Post Comment Love 18th - 20th October

Post Comment Love is here to brighten your weekend with posts from you, me, and other bloggers. Stephanie and I love to see you linking up each week and are looking forward to seeing what you've got in store for us this week. The linky opens every Friday and is open throughout the weekend. Will you be joining us?

It's been quite a busy week this week, I've had something on after school almost every day. That makes it quite an unusual week for me. It'll be nice to get to the weekend and chill out for a while!

We've had days checking out colleges for BP, parents evenings, and a meet up with a friend. It's weird though, I kind of enjoyed it. Keeping busy meant I had to keep track of what I was doing every day and I actually managed to get more done than in a normal week.

I've also had to get ready for half term - and this time it's two weeks instead of one. Our district has decided to change the school holidays from this year. So we have two weeks for October half term, and 5 weeks for the summer. LP will be going to a kids club during the break, which he loves, and I'll be taking him to our local play centre too. With BP being older he's made his own plans and I'm sure he'll be seeing friends and chilling out at home when he can. Half term starts next week for us.



Are you doing anything good for half term?



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10 things to do during half-term

After the long summer holidays the October half-term can whizz by without you leaving the house but with a little planning you (and your children) can have as much fun during half-term as you did in the summer.

All those activities you did during the summer are still valid, you just have to prepare for colder weather. 


Chester Zoo


We visited Chester Zoo in the summer holidays, the day we chose to go it poured with rain but it didn't make much difference to our day. We took coats and an umbrella and wandered around the zoo. The great thing was that the weather had put people off so there were less people than would've been there if it had been sunny. That meant we could walk around and see the animals without lots of people blocking LP's view. Chester Zoo even have an indoor picnic area so you can still take a picnic with you. Win!



10 Things To Do During Half-Term | Visit Chester Zoo to see the tigers.
I love seeing the tigers - they're so majestic.



Chester Zoo is open from 10am until 5pm every day apart from Christmas Day and Boxing Day. During half term the entry prices go up a little, for a family of four (children aged 3-15) with all day monorail passes (adult: £3.50, child: £2.50) it costs £83.80. This may sound like a lot of money but it is so worth it, your family will have a wonderful day at Chester Zoo and you'll give your children the chance to see tigers, leopards, and rhinos!





An animal's eyes have the power to speak a great language.

Martin Buber




Hardwick Hall


Hardwick Old Hall is run by English Heritage and I would highly recommend the audio tour when visiting. You learn so much about the history of the building and Bess of Hardwick and your children may even enjoy wandering around such an old building. When we visited the boys had a great time and they still talk about it now. Being able to walk around the Old Hall while listening to someone talk about the history is a much more practical way of learning and it works wonders on the children!



10 Things To Do During Half-Term | Visit Hardwick Old Hall and learn about history.



You can also visit the New Hall which is run by the National Trust. We have yet to visit the New Hall but I've heard great things about it. 

For a family ticket (2 adults, 3 children) to visit Hardwick Old Hall it costs £15.60 and for a family ticket to visit Hardwick Hall and walk around the house and gardens it costs £32.75.



Calke Abbey


Calke Abbey is a home trapped in time, it is filled with historical artefacts and walking around the house is both interesting and strange. From grand halls to spooky corridors Calke Abbey has it all. Visiting the Abbey in the colder months is fine because there's things to see indoors, but there's also Calke Explore for the children. At Calke Explore there's log trails, rope walks, and climbing areas to keep the children busy.



10 Things To Do During Half-Term | Visit Calke Abbey and venture into the woods.



For a family ticket to visit the whole property at Calke Abbey costs £31.90.



Nottingham Contemporary


If it's art you like I'd recommend Nottingham Contemporary, there's always something on for the children to enjoy and you get to see lots of art. Visiting Nottingham Contemporary would probably take up a morning, so you don't need to plan for an all day thing, and best of all entry is FREE.



Blackpool


We love Blackpool, while it's quite far away the boys love travelling for the day and walking along the beach or going in the arcades. Visiting Blackpool can be as cheap or as expensive as you like, there's the Sealife Centre, the Blackpool Tower, and Madame Tussauds to visit too. Not to mention all the seafront stores filled with candy floss!

All I would say is prepare for the cold. If you're used to being inland (Midlands) then going to the coast during the colder months might come as a shock. It can get very cold during autumn/winter so make sure you take scarves, gloves, and a warm coat.



The Heights of Abraham, Matlock


10 Things To Do During Half-Term | The Heights of Abraham are a great place to visit with your kids.


See amazing views, walk through the caves, and wander around the town. If you're based in the Midlands it's a great place to visit and won't necessarily take up the whole day. There's a restaurant if you require one but the most interesting part of visiting Matlock is the caves. Be sure to check them out.



Picnics


The weather might not be great but that doesn't mean you can't enjoy a picnic, all you need to do is make sure you prepare for the wetter, colder weather. Perhaps take a small tent with you so you can all sit inside and eat your food, take a flask filled with hot chocolate, and wrap up warm with coats and scarves. Oh yes, and don't forget to take a board game so you can have fun despite the weather.



Visit a local restaurant




10 Things To Do During Half-Term | Get out and enjoy a good meal at your favourite restaurant.


As a treat during the half term why not take your children to a restaurant? In Nottingham there are so many to choose from and it really depends what kind of food you're after. If you'd like to try something new you could try Thaikhun or if you want something different check out Barburrito



Trick or Treating


Of course during the half term you must prepare for Halloween. Costumes can be a pain, especially for boys but it's all part of the fun. Decorate your home with pumpkins, cobwebs, and skeletons, and make sure you have lots of sweets in the house ready for other little monsters who come a'knocking.





When black cats prowl and pumpkins gleam, may luck be yours on Halloween.


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Movie Night


As it's the October half-term you can prepare a scary movie night for you and your children. Movies like Goosebumps, Ghostbusters, or even The Witches are great for a Halloween themed movie night. Snuggle up together beneath a blanket, with popcorn and spooky treats at the ready, and enjoy a brilliant movie night as a family.



10 Things To Do During Half-Term | Enjoy a movie night in the house.



Whether you're an active family or prefer to spend time at home there's always something to do.


Is there anything you'd add to my list?

9 Self-Care Activities You Can Do in 10 Minutes

Making time for self-care activities when you're a mum can be tough. With kids running riot during the day, and the chores and your partner wanting your attention at night, it's easy to see that finding time for yourself is difficult. But you can spend time on yourself with these 9 self-care activities you can do in 10 minutes!





There is no picturesque version of what self-care looks like; it's different for every person who wants to practice it.

Jenna Wortham





Take a shower




9 Self-Care Activities You Can Do In 10 Minutes | Take a shower and you'll feel a ton better!
Taking a shower can make you feel like you again.



A quick shower can do wonders for your mood. Washing away the stress and strain just getting 10 minutes to take care of yourself can set you up for the day. Whenever I get a chance for a shower it's like the sun is shining. The water flows over me and I smile because it's time just for me, no one bothers me and I'm completely alone.



Write in your journal


9 Self-Care Activities You Can Do In 10 Minutes | Write about your day in your journal.


Journaling can really help with your mental health, or even just to get ideas out of your head so you don't feel so cluttered. Whenever I feel overwhelmed by everything I write, I get the ideas and thoughts out of my head and when I take the time to do that I feel so much better. We spend so much time thinking about everyone else and storing information in our head that we can get "clogged up" and suffer as a result. Take 10 minutes for self-care, get things out of your head occasionally, and you might find yourself smiling a little more.



Put on make up


This could be a full face of make up or just a little lipstick. I don't do full face make up, it would take me hours, but I do like to wear a little mascara and shiny lip balm. These days, as I get older I need highlighter under my eyes too so I don't look so tired. But to be honest I like to keep it simple. Just using those three things I feel loads better. I don't have to spend ages putting on make up and I get that little boost to my confidence - even if I'm not going anywhere.



Paint your nails




9 Self-Care Activities You Can Do In 10 Minutes | Take some time to paint your nails!
I always enjoy painting my nails - it makes me feel good.



Like I said I'm not much for the beauty stuff, but I do like to paint my nails regularly. Somehow it just makes me feel good. I don't spend hours in a salon having my nails done, it's just normal nail polish (I like Rimmel Super Gel) and I do it myself. When I get 10 minutes I spend it on one of my favourite self-care activities - I paint my nails. Then, even though the rest of me may look shocking, I can look at my hands and smile, because at least something is nice and put together. 



Do your hair


If you're anything like me you get up in a morning give your hair a quick brush and then throw in back in a hairband or quick bun. Most of the time I like my hair to be out of the way, up off my shoulders and tied back so it doesn't get in the way when I'm cleaning. But sometimes I'll take the time to "do" my hair. And no, I don't spend ages on that either. Just 10 minutes is all I need to put some mousse in my hair, scrunch it up, and leave it. That's it. 



9 Self-Care Activities You Can Do In 10 Minutes | Do your hair, it'll make you feel a little better.



I've got curly hair, well wavy really, but I don't like to spend ages messing about with hairdryers and special products so all I do is bung some mousse in, scrunch, and done. And to be honest I love how my hair looks when I do that. 

Why not take 10 minutes for yourself and make your hair look nice? It's amazing the difference it can make when you can look in the mirror and say "huh, my hair looks good today!".



Meditate


If you can find 10 minutes this self-care activity can really help. Simply sitting in the quiet and breathing is therapeutic. It helps you let go of the things the aren't important, it helps you focus, but most of all it helps you centre yourself. 





I like to sit in my backyard. I go out on the hammock and sit in silence and kind of meditate. Nature is calming, and it's nice to go out there and clear my head.

Devon Werkheiser





The thing with the word "meditate" is that if you're anything like me you imagine sitting cross-legged with your hands out to your side, forefinger and thumb making a circle, saying the word "om". And it makes you giggle. But meditation isn't about finding the right pose, it's about getting a little time to sit and basically do nothing. To clear your mind, concentrate on your breathing, and calm yourself. When I get the chance (which isn't often) I do like to sit on my bed, eyes closed, and just clear my mind. I sit and breathe, and do nothing else. It's a calming experience and can really help with those hectic days.



Read a chapter


Nothing says "me time" like sitting to read a chapter of your favourite, or current, book. Taking 10 minutes for this self-care activity is not only helping you get time for yourself but depending on the book you're reading you could also be working on improving yourself (not that you need improving!). I'm currently reading The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F***: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life by Mark Manson and it's quite different to my usual reads - like Me Before You by Jojo Moyes. My book is opening my eyes to my own thoughts and actions and I'm making small changes in my thought processes to try to improve things. That's not to say I think I need improving, just that the book has helped me see some bad habits I've got into. 



9 Self-Care Activities You Can Do In 10 Minutes | Read a chapter of your book - a great escape.
Escape adulting and delve into your favourite story.



Reading is a way of letting go of the day-to-day stuff. To escape, if you're reading fiction, into a far off land where you watch the lives of other people (or creatures). You broaden your horizons, you go on adventures, and experience all the emotions that go along with it. And taking the time to read during the colder months is brilliant because you can snuggle under your favourite fleecy blanket with a hot coffee and your book!



Colour in




9 Self-Care Activities You Can Do In 10 Minutes | Colour in with your kids, you'll both have fun!



A while ago adult colouring seemed to take off in a huge way, and while it seems to have died down again I think it's a great way to spend 10 minutes. The other thing about colouring is that you can involve the kids too! Give them a colouring page, grab your own colouring book or page, and get colouring. It's a great way to spend time with your kids but you're also getting that all important self-care time.



Waste time


Whenever I look at self-care activities that people suggest it almost always consists of taking care of yourself activities like the ones above. It's about making sure you get time to make yourself feel better. But sometimes what you actually need is just time to switch off - to stop being mum, even if just for 10 minutes, and to "waste" time. To be able to sit and mess about for a while instead of feeling like everything is your responsibility and you have to be an adult all the time. 



9 Self-Care Activities You Can Do In 10 Minutes | Grab your iPad and have some fun!
Spend some time on your favourite game.



That's why my last self-care activity is to waste time. Grab your iPad (or other tablet), download a game, and waste 10 minutes. Play games, do a puzzle, whatever it is you like to do. There are lots of games I use to waste my time and at the moment I like Merge Dragons (on the iPad) and Zelda on the Switch Lite. It's nice to just switch off and be me.

To be honest you don't have to play games, however you like to "waste" your time - do that. Because it's all about letting go of the responsibility of adulting. Let it all go for 10 minutes and you'll feel so much better!



9 Self-Care Activities You Can Do In 10 Minutes | Got a spare 10 minutes? Try out these things to look after yourself.



Self-care is an important part of life, and as mums we neglect ourselves far too much. Give yourself 10 minutes per day for self-care activities and you'll soon get into the habit of looking after yourself. Of course there'll be blips in your routine, but that's okay too, as long as you get back to it. The key is learning that it's okay to take care of yourself sometimes.



Further reading


I've been reading about self-care and how we should be looking after ourselves and found a few posts I think you might like. Sara over at Get Mom Balanced shares her ideas for 15 Minute Self-Care: 15 Quick and Effective Strategies. And if you're looking for a quick read full of ideas check out the guys at Good Therapy who have 134 Activities to Add to Your Self Care Plan.



Which self-care activity will you spend 10 minutes on today?



Post Comment Love 11th - 13th October

Hey peeps! Friday again and that can mean only one thing - it's time for Post Comment Love - a little linky hosted by myself and Stephanie. All bloggers are welcome to share their posts with others and read any posts that interest them. Post Comment Love opens every Friday and continues throughout the weekend. Will you be joining us?

I'm still recovering this week, I got flu last week and spent most of the week resting. I thought I was getting better until I tried to go for a walk at the weekend, turns out I'm not as better as I thought. This week I also managed to hurt my hip (oh gosh I sound old!). I've got a trapped nerve, or pulled a muscle, and that means every time I take a step I get a shooting pain through my lower back. Not good when you have chores to do and kids to look after. I'm taking pain killers and hoping it goes away at some point.

I've been spending some time this week helping BP, he's at that stage when he needs to think about A-Levels and even though he hasn't taken his GCSEs yet he still needs to look into next steps. While I would like him to stay at his current school, there's a chance he won't because they may not offer the one A-Level he wants to do. Which means we have to look at colleges too. Living in a small village there aren't many options available so we've been doing lots of research into where he could go.

It's a scary stage of parenting to be honest, because if BP does end up going to a college I have to admit that he's growing up. That he's branching out and it won't be that long before he has a job and is off living his own life. That's quite a sobering thought when you've spent the majority of your adult life taking care of your kids!

Well, that's it from me this week - what have you been up to?



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11 Easy Ways to Empower Your Kids

As parents we tend to get used to making all the decisions for our kids, from when they eat to where they go to have fun we're always in control. It is understandable that our kids might feel disempowered. But there are easy ways you can turn that around and empower your kids - and you can start today!



1. Listen to them


The first thing you need to learn is to listen to your kids. Not just hear them, but actually listen. Pay attention to the words they use, listen to how they express themselves and try to infer their feelings from their words. 



11 Easy Ways To Empower Your Kids | Listen to your kids, no matter what they have to say.
Listening to your kids can be a great start to empowering them.



It's easy to get sucked into the parenting issues and ask the kids to be quiet when they're playing, and then ignore them when they're trying to talk to you. I've done it myself. LP can be playing in the house making as much noise as he possibly can and I have to tell him to quiet down. Then later when he comes to talk to me and I'm busy cooking dinner or cleaning I forget to actually listen to him and just let him ramble on thinking it's not important. 

By taking a moment to stop what you're doing and listening to your kids you're showing them you are engaged.



2. Empower your kids by letting them express an opinion


When family members argue it can be frustrating, particularly when it's siblings arguing over a video game or some toy. It can be tough to listen to, especially when you've spent the day refereeing, but it can also be a good thing - you just have to look at it in the right way.



11 Easy Ways To Empower Your Kids | Let your kids express opinions and they'll feel empowered!



When siblings argue they're expressing an opinion, they're telling the other sibling what they think of them (usually in an unpleasant way - but still). But there are also other ways you can encourage your kids to express an opinion.

By talking to your kids, and asking them what they think, you're not only learning about them but you're giving them the opportunity to talk to you honestly. They feel free to tell you what they think, even if they disagree with you, and that can be a huge step for some kids. 





You were put on this earth to achieve your greatest self, to live out your purpose, and to do it courageously.

Steve Maraboli




BP is a very quiet boy. At 15 he doesn't do a lot of talking, and more often than not he's a bit of a grump around the house. But he is also a delight to talk to when he's in the right mood. Over the weekend he happened to be in the right mood and we talked for hours about all sorts of topics, including what he's thinking about his A-Level choices. Both the Hubby and I sat and listened to him, even when he said he didn't want to do a subject because he didn't like his teacher. He felt free enough to tell us what he thought and as a result we discussed other options. I think we all felt better about his plans after talking it all through, and I am so glad he felt he could talk to us about it.



3. Ask your kids how they're feeling


As a mum you often know when something is bothering your kids, so why not take some time away from household chores and sit with them. Ask them how they're feeling and listen to the answer, offer advice if it's asked for but otherwise just be there. Give them someone to talk to without being the "parent" and telling them they're wrong or just being grumpy. 



11 Easy Ways To Empower Your Kids | Ask your teens how they're feeling - especially when they're grumpy.
Ask your kids how they're feeling. They may need someone to talk to.



When my boys are upset about something I know, there are tell-tale mannerisms that give them away. But I also don't push when I ask them what's wrong - I just tell them I'm ready to listen if they need me to.



4. Words, used wisely, can empower


It's so easy to use the usual parenting language and saying the kids are just being annoying or refer to them in a negative way. The negative words have more impact than you think, and by changing the words you use you could have a massive impact on how your kids feel.

If you take the time to assess how you're talking to your kids, and change your language, your kids will notice. It will show them that you're actually willing to change to make them feel better, more valued, and as a result they will feel empowered.



5. Give your kids choice to empower them


One way parents make their kids feel disempowered is by making all their decisions for them. From what they eat for dinner to where they go to play you spend the majority of the time making your kids' choices for them. But what would happen if you didn't?

Take a moment to think about how you would feel if someone else made all your decisions. You wouldn't feel good would you? So instead of making all the decisions why not give your kids a chance to make the choice? Give them two options for dinner, ask them what activity they would like to do for fun.



11 Easy Ways To Empower Your Kids | Ask your kids what they want to do for fun...
They may want to make a mess - but is that such a bad thing?



We like to go to restaurants as a family and often give our kids the choice of which one they'd like to go to. But it's not just about food choices. We let our kids have input in our holidays, what we do in our spare time (like playing board games), and we even talk to them about bills and household stuff too. We believe that by involving them in these decisions we're teaching them important lessons as well as empowering them. 



6. Speak positively


Like I said before it can be easy to use negative language around your kids. From describing your own feelings in a negative way, to complaining about a TV show or complaining about your weight. All of it is negative and by switching it up and trying to use positive words you're changing the things your kids hear.

When it comes to body positivity this can be invaluable. I am overweight and have spent a lot of time talking about my unhappiness with my body. Despite both my boys being very slim - some would probably say underweight - they still have issues with thinking they're gaining weight. As a result I have taken the time to adjust how I talk about myself when I'm with them. I would hate to think my complaints will give them life-long body issues so I'm making the changes now in the hope that this will undo the damage.



7. Letting your kids take risks will empower them


I'm not talking sky dives or cliff jumping here, I mean educated risks. As a worried mum I would spend a lot of time saying now when my boys were young. They would ask if they could try something and I'd say no - it was a reflex. The last thing I wanted them to do was take a risk and get hurt. But the Hubby has always been there to counter me, because I am obviously too risk-averse. 

My youngest likes to take risks and try new things. We like walking along canals, and when BP was about 6 years old we were walking along a particular canal (in November) and he was playing. He managed to fall into the canal! It was SO scary. Luckily he could swim and managed to get to the side where his dad pulled him out. But that gave me a fear and whenever I see either of my boys walking along the edge of the canal side I tell them to move. Of course when my youngest asked if he could go across the lock to have some fun I obviously said no. And the Hubby told me I was being silly.



11 Easy Ways To Empower Your Kids | Let them climb trees and play in the mud...
My stomach flips whenever he does risky things - but he loves it!



Yes, I was. I was concerned for LP's safety, but to be honest he is more careful and is well aware of his limitations. So I gave in. And his face when he got to the other side was a picture! He couldn't have been more pleased with himself. And that made me see that it's a good thing to let them take risks sometimes. 

When kids challenge themselves and we let them take an educated risk they can really thrive. They get to prove to themselves they can do something, and they also get to see us celebrating with them when they accomplish something. So let your kids take a risk, and watch as their faces light up!



8. Encourage perseverance


Of course letting your kids take risks won't always work out for the best. Sometimes they'll fail, hurt themselves, or simply feel bad. But these don't have to be bad things - it can be a great opportunity to encourage them to try again. Taking the chance to teach them about perseverance, to keep trying despite the failure, will show them that it doesn't matter if they fail at something. They just need to keep going. 



11 Easy Ways To Empower Your Kids | Let them keep trying, and they'll get there.
Encourage them to keep trying and you'll be glad you did.



This is a tough lesson and even as adults some of us give up if we fail. But I like to use video games as an example of perseverance. When I was growing up I liked to play Super Mario on the SNES and that game was quite a challenge. I would die lots of times and would give up after a few tries. But, in the end I completed the game because I kept coming back to it to try to beat the game. It was a good way to learn perseverance and that by continuing to try - despite failures - I could accomplish something. I use this example when I'm talking to my kids about trying. They are quick to give up on things they can't do and I try to encourage them to keep trying. Because at the end of the day there are always going to be things we fail at first time, and if we keep trying we could accomplish something wonderful - not just winning at a game.



9. Encourage them to follow their dreams


My dad has always said to me "You can do anything you put your mind to", he's encouraged me when I started writing and is always there cheering me on whenever I need him. He is my cheerleader. And I have no doubt that if I told him I wanted to be an astronaut he'd tell me to go for it. With that kind of support it's easy to keep yourself going, even when you doubt yourself.





You can, you should, and if you’re brave enough to start, you will.

Stephen King





Be that person for your kids. Encourage them to chase that dream, show them that if they work hard towards a goal they will achieve wonderful things. 



10. Empower your kids by being there

This one is simple - be there for your kids. If they call out for you, come running. If they ask you a question, answer it. If they want to talk, make the time to talk to them. 

Simply by being around, showing them you're there for them no matter what, they will have the confidence to pursue their dreams. When your kids know you support them, when they feel they can talk to you, they are happier and more likely to come to you with the important stuff.



11. Treasure the happy times


This sounds like one you do without thinking but do you ever talk about the happy times with your kids? 

We spend a lot of time driving around during a weekend when we visit family and more often than not we take this opportunity to talk to our kids. We talk about all kinds of things, and sometimes we'll reminisce about old holidays or times when we had fun as a family together. We laugh about the time BP fell in the canal - despite it being freezing and we were more than 5 miles from home. We talk about how he had to borrow my jacket, and his dad's, and walk along with no trousers on - in the middle of November! We chat about our many holidays as a family, and how much we loved the places we visited - like Venice. But most of all we like to smile. We enjoy having the four of us together and having a good time - be that at a restaurant, chatting at home, or off on holiday to some far off place.



11 Easy Ways To Empower Your Kids | Enjoy the happy times.
Be together as a family unit.



Those happy times are so important, and even if they're in the past talking to your kids about them may even spark memories they didn't know they had! By smiling and laughing together you'll bond, and they will feel closer to you and empowered too. Win!


Further reading

I loved this post from Ashley over on Nurture & Thrive entitled The One Thing To Always Say When Disciplining Your Toddler in which Ashley talks about using discipline as a way to empower your kids to change their behaviour. She says, "as parents then we are teachers..." and I have to agree. 

Another article I loved was over on Motherly - 10 important phrases parents can use to empower their daughters. While I have two boys I think a lot of the phrases can be used by any parents. Giving examples of words you should use, and examples of those you should take a break from using, this article has some great insight.



11 Easy Ways To Empower Your Kids | Could you use these 11 things to empower your kids?



Empowering your kids is not as difficult as it sounds. It's not about special techniques or words you should be using, it's about being a positive influence in your kids' lives. It's about being there when they need you, whether that's just for a chat or to shout from the rooftops how wonderful they are. The easiest way you can empower your kids is to be their parent - and you're rocking at that already!



How do you empower your kids?


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