Keeping momentum with your routine, despite blips

Routines can make life easier, they help you stay organised and keep on top of your housework. But when the kids are off school, or you're ill, your routine takes a hit and you (and your household) fall into chaos. The kitchen doesn't get cleaned, the washing mountain continues to grow, and dust piles up everywhere. When the kids go back to school it's difficult to get back into your routine because there's so much to catch up on. But there is a way to keep momentum with your routines, despite these blips. Read on to find out how...



Blips in your routine don't make you a bad mum


First of all you need to know that we all have these blips in our routines. We fall ill, half-term arrives before we're ready for it, or a family member needs our help, and our routine takes a hit. But suffering a blip in your routine does NOT make you a bad mum.



Keeping Momentum With Your Routine, Despite Blips | My son's bedroom is messy all the time!
My youngest's bedroom - a whole day's job!



It's taken me a long time to realise that an untidy house doesn't mean I'm rubbish at being a mum. I used to beat myself up every Monday morning when I looked at my kitchen and saw the chaos. Plates piled high waiting to be loaded into the dishwasher. A laundry mountain to rival Everest. It would get me down that even over a weekend I couldn't keep up with the routine and give my family a tidy house to live in. But then I saw what that chaos meant.

By allowing the plates to pile up, and the laundry to stay unwashed, I was actually prioritising my family over the cleaning. I spent time with my boys and the Hubby rather than doing the cleaning. I was enjoying playing board games, watching our favourite shows, or going out for family days. So why on earth was I beating myself up about being a bad mum? Is prioritising your family a bad thing? No of course it isn't.



Keeping Momentum With Your Routine, Despite Blips | You can keep up with your routine, no matter what.



So if, like me, you have blips in your routine, and every week you feel bad for not being a better mum, just take a moment to think about what you've spent your time doing. 

Because the truth is you DO AN AMAZING JOB. You just need to see it.





Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.

William Arthur Ward





You can always get back on track with your routine


The blips that happen can throw your routine and mean you have to spend a little extra time on your chores. But you can always get back on track. Spending a little extra time each day will get your routine back on track and come the weekend you'll be back to normal again - just in time for taking the weekend for your family!



Keeping Momentum With Your Routine, Despite Blips | Having fun with your family is more important than your routine.
Family fun - much more important than sticking to a routine.



That describes my daily life at the moment. I spend the week catching up on chores only to take the weekend for the family - and then I'm back to where I started. But that's okay.

You can always catch up, there's always going to be time for those chores - and to be honest if there isn't you're probably doing something more important like caring for a sick child.



Keeping momentum with your routine


The key to keeping momentum with your routine is to do chores a little at a time, more often. I have a giant list of chores to be done, but I never try to do all the chores at once - that would overwhelm me and I'd give up. Instead I break my chores list down into smaller chunks so they're easier to tackle. 

In a morning, after the kids have gone to school (or while they're getting ready), I'll wander around the house collecting the dirty dishes or glasses and load the dishwasher. It usually takes less than 10 minutes.



Keeping Momentum With Your Routine, Despite Blips | A tidy lounge makes me feel so much better!
Tidying the lounge takes much less time if I do it a little bit at a time.



The laundry is another task, that I'll tackle later. Loading the laundry into the machine takes 5 minutes and then I can leave the machine to do its job. Another job done.

Cleaning the kitchen counters is next on the list, and depending on what day it is it can take anywhere between 5 minutes and 15 minutes. But once it's done I can smile because my kitchen looks great.

I do these small jobs almost every day (not counting weekends) and usually manage to keep momentum with my routine because I'm staying on top of the chores and they don't build up too much over the weekend. 



Use checklists to keep momentum


Whether it's paper checklists, something stuck to your fridge, or reminders on your phone, using checklists to help you keep track of your chores is a great way to keep momentum with your routine. Think of all the jobs that you have to do every day and list them. Then each time you finish one of those chores you can tick it off - not only does it feel good ticking something off a checklists but you can see that you're making progress every day. And when you're a stay-at-home mum any kind of progress makes you feel better.

I use reminders on my phone. I have a list of jobs I do every day, every week, and every month, and they pop up regularly so I don't even need to think about it. I have set days for each room, for example Mondays are my lounge days, Tuesdays are for my office. That way I can concentrate on a  room, do all my chores for that room and then stop - so I'm not overwhelmed with all the cleaning that needs to be done. That routine also helps with keeping everywhere tidy, because no room gets a chance to get overly untidy. 



Keeping Momentum With Your Routine, Despite Blips | My phone helps me stay on track every day.
I wouldn't be without my phone - it helps me stay on track.



Admittedly sometimes I ignore the reminders. Usually at a weekend. But I know they're there and it does encourage me to tidy up when I can so that the chores don't pile up.

You may like to use paper, or your phone, but having a reminder of the chores you need to do is a great way to keep momentum with your routine. Especially if it pops up on your phone every time you look at it. It's like that nagging little voice that never lets things settle. And while nagging is annoying - it works doesn't it?



Know nothing is set in stone


No matter how many days you keep momentum with your routine you're always going to suffer blips. Holidays from school, an unexpected visitor, or illness will pop up and your routine takes the hit - but that's okay. If you happen to have your lounge cleaning day pop up, but the bedrooms desperately need tidying then tidy the bedrooms. YOU are in control of your routine and you can always switch things around if necessary. 

They key is taking control, knowing that it doesn't matter how many blips happen you can always get back on track. You can always keep going with your routine, even if it's just the essential things like loading the dishwasher because you have no clean dishes! 



Keep momentum with your self-care routine too!


Despite blips to your chores routine you really need to make sure you're taking care of yourself too. Only when we fall ill do we realise we've been neglecting ourselves and that's why we're ill. I've done this so many times that I finally realised taking some time for myself occasionally meant I was ill less often. Don't ask me how that works - but it does!





Self-care is really about taking care of you and focusing on feeling good about yourself - mind and body.

Franchesca Ramsey





I take time out to read, to have time alone (while the boys are at school), and I spend time doing things I enjoy - like playing games. I have down time and as a result I am more relaxed about everything else. I don't stress about the dishes, I don't worry about the laundry. I take care of that stuff according to my routine and I have time for me too - win!



Keeping Momentum With Your Routine, Despite Blips | Your routine keeps you going, you just need to know how.



Please make sure to allow time for yourself when you're working out your routine - it's just as important!



Do you manage to keep momentum with your routine?





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Post Comment Love 13th - 15th September

It's Post Comment Love time peeps! Hosted by myself and Stephanie, we welcome bloggers to share posts with others and read what interests them. The linky opens every Friday and is open throughout the weekend. Will you be join us this week?

Just a quick one from me this week to say link up, read what you like the look of, and share what you can. Catch you next week!





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How to keep promises to yourself

Today is the day. You've been telling yourself all week you'll get the chores done and have time for you and today is the day that's happening. The chores are almost done, the kettle is calling, and you can't wait to sit down and drink a hot coffee - in peace. Then the phone rings, a friend needs help, or the kids are sick, and suddenly that hot coffee disappears in a puff of smoke and your "me time" is pushed back, and back, and back. Keeping promises to yourself is tough isn't it? There's always so much demand for your time that you can find it difficult to prioritise you. And breaking promises to yourself doesn't really matter does it - I mean who is it hurting right? YOU! That's who it's hurting. And that's why I'm here - to show you how to keep promises to yourself so you'll stop hurting!



Promises


We make promises all the time don't we? You promise your kids you'll play with them. You promise your Hubby you'll get him his favourite chocolate when you go to the supermarket. And you always keep those promises. When you tell someone else you'll do something you do it. So why do we think it's okay to break the promises we make with ourselves?


How To Keep Promises To Yourself | Chocolate for the Hubby, done. Play with the kids, done. And yet you always break promises to yourself?





Examples of promises to yourself


A promise to yourself can be anything from getting to drink a hot coffee to having a full spa day away from the kids. Here's just a few...



I will drink at least one coffee before it goes cold every day.
I will spend £10 on a treat for myself.
I will ignore the cleaning so I can watch my favourite TV show today.
I will book that spa day I've been wanting for months.


How To Keep Promises To Yourself | Book that spa day today!
Book that spa day today!



I will keep that chocolate bar for myself.
I will stick to a cleaning schedule so I have more time for me.
I will organise my home so things are easier to sort and I get more time for me.
I won't let the school holidays ruin my routine.
I won't sleep in when I get the chance.
I will sleep in when I get the chance.
I will set up that business I've wanted to try for years.
I will get myself out there because I need it.
I will work hard to make my business work for me.



I could go on forever listing promises to yourself. It's easy because anything you think you should do for you, or that you even think of as a possibility is a promise to yourself. 



Why you think it's okay to break promises to yourself


First of all who is it hurting right? I love this quote from Craig Jarrow, the Time Management Ninja:





It's too easy to break promises with yourself. After all, no one knows except you.

Craig Jarrow





He is so right! When we promise ourselves something the main reason we break it is because we think it doesn't matter. No one else knows we made the promise, we're the only ones that will suffer and we can make up for it later. Except we never do do we?

In Chris Jarrow's blog post 5 ways to keep promises with yourself he says we should take self-promises as seriously as the obligations we take on for others. His post is great, and you should really check it out.



How to keep promises to yourself


So, we've talked about the types of promises you make to yourself, and why you think it's okay to break them. Now it's time to talk about how you can keep those promises to yourself and start to move forward.


  • Imagine it's for someone else. Keeping promises to other people is always easier - so why not just think of your promise in that way. Pretend it is for someone else and you are more likely to keep it!

  • Write your promises down. By writing it down you are not only making it visible but you're also increasing the chances you'll follow through. 


How To Keep Promises To Yourself | Write them down so you can see them everyday.



  • Treat yourself like you would a friend. You would never ditch a friend in her time of need. You would never ignore her plea for help. Think of yourself as your best friend and you'll suddenly realise you're being a bad friend. It's time to build bridges and fix your relationship with YOU.

  • Hold yourself accountable. It may "only" be with yourself but the promises you make are important. Making yourself accountable could change things.

  • Change your beliefs about promises made to yourself. I know you think they're silly sometimes - I mean promising you'll get a hot coffee, is that really a promise you need to keep? But yes, it is. It's not the promise itself but how you think of yourself. You're telling yourself you're unimportant if you can't keep promises - just the same as if it was a friend. Your friend wouldn't stick around for long if you didn't keep promises would they? Promises made to yourself are just as, if not more, important than promises made to others.



The benefits of keeping promises to yourself


Throughout this post I've been talking about how these promises don't really matter. How they're just with ourselves and it's not really hurting anyone, and I've been trying to get across that this isn't actually true. Did you know that by keeping promises to yourself you can actually boost your confidence? I know it doesn't sound plausible but it's true. Here's a few more benefits of keeping promises to yourself.

  • Boosts productivity
  • Boosts happiness
  • Reminds you you are valuable and worthy





The first and best victory is to conquer self.

Plato





Taking care of yourself is so important but you often feel like you don't deserve it. By keeping promises to yourself you're reassuring yourself that you are worthy of the time. You work hard for everyone else so you should be able to have some down time.


How To Keep Promises To Yourself | Enjoy that hot coffee and maybe even read a chapter.
Sit, have that fancy coffee and read a chapter.



Once you keep promises to yourself you'll start to see the positive results and will get more done as well as feeling more happy. Isn't that worth it?


How To Keep Promises To Yourself | I cover why we break promises, and how you can keep those promises to yourself, so you can boost your self confidence!




Do you keep the promises you made to yourself?




Post Comment Love 6th - 8th September

Hey peeps! It's Friday (again) and we all know what that means, right? Time for Post Comment Love - a linky hosted by myself and Stephanie. Welcoming parenting bloggers like myself, lifestyle bloggers, writers and crafters, and bloggers from around the world we love hosting this little linky for you and can't wait to see what you've got in store for us this week.

It was back to school for the boys this week, with BP entering year 11 and preparing for his GCSEs at the end of the school year, and LP entering year 6 and getting ready to go up to High School next year. This year has been full of changes for us, with Hubby starting working in an office and the boys growing up so fast I don't know where the time is going. And while it's been all-change for the boys and the Hubby I've pretty much stayed the same. I'm still mum and I still stay home all day every day.

Sometimes I get down about the thought of that. That I'm the one who is home every day, I'm the one who never changes, I'm the one who seemingly does nothing.

Except I don't do nothing, I take care of my family, I'm their rock. At a time when everything has been crazy and our daily routines have done a 180 I have stayed the same. I think it grounds everyone, it assures them that despite all the changes things are still okay because I'm still here making sure it all runs smoothly. And while I'm not highly educated, I don't have a job that earns me money, and I have the appearance that I do nothing all day, at a time when things could have gone horribly wrong I have kept it all together. Our new routines have begun and everyone is still smiling.

So, I may not have a job but I'm going to congratulate myself on getting us all through. Because while having a job would give me a title and I'd earn money, nothing can compare to watching all my boys (Hubby included) heading out of the door in a morning with a smile on their face. Each of them knowing I'll still be here when they get home.

How have you coped with back-to-school routines?




Blogger Showcase Lisa from Handmade in Israel




Who are you?


Hi, I'm Lisa. I grew up in Hull, England and came to live in Israel in 1995. I met my British-born husband here and we have two teenage sons.

For as long as I can remember I have been busy with my hands, crafting and making things. As a youngster I knew that I wanted to be an artist for a career. There was never a question in my mind of anything else. I have a degree in graphic design and before the boys came along I worked as a graphic designer and art director, and often made cards to send to family and friends. When my last ‘office job’ came to an end in 1998 my husband looked at some of my cards and suggested that other people might buy them. I approached a local store who immediately took them on, and from then onwards my days have been spent cutting, sticking and making my papercut cards, guest books and pictures!



How did you discover blogging?


I started blogging back in 2008. A friend helped me set up my blog and I have blogged regularly ever since then. I can honestly say that I never tire of it! I became aware after a few months that constantly posting about my creations, even though there is nearly always an interesting story behind them, was perhaps a little boring for my readers. I found that people were interested to hear about Israel and my life over here and so, since I love exploring this little country, it was an easy transition to start blogging about Israel and the amazing places I visit as well.



Why did you start blogging?


I began blogging to gain visibility and exposure. I create pieces that can easily be mailed all around the world, so wanted to increase my customer base accordingly. I am happy to say that I now have regular readers – and customers – all around the world.



What do you find most challenging?


I really enjoy blogging and I never have a shortage of material. In fact, people often ask me why their card, guest book or picture has not yet been featured on my blog! However, I find that two posts a week is enough for me. If I post more often than that, I get fewer comments and interactions on an individual post.



What is your favourite topic to write about?


I love writing about new places I have discovered here in Israel. I often find that, much as I learn a lot when I go to a new place, I learn even more for myself when I come home and start reading up about it!



Are you blogging for fun or do you have goals?


Each time I post a new customised card, a guest book or a papercut picture, I obviously hope that it will bring me a new customer or two! However, I also hope that my posts about Israel will inspire people to explore our little country and to search out all the nooks and crannies that I love!



What is your favourite thing about blogging?


I love the fact that I can share my latest creation or a new place that I have discovered with such a wide audience. I also love the interactions I have with new people and the online friendships that I have made.



Have you ever attended a blogging conference and if so, what did you think?


I went to the Jerusalem Travel Bloggers Summit back in June. The speakers were super interesting but I honestly felt a little out of place. The locals all knew each other and the visitors were all very young and Instagrammable.



What are your three best posts?


I have written so many posts over the years, it is hard to choose, but I think some of my most popular ones have been about places I have visited. I have chosen a travel post, a creative post and a more personal post here:





Describe yourself in 3 words.


Organised, positive and determined.



Are you a tea and biscuits or coffee and cake person?


Definitely coffee and cake. I am British-born but really do not like the taste or smell of tea at all. I do like a nice cup of coffee to start the day off well.



What's your idea of the perfect night out?


Not sure about night out, but my perfect day out is a nice stroll in the countryside, perhaps with something historical thrown in for good measure, finished with a yummy picnic in a spot with a beautiful view.



And the perfect night in?


An evening with the television to myself, without any interruption. I don’t watch much television at all – my boys tend to hog our one television to watch football matches – but I am rather partial to the BBC's "Call the Midwife" and "Strictly Come Dancing".



What would your best friend/OH/Mum or kids say is your best quality?


My friends call me very often to give them ideas for activities and day out. They say I have missed my calling and should have been a tour guide.





Thank you so much for taking the time to answer our questions Lisa, I love that you enjoy sharing your new discoveries in Israel - I love reading about them and seeing your photos, they're beautiful! Please feel free to grab the 'featured' badge below and display it ever-so-proudly on your blog. 

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