.
    #PoCoLo

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    1. Thanks Kim. The point is we all do stuff we don't particularly like for the money, it's just that most people have to do a job they don't like, I just wish they'd be honest about it. xx

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  3. For some reason celebrities are looked down upon for making money. They might be getting paid a lot more than us but they still have to do things for that money. You're absolutely right that they should be more honest about that. It's ok to work even if posing for pictures is part of your job. #PoCoLo

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    1. Exactly. I think it's totally wrong they should be looked down on for making money, after all wouldn't we all like to get paid thousands of dollars to pose for a picture? xx

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  4. I find it very hard to relate to so many celebrities. They talk about how they keep fit and healthy, for example, but in reality they have a chef and an army of nannies and stylists. It's hard to relate to people who aren't honest. But on the flip side, they'd probably be criticised if they admitted that too, so can't win whatever they do. For everyone who applauded their honesty there will be someone who criticised them for being focused on money or their appearance etc. Maybe honesty isn't the issue but the fact that women judge each other so much that they don't feel they can be honest?

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    1. You are so right Louisa. To be honest I don't think it's just women, but women do tend to suffer more than men. For me it's about relating to them, especially when, like you said, they have a team behind them doing everything that we all have to do ourselves. xx

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  5. Ohh what a fab post, I would much prefer celebs to be transparent! Thanks for hosting #PoCoLo

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  6. i agree with you over Emma Watson, but i don't have role models so i just skipped past the story and the whole international woman's day, someone is making money from it all and it's not me...lol #pocolo

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    1. Hehe, thanks Suzanne. I believe that anyone who is in the public eye ought to be honest about their motives rather than trying to make out it's about "feminism" or something else. xx

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  7. Honesty should always be present not just for a day. I didn't see the news feature but feel she shouldn't have been cast as Belle. #PoCoLo

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    1. I couldn't agree more Helena. I wasn't particularly bothered by the casting of her as Belle, for me it was more about the hype behind the photo rather than the casting. To be honest I do like her, I just wish she wouldn't try to make out it's about anything more than money. xx

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  8. I feel that if Watson was honest and said she simply posed for the money and that she wanted to do it, everyone would be screaming about how awful she is, since our society tends to hate women who come across as self-loving and self-centered, no matter how honest they are. A celeb can never win, especially as a woman.

    I'm on the fence about Watson's photo. I feel that it's not wrong for a woman to love her body and really OWN it, whatever she's wearing. To be honest, I find the photo empowering if it was Watson's choice and she felt good doing it. There are things that objectify women far more than that photo does.


    Okay, that's enough for me pondering tonight :P I love when women are honest. It truly makes me happy!


    #PoCoLo
    www.goddess-within.me

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    1. Your right Mary, the photo didn't bother me, it was about the honesty, or dishonesty, surrounding her motives to do the photo shoot. Yes, people would scream and shout about how awful she is, but in this day and age people ought to realise that's why the celebrities do the job. It's certainly not about changing the world (although that does sometimes happen later). xx

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  9. I haven't really followed the Emma Watson thing and I don't 'read' celeb mags or watch 'reality' TV because I can't stand people being fake. End of! Great post Morgan and thanks for hosting #pocolo

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    1. I don't really either Carol, I happened to see it on BBC News one morning. :) xx

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  10. I didn't follow the story, so can't comment too much but I definitely agree with the other sentiments in your post. #pocolo

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  11. I completely agree with you, sometimes transparancy goes a long with and gets a lot more respect from the public! #PoCoLo

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  12. I agree it should just be about choice. Though actually, in the only comment I saw from Emma Watson about the photo fuss, that was what she said. She just said that it wasn't inconsistent with feminism because the point of feminism is to have choice, and she chose it, controlled it & benefited from it. Agree about the honesty. #PoCoLo

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