How well do you know your children?

As a mum I didn't think I would learn much about my children - naive I know. I thought they would grow up and I would know everything there is to know about my children. I'm their mum, they wouldn't keep secrets from me - would they? But this isn't just about my children keeping secrets, it's about learning that I don't know everything about my children - they can surprise me, and do!

It turns out that your children are not people of their own, with their own thoughts and likes and dislikes. Who knew?!



Football


Both the Hubby and I have never liked football, we don't play, we don't support teams, and we certainly don't watch it. It has never been something that interests us and we figured that would be the same for our children. I mean we never exposed them to it so why on earth would they like it?

Except, like I said, they're their own people. LP has proved that with his love of football. From a young age (I think around 4) he's been interested in football. He loves playing it with his friends, he goes to an after-school club to play with a team, and he is even starting to show signs he might want to watch it on the TV. I have absolutely no idea where this has come from. Not once have we encouraged him to like football - in fact I'm sure we've discouraged him at some point - but he likes it nevertheless. And now I couldn't pull him away from it, even if I wanted to. He surprised us recently by telling us he wants a football kit he can wear when he's playing in the after-school club - this is not something we ever thought we'd have to do!





Parents were invented to make children happy by giving them something to ignore. 

Ogden Nash





Writing


Okay so when I think about this one it's not so much of a surprise as the football was, but it has surprised me how talented my boys are. I write every day, I spend time at the computer tapping away and both boys know how much I love writing, so it's not a surprise that my eldest, BP, enjoys it too.

BP has a few short stories he's written the past few months and I have to say that his talent shines through. Yes, okay, I am a little biased but I have been blown away by some of his work. He has an expression in his words that has always eluded me and he can conjure images easily using words. Now obviously he is still young and some of the paragraphs need work but I still think he's a talented writer.



Grown up or still a child?


I have to constantly remind myself that LP is still just a boy, or rather LP is reminding me. LP has an "old head on his shoulders" - he often acts older than his years but there are times when he plays and it occurs to me that he is still only 8 years old. He can hold intelligent conversations with us, he discusses economics and complicated maths, but then he will go and play on his bouncer or get out his toy cars and play for 30 minutes or so completely engrossed in a game that he's made up. In fact we were talking the other day about how he still plays with his teddy bears in his bedroom when he can't sleep. He makes up games for them and gets them to play.


A boy of 8, wearing a white Batman t-shirt and blue jeans with white trainers and a baseball cap on his head, is pretending to do tightrope walking along a wooden barrier than lines a pathway. The boy is holding his arms out to his sides to balance himself. The sun is shining down through the shades of overhead trees. There's the trunk of a large tree in the background. Image for "How well do you know your children?"


And the same goes for BP, while he's 13 now he is still very much a child. Yes he has more complicated emotions these days and an outburst from him can mean anything from he wants extra goodies to he's had his heart broken by a girl, but he is still a child. He likes having fun with his brother, he likes playing board games, and sometimes he wants to sit quietly and watch a movie.

It's so easy to get whisked up in them growing up that you don't realise they're still young children at heart. And it's not a bad thing to let them be young children for a while longer.



Two peas in a pod?


My boys are nothing alike. They've had the same upbringing but they couldn't be more different - chalk and cheese as they say. While BP is quiet and likes to sit and do nothing, LP is chatty and likes to stay active - he can't stay in one place for very long. BP can sit and write for hours, he likes his quiet times and the thought of going on a bike ride fills him with dread. When I think about it he's a lot like me. LP on the other hand craves activity and fun, he wants to be doing something all of the time whether that's going for a bike ride with his dad or playing football in the garden on his own. BP likes alone time, and LP wants fun with friends.

Yes, they're brothers - they have the same parents - but that's where the similarities end.





Everyone knows that if you've got a brother, you're going to fight. 

Liam Gallagher




When you have children I don't think you really consider the massive life decision you're making. You are signing up to watch a piece of you (and your partner) grow up, change in ways you never saw coming, and make mistakes. You are going to watch that person become a person in their own right, they'll have their own likes and dislikes and they may not match your own. That's where the real learning comes in too - because when your children like the things you always hated you have to suck it up. You have to get involved.

So yes, parenting is a true learning experience - and it lasts a lifetime!

An image for pinterest, a young boy walks along a short wooden fence, using his arms out by his sides to balance. Over the top of the photo there is a black square with the words "How well do you know your children?" inside it. At the top of the image there's a logo for "Morgan's Milieu" and at the bottom of the page it reads www.morganprince.com


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48 comments

  1. I would like to think I know my daughter pretty well but I do understand what you’re saying. Being a parent is a complete whirlwind sometimes. You are watching your little one become their own little person in their own right, they'll have their own likes and dislikes that don’t always match my own.

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    1. Exactly. I think they change more when they're older - when they keep secrets and start to do things you never expected. :)

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  2. L always finds ways to surprise me. A new phrase or skill he's picked up without my knowledge #Bloggersbest

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    1. Sometimes they're great surprises aren't they? And sometimes... 😉

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  3. I think it is important that you acknowledge these differences and do what you can to support them. It is easy to be supportive when your kids love what you love. It takes a great deal more effort to learn about and embrace what they love, even when it bores you to tears.

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    1. I totally agree! You're right, it is really easy to support the things you like, not so much with the things you don't. I've stood at the side of a football pitch freezing and getting rained on while LP runs around with a giant smile on his face!

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  4. I think all my 4 are different to each other, they are always full of surprises. It is amazing how quickly they grew up too. My Daughter is my baby but in other ways she is so grown up. Thanks for sharing at the Wednesday blog hop Morgan. Hope your Son gets to school to wear his World book day costume :)

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    1. Thanks Claire. And yes, he did get to wear his outfit - although it wasn't until today (Tuesday 6th March!).

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  5. Oh I can't wait for my little one to get a bit older and independent and start seeing what she loves and what she excels in. Such a sweet post!
    Thanks for sharing at #ThursdayTeam

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    1. Thanks! It's certainly an interesting time watching them grow. 😊

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  6. My girls are so different in their own way and as parents we accept that they have their own personalities and growing up to be individuals. Being 11 and 8, they now have full on conversations with us about various things from social to what is currently happening in the world. And you are so right, we sometimes forget that they are just children and don't fully understand everything. As for their interest - both of them are so talented in art and very creative - something that they didn't get from us as both myself and husband can't draw to save our lives.#fortheloveofBLOG

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    1. This sounds like my boys so much. I love the conversations we have. 😊

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  7. My boys are as different as night and day! They don't even share the same blood type! Haha!
    I totally agree with Sheltie Times - it's important that we acknowledge these differences and do what we can to support them.

    #FabFridayPost

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  8. We only have one child and so far she is so like both of us in different ways but I am guessing in an alternate universe if we had another they would be totally different. Food for thought! Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub with this Morgan x

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    1. Thanks Talya, yes you're right. I thought that when BP was born, but he's changed a lot, and then we had LP and he's completely different!! :)

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  9. I think I know my three pretty well. Their interests change a lot.

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  10. It really is fascinating to watch our kids develop their utter individuality. We have a daughter and a son and the differences between them are not just boy/girl things, they are different in such distinctive ways. They are people, I guess!!! #ThatFridayLinky

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    1. So true Enda. I am constantly amazed by how much they change and how much I learn from and about them. :)

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  11. It's amazing how children of the same parents can be so different. I agree, having children changes everything. I had no idea. Everything before children is like different life or something! I love this post. Thanks for sharing and for linking up with us #FabFridayPost

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    1. Thanks Sarah. You're so right too, before children certainly does seem like a different life!

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  12. Great to share this - it's got me thinking about how different my brother and I are.

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  13. Up until now, my daughter has never surprised me, she is actually pretty similar to how I was at her age. She loves to write stories too which I love #pocolo

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    1. Aw that's great hun! I'm sure she'll surprise you at some point (they always do!) but it's great that she's like you - at least you'll be able to "get" her more than if she was nothing like you. :)

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  14. Great post- the thing which has most surprised me in our house is how utterly all-encompassing the dinosaur obsession is... wow, have I learned a lot of big words! #thelistlinky

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    1. Haha! Oh boy I remember those days! BP was totally obsessed with dinosaurs for such a long time - even now he has a huge dinosaur print on his bedroom wall and he's 13! I remember when he was just 2 years old he used to line up all his dinosaurs on our dining table and name them. :)

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  15. Well I know what they are like at home but they are totally different at school, that is what I have learnt anyway X #pocolo

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    1. Oh totally. I have no doubt that my two are completely different again when at school!

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  16. Ahhh what a fab post, I like to think I know my 2 but to be honest they constantly surprise me and make me question if I do know them haha. Thanks for linking up a great post to this weeks #BloggersBests

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    1. Haha yes that sounds familiar. Wait til they're teens! ;)

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  17. I am surprised by my kids all the time. I actually have a post called Raising Girls - There's So Much I Don't Know. Things surprise and amaze me about my girls growth and development. And about how different they are from each other! Luckily they like to share with me their thoughts and feelings (most of the time!)
    ~Jess
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    1. Oh that's good Jessica, that they share with you. My eldest, BP, shares sometimes - he has to be in the right mood though!

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  18. I've said a few times that one of my favourite parts of being a parent is getting to know my children, discovering who they are, what they like, where their natural talents lie. Both my children have surprised me at times, and I'm looking forward to seeing and getting to know the people they grow into as they get older! x #TheListLinky

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    1. Exactly Madeline! I do love getting to know my boys and the people they're becoming. While it's sometimes stressful and worrying it can also be such fun!

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  19. The surprises don't stop! My are now 22, 19 & 15...and as their lives expand I know less and less, but also more and more. Yes, I know, barmy! Thanks for sharing on #PoCoLo

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    1. Hehe, I get you Claire. Wow, I can't imagine my two being those ages... Well, I suppose BP is almost 15 but that's about as far as my imagination will stretch at the moment! 😂

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  20. Yes so very true. My two are totally different in terms of personality. And I find they do and say things that surprise me every single day! Thanks for sharing with #fortheloveofBLOG

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    1. Totally hun! And they will continue to too!

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  21. It's so true that siblings can be very different. My daughter's are already showing different personalities and I wonder what things they may come to like that hubby and I have no desire over. #BlogCrush

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    1. It is strange that LP likes football - we have never encouraged it. But now he's made his decision we let him play and take part in the things he wants. Even if it's something you don't like personally you do all you can to let them enjoy things. :)

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  22. The football thing made me smile as it reminds of my little brother - he is the youngest of 3 and we were a family who didn't watch any sport or play any sport, and yet he LOVED football. He talked about it all the time, played it, memorised stats and scores, and as an adult, he still plays regularly and teaches P.E. in a school! We still have no idea where that came from! Hahaha. #blogcrush

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    1. Haha I totally get that! That is SO like LP. He hasn't memorised stats and scores yet but he loves playing. :)

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  23. As someone who is a very different person to how my Mum was it comes as no surprise that my boys are in some ways very different to me ... and as they grow older there may well be plenty I do not know about them - or things that surprise me. It's all part of letting them be their own people and at 14 and 16 they are clearly becming their own individuals. #Pocolo

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    1. I totally agree Rosie, although it's a tough thing to do - to let them go!

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  24. Such an interesting post, my girls are three and one but I can already see my three year old learning things I am surprised about at preschool. I think they are also going to be very different! Thanks for linking this to #thursdayteam

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    1. No doubt Sarah! I think life would be far too easy if our children were the same! ;)

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