Are You The You You Want To Be?

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When was the last time you asked yourself that question?


When was the last time you thought about yourself?


Mama_andmore, one of the hosts of #AllAboutYou, tweeted me yesterday reminding me about the linky. At the time I'd been wondering what to write. I thought about Zaz (aka mama_andmore) and her recent adventures with training to be a yoga teacher. I considered my own life and my never-ending love-hate relationship with my novel. And I thought about You. Yes, you. I wondered if you're happy with who you are.

Throughout my years I have, more often than not, been unhappy with 'me'. Whether being overweight, awkward or just plain bored, there was always something that felt off.



Teenage Years:  Ah yes, the time when you don't know who you are, or even who you're trying to be. I was unhappy, stressed and awkward. I had bad hair, had no style and no idea what I wanted to do with my life.


Young Parent Years:  Oh boy this time was stressful. Unsure I was doing it right and afraid I would harm my child. I stumbled through parenting and being a housewife while the Hubby worked in an office every day. I hated being at home alone, I hated having to do chores and didn't think I was a capable mother.


Today:  Well, lets see... I'm a healthy weight. I've struggled with my weight for years, done the yo-yo dieting and never been able to keep a consistent weight. These days I can. I have sustained my current weight (give or take a pound or two) for more than a year. I enjoy daily walks with friends. I'm a confident mother (most of the time) and love both my children.



It has taken time (and money) to make myself happy. Diets, gaining a love/like of exercise and most of all spending time writing. Creating worlds and characters is my purpose. It doesn't make me any money (yet) but I love to do it. I am now the me I want to be.

Healthy, happy and writing.

When was the last time you spent money on yourself? Or even time? Think about it. We, as mothers, spend our every waking moment considering others. Children and partners come first but that doesn't leave much for yourself. Sometimes it's okay to spend time and money (shock/horror!) on yourself.

Soak in a hot bath. Enjoy a hot cup of tea or coffee. Or perhaps invest in a future you, the you you've always wanted to be. Take that course to learn something new, apply for that job you know you're right for. Do it for YOU.

So let me ask you again...

Are you the you you want to be?


Mama and More

10 comments:

  1. Ooh now that is a thought provoking post and for me at the moment it is a resounding no! (long story not enough space and I would probably bore you to death). The way I look at things at the moment is that I am not but there are so many good things in my life that I should't complain but maybe one day I will be able to change things.

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  2. You could never bore me Nikki! I think as long as you're happy about some things in your life then that's okay. But you should definitely allow some time for yourself, even if it's only for a hot cuppa! And if you ever need a chat (or a good old moan!) I'm here. :) xx

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  3. Oh I LOVE this post! I could have written it myself!!!! Zaz is so inspirational isn't she? I was just thinking yesterday how I never do anything for myself, before Thomas was born I at least went to the gym or go running (which I love) nearly everyday. But I haven't been in months! I've got my hair cut twice since he was born 17 months ago....and I've brought no new clothes, shoes or bags (shock horror) ... I am going to spoil myself in the January sales....AND even get a hair cut over Christmas....and remember to book Thomas into the creche at the gym every Tuesday for an hour so I can go to a class once a week and also try to get outside more with Thomas everyday! there, I've written it down- I must do it now :) I'm so glad I've found your blog! #allaboutyou

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    1. Ah Thank Susan. I'm glad you liked the post, we all need to consider our own needs as well as the rest of the family. We often forget and do ourselves an injustice. We are often happier when we get the chance to do something for ourselves, as a consequence everyone else is happier too! Do it - go to the gym, have that hair cut and get outside with Thomas. You'll all benefit! Glad you found my blog too! ;)

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  4. It's so easy to get caught up looking after everyone else and forget yourself. I know I have dine that until I started blogging :) Thanks for linking #allaboutyou

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    1. It really is. It's great to have something just for yourself isn't it? Even that 20 minutes writing a post can be a great release. :)

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  5. This is just such a perfect pose for All About You Morgan, it's exactly what I hope that people think about with the linkup - well maybe at least a few people! We are worth it, we need the space to be ourselves, to remember who we were and who we are and what we've gone through to get there. Thankyou so much for writing this and linking to #AllAboutYou

    xx

    Mama-andmore.com

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    1. Thank you Zaz. Too often we forget about making ourselves happy and concentrate on everyone else. Just 5 minutes for ourselves is better than nothing. :)

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  6. LOVE this. It's so important to stop and take stock sometimes, especially at this time of year where everything is frantic and all about everyone else's needs x #allaboutyou

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    1. I totally agree Michelle. This time of year it becomes more important than ever to step back and think of yourself a little too. Thanks for stopping by. xx

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