Things That Will Help You To Gain Confidence And Improve Your Wellbeing

Many of us suffer from a lack of confidence. Problems with your mental state can lead to problems with your physical state, too. Self-esteem issues affect your health on many levels. So, these are the things that will help you to gain confidence and improve your wellbeing.

A good diet.

If you want to gain confidence and improve your wellbeing, you need to start with a good diet. The food you eat has a big effect on your physical and mental state. You need to forget about the fad diets that you see advertised. Slimming down quickly isn’t the goal. If you’re following a diet that you can’t maintain on a long-term basis, then it’s not a healthy diet. Instead, you should aim to achieve and maintain a healthy weight in the long run. The best way to do that is to simply eat well.

A good diet needs to be well-rounded. You shouldn’t be trying to simply reduce the amount of food you eat. Rather, you should be trying to replace the bad food in your diet with good food. People talk about counting calories, and it’s definitely important to consume the recommended amount for an adult (it’s worth researching that if you don’t know how many calories you should be consuming on a daily basis). However, you need to focus on more than calories. Eating 500 calories of chocolate would be unhealthier than eating 500 calories of broccoli, after all. But this isn’t just about getting into shape. Once you start eating better, you’ll improve your mental health, as well as your physical health. So, it’ll help to improve your wellbeing on many levels.

Daily physical activity.

‘Exercise’ is a word that many of us hate. Not everybody wants to become a bodybuilder or run marathons. However, exercise is still a daily necessity for all of us. It’s about more than getting in shape, much like maintaining a good diet. It’s about keeping your brain and body healthy and happy. Working out releases endorphins in the brain, and that can improve your mindset. So, if you want to gain confidence and improve your wellbeing, then daily physical activity might be the answer. Getting outside and going for a walk is also a good way to get some fresh air. It’ll keep you healthy on many levels.


Fashion is another thing that will help you to gain confidence and improve your wellbeing. It might be time to start thinking about the way you dress if you want to feel better about yourself. Even if you’re not interested in fashion, your clothes can make you feel more confident. Body types don’t matter; all that matters is feeling confident about yourself. It’s time to stop hiding away under the clothes you wear. Let them tell the world something about your personality. If you’re a bright and colourful person, then your clothes should be bright and colourful.

You might also want to start thinking about the fit of your clothing. Regardless of your body size, wearing well-fitted clothing always looks stylish. It makes your outfit look tailor-made to your appearance. We’re not saying you have to wear clothes that hug your body incredibly tightly; we’re just saying that you should wear clothes which accentuate your natural physique. Accessorising is another great way to give your outfits some style. You might want to check out The Little Keepsake Company for personalised jewellery. You could really make a statement with your accessories whilst still wearing something that has sentimental value. The key to gaining confidence and improving your wellbeing is allowing your personality to shine through your outfits.

Positive affirmations.

Positive affirmations are so helpful if you want to gain confidence and improve your wellbeing. It’s time to tell yourself that you’re a beautiful person. That can be difficult when you’ve become so used to listening to the negative voice in your head. But it’s essential to start telling yourself positive things if you want to improve your emotional health. Stand in front of the mirror once a day and tell yourself things that you like about your appearance. This will help you to gradually change your self-perception. It might seem strange when you first try it, but you just need to keep saying positive things about yourself every day. Over time, you’ll start to notice your thought pattern changing. The goal is to gradually improve your self-esteem.

A healthy sleeping pattern.

You need to start sleeping properly if you want to improve your physical and mental wellbeing. So few people seem to appreciate the importance of a good night’s rest in the modern world. We’re all busy, but you should never tell yourself that you’re too busy to get 8 hours of sleep. It’s time to prioritise your sleeping pattern. After all, sleep deprivation can worsen your mental health, so it might exacerbate feelings of stress and anxiety. If you’re not sleeping properly, then you’ll struggle to gain confidence and improve your wellbeing. It’s time to start getting into bed early every night. You need to get into a regular sleeping pattern. This will help to keep your body and mind healthy. Otherwise, you’ll put a lot of strain on your physical and psychological wellbeing.

Of course, regularity is important, but many people have regular sleeping patterns that are still unhealthy. Going to bed at midnight and waking up 6am every day might be your regular pattern, but that doesn’t mean you’re getting enough rest. For most people, 8 hours of sleep is necessary for proper physical and mental functioning. You might have a hot shower and a hot cup of coffee in the morning to perk you up, but a lack of rest doesn’t just deplete your energy levels; it slows your metabolism, weakens your immune system, and even affects your mental wellbeing. So, you should start getting enough sleep on a daily basis if you want to improve your wellbeing. When you start sleeping properly, you’ll reduce feelings of stress and anxiety. As a result, you’ll be able to improve your perception of yourself because you’ll be in a better emotional state.

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Post Comment Love 20th - 22nd September

Hey peeps! It's time for Post Comment Love - a linky hosted by myself and Stephanie. All bloggers are welcome to link up with whatever post they choose, as long as it was written this week. We enjoy reading your posts every week and look forward to seeing who links up.

I've been having a bit of a change of heart recently. I've fallen out of love with blogging. So I'm taking a little break - time off to reassess, to think about why I blog and if I'm still doing what I want  to be doing. It's easy to get sucked into the numbers game and I'm afraid that has blinded me. So for now I'm taking a little break - I'll still be here for Post Comment Love but there won't be any other posts for a while.

Hope you all had a great week!

Blogger Showcase Nicola from Mum on a Budget

Who are you? (a short introduction)

My name is Nicola, I live in Edinburgh and I am a mum of two - Lewis who is 2 and Lauren who just turned 4. I used to work as an Accountant but have temporarily given that up to stay at home with the kids.

How did you discover blogs/blogging?

I have read blogs for as long as I can remember, and got more and more into them after having my first child - it was nice to read honest experiences from fellow mums, it made me feel less alone.

Why did you start blogging?

I suppose I had always thought that whilst I enjoyed reading other people's writing, *I* could never be a blogger. But one day the penny dropped - why not? I enjoy writing and I am very much into the technical side of things (I used to create websites when I was a teenager, including a Backstreet Boys fan page!), so it seemed a perfect thing to do in my spare time.

What do you find most challenging?

Finding the time to create regular content. Time management has never been my strong point, and sometimes working on my blog falls down to the bottom of my to do list. I really must work on that.

What is your favourite topic to write about?

I love sharing ways I have saved money as a mum, and love the idea that it has helped other mums save money too. I always have loved doing this, now that I think about it... I am that person who will, when told her top is nice, exclaim "thanks! £3 in the New Look sale!"

Are you blogging for fun or do you have goals?

I'm lucky that I am able to cover my hosting fees with a tiny bit of income, and it would be nice to earn a little more to maybe pay for a coffee or two out each week, but I have no lofty ambitions. It's just nice connecting with other mums. 

What is your favourite thing about blogging?

I love how I can spend and hour or two at night in front of the computer and at the end I have created a post... when you are a stay at home parent there aren't many things that you can do that have a defined start and end point. So it's nice to be able to say "see that - i did that!"

Have you ever attended a blogging conference and if so, what did you think?

Not yet, but it's already on my goals list for 2020.

What are your 3 best posts?

Tuff Tray - a Cheaper (and Better) Alternative []

haven Craig tara Review -What Did We Think? []

Why I'm Saying Yes to Second Hand September []

Describe yourself in three words!

Impulsive, passionate and determined

Are you a tea and biscuits or coffee and cake person?

That's tough - I think I prefer the taste of tea but I tend to drink more coffee to feed my raging caffeine addiction (thanks to my son who still hasn't slept through the night yet), so I'm going to go for coffee and cake.

What's your idea of a perfect night out?

Tasty food, a bottle of red wine and lots of chat. It doesn't need to be anywhere fancy, in fact I am happiest when things are casual and relaxed and I'm not worried about what the bill will be at the end of the night - I am Mum on a Budget, after all!

Your perfect night in?

Very boring but a M&S Dine in for Two meal and something good on Netflix (currently watching season 3 of Narcos and gripping doesn't even begin to describe it!)

What would your best friend/OH/mum or kids say is your best quality?

I tend to be quite self deprecating, so this is hard for me to write, but I hope they would say that I am kind. That's all I aspire to be, really.

Thanks so much for taking the time to answer our questions Nicola, I love my coffee too - I hope you manage to get your little one sleeping through the night soon! Feel free to grab the 'featured' badge below and display it ever-so-proudly on your blog.

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Keeping momentum with your routine, despite blips

Routines can make life easier, they help you stay organised and keep on top of your housework. But when the kids are off school, or you're ill, your routine takes a hit and you (and your household) fall into chaos. The kitchen doesn't get cleaned, the washing mountain continues to grow, and dust piles up everywhere. When the kids go back to school it's difficult to get back into your routine because there's so much to catch up on. But there is a way to keep momentum with your routines, despite these blips. Read on to find out how...

Blips in your routine don't make you a bad mum

First of all you need to know that we all have these blips in our routines. We fall ill, half-term arrives before we're ready for it, or a family member needs our help, and our routine takes a hit. But suffering a blip in your routine does NOT make you a bad mum.

Keeping Momentum With Your Routine, Despite Blips | My son's bedroom is messy all the time!
My youngest's bedroom - a whole day's job!

It's taken me a long time to realise that an untidy house doesn't mean I'm rubbish at being a mum. I used to beat myself up every Monday morning when I looked at my kitchen and saw the chaos. Plates piled high waiting to be loaded into the dishwasher. A laundry mountain to rival Everest. It would get me down that even over a weekend I couldn't keep up with the routine and give my family a tidy house to live in. But then I saw what that chaos meant.

By allowing the plates to pile up, and the laundry to stay unwashed, I was actually prioritising my family over the cleaning. I spent time with my boys and the Hubby rather than doing the cleaning. I was enjoying playing board games, watching our favourite shows, or going out for family days. So why on earth was I beating myself up about being a bad mum? Is prioritising your family a bad thing? No of course it isn't.

Keeping Momentum With Your Routine, Despite Blips | You can keep up with your routine, no matter what.

So if, like me, you have blips in your routine, and every week you feel bad for not being a better mum, just take a moment to think about what you've spent your time doing. 

Because the truth is you DO AN AMAZING JOB. You just need to see it.

Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.

William Arthur Ward

You can always get back on track with your routine

The blips that happen can throw your routine and mean you have to spend a little extra time on your chores. But you can always get back on track. Spending a little extra time each day will get your routine back on track and come the weekend you'll be back to normal again - just in time for taking the weekend for your family!

Keeping Momentum With Your Routine, Despite Blips | Having fun with your family is more important than your routine.
Family fun - much more important than sticking to a routine.

That describes my daily life at the moment. I spend the week catching up on chores only to take the weekend for the family - and then I'm back to where I started. But that's okay.

You can always catch up, there's always going to be time for those chores - and to be honest if there isn't you're probably doing something more important like caring for a sick child.

Keeping momentum with your routine

The key to keeping momentum with your routine is to do chores a little at a time, more often. I have a giant list of chores to be done, but I never try to do all the chores at once - that would overwhelm me and I'd give up. Instead I break my chores list down into smaller chunks so they're easier to tackle. 

In a morning, after the kids have gone to school (or while they're getting ready), I'll wander around the house collecting the dirty dishes or glasses and load the dishwasher. It usually takes less than 10 minutes.

Keeping Momentum With Your Routine, Despite Blips | A tidy lounge makes me feel so much better!
Tidying the lounge takes much less time if I do it a little bit at a time.

The laundry is another task, that I'll tackle later. Loading the laundry into the machine takes 5 minutes and then I can leave the machine to do its job. Another job done.

Cleaning the kitchen counters is next on the list, and depending on what day it is it can take anywhere between 5 minutes and 15 minutes. But once it's done I can smile because my kitchen looks great.

I do these small jobs almost every day (not counting weekends) and usually manage to keep momentum with my routine because I'm staying on top of the chores and they don't build up too much over the weekend. 

Use checklists to keep momentum

Whether it's paper checklists, something stuck to your fridge, or reminders on your phone, using checklists to help you keep track of your chores is a great way to keep momentum with your routine. Think of all the jobs that you have to do every day and list them. Then each time you finish one of those chores you can tick it off - not only does it feel good ticking something off a checklists but you can see that you're making progress every day. And when you're a stay-at-home mum any kind of progress makes you feel better.

I use reminders on my phone. I have a list of jobs I do every day, every week, and every month, and they pop up regularly so I don't even need to think about it. I have set days for each room, for example Mondays are my lounge days, Tuesdays are for my office. That way I can concentrate on a  room, do all my chores for that room and then stop - so I'm not overwhelmed with all the cleaning that needs to be done. That routine also helps with keeping everywhere tidy, because no room gets a chance to get overly untidy. 

Keeping Momentum With Your Routine, Despite Blips | My phone helps me stay on track every day.
I wouldn't be without my phone - it helps me stay on track.

Admittedly sometimes I ignore the reminders. Usually at a weekend. But I know they're there and it does encourage me to tidy up when I can so that the chores don't pile up.

You may like to use paper, or your phone, but having a reminder of the chores you need to do is a great way to keep momentum with your routine. Especially if it pops up on your phone every time you look at it. It's like that nagging little voice that never lets things settle. And while nagging is annoying - it works doesn't it?

Know nothing is set in stone

No matter how many days you keep momentum with your routine you're always going to suffer blips. Holidays from school, an unexpected visitor, or illness will pop up and your routine takes the hit - but that's okay. If you happen to have your lounge cleaning day pop up, but the bedrooms desperately need tidying then tidy the bedrooms. YOU are in control of your routine and you can always switch things around if necessary. 

They key is taking control, knowing that it doesn't matter how many blips happen you can always get back on track. You can always keep going with your routine, even if it's just the essential things like loading the dishwasher because you have no clean dishes! 

Keep momentum with your self-care routine too!

Despite blips to your chores routine you really need to make sure you're taking care of yourself too. Only when we fall ill do we realise we've been neglecting ourselves and that's why we're ill. I've done this so many times that I finally realised taking some time for myself occasionally meant I was ill less often. Don't ask me how that works - but it does!

Self-care is really about taking care of you and focusing on feeling good about yourself - mind and body.

Franchesca Ramsey

I take time out to read, to have time alone (while the boys are at school), and I spend time doing things I enjoy - like playing games. I have down time and as a result I am more relaxed about everything else. I don't stress about the dishes, I don't worry about the laundry. I take care of that stuff according to my routine and I have time for me too - win!

Keeping Momentum With Your Routine, Despite Blips | Your routine keeps you going, you just need to know how.

Please make sure to allow time for yourself when you're working out your routine - it's just as important!

Do you manage to keep momentum with your routine?

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Post Comment Love 13th - 15th September

It's Post Comment Love time peeps! Hosted by myself and Stephanie, we welcome bloggers to share posts with others and read what interests them. The linky opens every Friday and is open throughout the weekend. Will you be join us this week?

Just a quick one from me this week to say link up, read what you like the look of, and share what you can. Catch you next week!

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How to keep promises to yourself

Today is the day. You've been telling yourself all week you'll get the chores done and have time for you and today is the day that's happening. The chores are almost done, the kettle is calling, and you can't wait to sit down and drink a hot coffee - in peace. Then the phone rings, a friend needs help, or the kids are sick, and suddenly that hot coffee disappears in a puff of smoke and your "me time" is pushed back, and back, and back. Keeping promises to yourself is tough isn't it? There's always so much demand for your time that you can find it difficult to prioritise you. And breaking promises to yourself doesn't really matter does it - I mean who is it hurting right? YOU! That's who it's hurting. And that's why I'm here - to show you how to keep promises to yourself so you'll stop hurting!


We make promises all the time don't we? You promise your kids you'll play with them. You promise your Hubby you'll get him his favourite chocolate when you go to the supermarket. And you always keep those promises. When you tell someone else you'll do something you do it. So why do we think it's okay to break the promises we make with ourselves?

How To Keep Promises To Yourself | Chocolate for the Hubby, done. Play with the kids, done. And yet you always break promises to yourself?

Examples of promises to yourself

A promise to yourself can be anything from getting to drink a hot coffee to having a full spa day away from the kids. Here's just a few...

I will drink at least one coffee before it goes cold every day.
I will spend £10 on a treat for myself.
I will ignore the cleaning so I can watch my favourite TV show today.
I will book that spa day I've been wanting for months.

How To Keep Promises To Yourself | Book that spa day today!
Book that spa day today!

I will keep that chocolate bar for myself.
I will stick to a cleaning schedule so I have more time for me.
I will organise my home so things are easier to sort and I get more time for me.
I won't let the school holidays ruin my routine.
I won't sleep in when I get the chance.
I will sleep in when I get the chance.
I will set up that business I've wanted to try for years.
I will get myself out there because I need it.
I will work hard to make my business work for me.

I could go on forever listing promises to yourself. It's easy because anything you think you should do for you, or that you even think of as a possibility is a promise to yourself. 

Why you think it's okay to break promises to yourself

First of all who is it hurting right? I love this quote from Craig Jarrow, the Time Management Ninja:

It's too easy to break promises with yourself. After all, no one knows except you.

Craig Jarrow

He is so right! When we promise ourselves something the main reason we break it is because we think it doesn't matter. No one else knows we made the promise, we're the only ones that will suffer and we can make up for it later. Except we never do do we?

In Chris Jarrow's blog post 5 ways to keep promises with yourself he says we should take self-promises as seriously as the obligations we take on for others. His post is great, and you should really check it out.

How to keep promises to yourself

So, we've talked about the types of promises you make to yourself, and why you think it's okay to break them. Now it's time to talk about how you can keep those promises to yourself and start to move forward.

  • Imagine it's for someone else. Keeping promises to other people is always easier - so why not just think of your promise in that way. Pretend it is for someone else and you are more likely to keep it!

  • Write your promises down. By writing it down you are not only making it visible but you're also increasing the chances you'll follow through. 

How To Keep Promises To Yourself | Write them down so you can see them everyday.

  • Treat yourself like you would a friend. You would never ditch a friend in her time of need. You would never ignore her plea for help. Think of yourself as your best friend and you'll suddenly realise you're being a bad friend. It's time to build bridges and fix your relationship with YOU.

  • Hold yourself accountable. It may "only" be with yourself but the promises you make are important. Making yourself accountable could change things.

  • Change your beliefs about promises made to yourself. I know you think they're silly sometimes - I mean promising you'll get a hot coffee, is that really a promise you need to keep? But yes, it is. It's not the promise itself but how you think of yourself. You're telling yourself you're unimportant if you can't keep promises - just the same as if it was a friend. Your friend wouldn't stick around for long if you didn't keep promises would they? Promises made to yourself are just as, if not more, important than promises made to others.

The benefits of keeping promises to yourself

Throughout this post I've been talking about how these promises don't really matter. How they're just with ourselves and it's not really hurting anyone, and I've been trying to get across that this isn't actually true. Did you know that by keeping promises to yourself you can actually boost your confidence? I know it doesn't sound plausible but it's true. Here's a few more benefits of keeping promises to yourself.

  • Boosts productivity
  • Boosts happiness
  • Reminds you you are valuable and worthy

The first and best victory is to conquer self.


Taking care of yourself is so important but you often feel like you don't deserve it. By keeping promises to yourself you're reassuring yourself that you are worthy of the time. You work hard for everyone else so you should be able to have some down time.

How To Keep Promises To Yourself | Enjoy that hot coffee and maybe even read a chapter.
Sit, have that fancy coffee and read a chapter.

Once you keep promises to yourself you'll start to see the positive results and will get more done as well as feeling more happy. Isn't that worth it?

How To Keep Promises To Yourself | I cover why we break promises, and how you can keep those promises to yourself, so you can boost your self confidence!

Do you keep the promises you made to yourself?