The Liebster Award

Being a housewife and mother I find it hard to find the time to write. Sometimes I go more than a week without writing a word and that means I get irritable. Writing has become my stress relief and it really works. When I’m writing I can feel the stress melting away and I feel like me again. Unfortunately this doesn’t happen often enough, with cleaning the house, potty training a 2 year old and feeding the hubby time seems to slip away and I find that there’s no time left for writing. As a consequence I’ve had to give myself a routine for blog posts, this way I can have time to think about what to write and I (hopefully) don’t run out of things to write about. 

Well this week I have been given something to write about by Jack Flacco. It’s called the Liebster Award and is given to bloggers with less than 200 followers. Hopefully this gives those bloggers more attention. I’d like to thank Jack for giving me this award, he made me a very happy lady! Writer of The Necklace and a supporter of all writers, Jack Flacco is currently writing his second book. Check out his blog, I promise you will be entertained.

The rules of engagement for this award:
  • Thank the person that nominated you on your blog and link back to them.
  • Nominate up to five other blogs for the award.
  • Let them know via a comment on their blog.
  • Post the award on your blog.
My nominations are:

Rod Tyson
Christine Benson
Susan May
The Highly Unlikely Housewife
Rebecca @ Here Come the Girls

So, after going to pick up my eldest from school I’ll have a couple of hours (maybe) to get some writing done. Maybe I’ll get another chapter finished. Or maybe the kids will end up fighting and I’ll close the laptop and go yell at them then give up and tidy the house instead. Who knows. What I do know is that I will write at some point and I will finish this book. I will also continue to blog, it won’t be as often as I’d like but I will keep at it. We all have to make sacrifices to get the things we want and I think mine will be time. Time from cleaning or time from the ironing, maybe I could get the hubby to do the ironing instead, what do you reckon? No I don’t think so either but I can dream.

An Exciting Journey

This time last year I was scared, I'd started to think about my future. My youngest son is almost 3 and starting nursery in September. I realised this is the first time since having my eldest, who is seven, that I've been able to think about myself. I began to wonder what I would do. The last time I had any time to myself I was pregnant so it seemed pointless starting anything. I have no plans for any more children (two is enough) so the time will be mine.

Morgan's Milieu | An Exciting Journey: Hiking in the mountains.

After spending all of my time for the last eight years looking after children I was pleased I would have some time for me but there was a terrible dread. Would I turn into a neat freak, spending all my free time cleaning the house?

At the time I was reading a book called The Heat, the first book in a series of four called The Big Bad Wolf Series by Heather Killough-Walden. She is a very talented writer who I admire a lot. She is also a mother.

When I'd finished reading one of Heather's blog posts I had an epiphany. I realised Heather was a real person too. She has problems just like everyone else but she manages to do something she loves and touch people's lives. I thought about myself, about my life and what I intended to do with it. Something seemed to fall into place and I wondered if I could do that. Could I write a book? Ever since I can remember, I wanted to write but didn't. My self-doubt had always held me back, I didn't think I was capable and with all those millions of books out there, why would someone read mine?

Then came Amazon. They opened up the world of writing to me. Amazon and the Kindle made me realise that I could write a book and publish it myself. My husband told me about someone called John Locke who'd managed to publish books himself and was doing quite well. John Locke has written lots of books now but at the time there were five. Having read his book How I Sold 1 Million eBooks in 5 Months! I challenged myself. I was going to try and write a book.

I spent weeks expanding one simple idea into a story. I planned the plot and twists and spent time getting to know my characters. I didn't start writing until I had everything in and it felt right. This was the most painful part, I wanted to start writing straight away but knew that if I did I would end up in a muddle, not knowing where I wanted the plot to go or what my characters should be doing. When I eventually started writing it went quicker than I'd imagined and within a few months I was finished.

In the years I've spent looking after the children and taking care of the housework I've not had much to be proud of (apart from my children) but when I wrote those two words, I felt wonderful. The End. Wow! I had cobbled together random thoughts and created a story. I had written a novel. Me, a lowly housewife!

However, I couldn't put my finger on it but the story wasn't right. It seemed forced and I felt like I was chasing the crowd so I decided to move on. After taking some time away I had a flash of inspiration for a new story and realised I'd been writing the wrong genre. Leaving my previous story behind I began the planning for my new one. Again it took a while but I'm writing chapter 12 today. I'm not going to publish that first story but it's something I can look at when I'm feeling down and be proud.

I'm still learning and writing as much as I can and sometimes it's hard squeezing it in between housework and taking care of the kids, but I've found something for me. Something that is all mine. I have my self-confidence back and I feel good. I took a terrifying step into a world I know nothing about, but you know what? I'm excited!

Looking back I can see that I wasted too much time thinking about what I couldn't do and not enough time imagining what could happen if I did something. The voice inside my head had been saying "Who do you think you are? You couldn't do anything worthwhile!" and that was holding me back. It is so fulfilling to jump into the unknown and find something you know you ought to have been doing all along. Don't write yourself off just because you're a stay-at-home mum or dad. There will come a time when those young children are at school and you too will wonder what to do, if you're not already. I'm urging you to take that step. Find the thing that makes you happiest and do it. Embark on a scary but exciting journey. You never know what you will achieve. And who knows... Maybe we could help each other along the way?

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