Saying Goodbye to Your Comfort Zone

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As far as blogging is concerned I've spent a long time plodding along at my own pace, learning, writing, and watching. I observed other bloggers and took notice of how they did things but I never took any risks. I wrote about my children, about my life. Happy in my comfort zone I didn't see the point in trying to better myself.
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If you're anything like me you've seen other bloggers become successful. They attend wonderful PR days and get to meet with some influential and inspiring people. And you sit and wonder why you don't get those opportunities. 

You sit at home, typing on your Mac/PC/Tablet.
You sit at home, reading others' posts.
You sit at home, chatting on social media.
You sit at home...

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Over the last year I've started to try harder and for the very first time I stepped out of my comfort zone to attend Blogfest 15. It was a terrifying experience but I learned a lot and left London feeling exhausted but inspired.

Since then, apart from expanding my knowledge, nothing much has changed. I still sit at home writing my posts, I still watch my children and wait to be inspired. I sit at home and wait for something wonderful to happen to me. 

Only it won't.

Sitting on your backside doesn't change anything. 


The opportunities will not simply arrive on your doorstep. If people don't know you have a talent then whey would they think of you?

A few weeks ago I listened to a Meet the Parents Podcast in which Tim spoke about putting yourself out there as a blogger. If I remember rightly he was discussing Dad Bloggers and how they should attend BML 16, they should "stand up and be counted". Tim was speaking to Dad Bloggers at that point but what he said struck a chord and I couldn't stop thinking about it. 

What if I put myself out there?
What if I took a chance and tried?

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What if YOU put YOURSELF out there?
What if YOU took a chance and tried?

A few months ago I was asked to contribute to another site, Meet Other Mums, but I had some reservations. I have never given myself deadlines or real work to do and writing for another site was almost like having a job. I didn't want a job. What if it all went horribly wrong and everyone laughed at my submissions? What if I was told I was not a good writer and I needed to give up? What if I made a complete fool of myself?

What if...


What if they loved the submissions?
What if people came to my blog because of my submissions to this other site?
What if I took the chance? Even if I did make a fool of myself what was the worst that could happen?

I expect that at some point you have been offered an opportunity that you passed up because fear gripped you. Yet you sit at home and wonder why wonderful things don't happen. I know this because it's exactly what I've been doing. But like I said, what if?

What if you wrote that book?
What if you baked that cake?
What if you wrote the email to that PR person?

If you don't try you will never know.


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After listening to the Meet the Parents Podcast I decided to go ahead with writing for Meet Other Mums. It's not demanding, I only need to submit once every month, so I have said goodbye to my comfort zone.

I've put myself out there.
I'm taking a risk.

Have you?

All the magic happens outside your comfort zone right?

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48 comments:

  1. I am new to blogging and reading this post has really given me some inspiration to try and promote my blog more. My blog is more about giving help and advice to other first time mums who are just as lost as I was especially when thrown a few curve balls! I wish you the best of luck putting yourself out there! I will be coming back to read more. #familyfun

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    1. I'm so glad to have inspired you! That's one of the main reasons I wrote this post, we need to have the confidence in ourselves to promote our blogs. I think it's great that you're trying to let other first time mums know they're not alone! Thanks so much for stopping by. xx

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  2. It has been a funny old time for me Morgan - questioning whether I am good enough. Wondering if I should be doing this or not but like you say you have to put yourself out there and take the risks. I hope this works for you hun. I think you are magic! 🌸 TY for linking up to #FamilyFun 🎉

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    1. Ah bless you! You ARE good enough!!! I love your posts Catie, they're informative, entertaining, and most of all, honest. I think it's all about sticking to who you are and why you blog, if you do that you're onto a winner. It may take a while to get recognition but in the end if you're happy then you've already won.

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  3. You now something Morgan, I could have written this. Not in a 'you stole my blogpost idea' way but I've been pondering the conference thing, the emailing PRs thing and with the latter, I'm there. It's making a difference and now that I've done it, I'm actually IN my comfort zone! Wonderful post that I find very inspiring, thank you :)

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    1. Thanks so much Carol. You should do the conference thing - it is scary but you'll meet people and it becomes easier (slightly). I'm doing britmums live in June, I'm absolutely terrified again but I kind of know what to expect this time so it's a little easier. :)

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  4. This is a really lovely post and I can totally relate to it. I constantly have to push myself because of my anxiety. I'd quite happily just stay in the safety of my own home but as you say nothing will ever change if I did that.

    Congrats on the new writing job, going to pop over and check out the site now #PoCoLo

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    1. Thanks Gina. It's really difficult to keep pushing yourself but I think you have to do it.

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  5. Oh I hear you on the whole comfort zone thing! In fact, the post I linked up today is all about what I learned from taking a huge leap out of my comfort zone by hitting 'publish' on my "No, Mr Cameron, No." post, six weeks ago. I have never experienced anything like it! Am ready to return to my comfort zone for a bit now though! Having said that, the best thing about a comfort zone is the more you step out of it, the bigger it gets and also it's always there for you when you need it. Well done with taking a step out of yours, you never know where it might lead! xx

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    1. Thanks Maddy. I have no idea how I would cope with the sudden success you had with your post. I imagine it was quite a roller-coaster ride. I hope you're right about the comfort zone thing, I'd be happy if all this stepping out of it wasn't necessary!!

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  6. Good for you!! In some ways, writing a blog in the first place is already putting yourself out there, but I don't think you're alone. I think as I live and work in London then I'm used to being a bit bonkers and joining in with things so it never occurred to me not to go to blogging events etc. But then I realised how many supremely confident bloggers there are who never attend anything and prefer to keep life very much online. So whilst the choice is yours, I would definitely recommend dipping your toe in the water, I've gained a lot of confidence from turning up to things and having a good laugh with people. I'm so glad to have found your blog and hope we can meet sometime! X

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    1. Thanks Lins! I'm definitely not an outgoing person - I much prefer a quiet room, but I did enjoy meeting people I've spoken to online. I would love to meet you sometime, it's so lovely meeting people you've been able to connect with online. Are you going to Britmums Live in June?

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  7. Lovely post - it's so true that we have to keep pushing ourselves to make it. I'd love to attend one of the blogging conferences some time soon, just need to make some cash to pay for it! ;) x #pocolo

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    1. Thanks Jessica. Haha, yes some of them are a bit pricey aren't they?
      I hope we get to meet one day. x

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  8. Great post, very inspiring! Best of luck with whatever your goals may be x
    #PoCoLo

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  9. True -you have to be willing to put yourself out there. And that takes guts. Well done for taking the first step! Hugs!

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  10. Well done on taking a step out of your comfort zone. Me writing is taking a step out of my comfort zone. I don't feel like I'm any good, but I am ploughing on regardless as I feel it's the only way to get better. If people like me on the way then that is only a bonus. Bloggers are such supportive folk! Thank you for taking the time to link to #familyfun

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    1. You're right, writing often does make you better. When I go back and read some of my posts from when I first started I want to cringe! The more you do it the better you get! Keep at it hun, you'll get there. And there are people who like you - I'm one of them! :)

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  11. glad you're happy in your new comfort zone, thats all we do really is just widen our lives when we experience new things, however i am fully aware of the downside if you step out there and it back fires, it does take some time and planning

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    1. Thanks Suzanne. You're right, it does take planning, and time. xx

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  12. I'm starting to do this, a little at a time. Sometimes soon I should be contributing to the new Life of Dad website. It can be hard to get over the self-doubt that seems to be a writer's plague

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    1. Oh boy yes that self-doubt demon is an awful affliction!! Ooh lovely to hear you're contributing to another site, you'll have to let me know when you're stuff is live so I can take a look! Good luck with it. x

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  13. Truly inspiring, as others have said. My own stepping outside of the comfort zone was actually starting my blog, as I was so afraid of the technology and that no-one would read it! Thanks for reminding me to continually push the boundaries. And thanks for linkies so that people do actually read what I write! #FamilyFun

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    1. Thanks Cal. When you're a blogger/writer it's hard to get rid of that nagging feeling that you're no good but as long as you write for yourself and keep at it the readers will come. If you like linkies you should check out the linky I host with Stephanie every Friday, #PoCoLo. We'd love to see you there too. xx

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  14. Like you I have wondered about this. I think being where I am and not being able to go to invites had its effect on my blog on to why I am missing out so much. Or it must be because I am not family friendly meaning I write about how my marriage is crumbling. I dont have 'it' and sometimes I want to give up. But then again this is the only platform that I can express myself so I am still here. But I would want something better for the blog just so I can earn and not be where I am now which is close to being a beggar. =( #pocolo

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    1. Oh hun I do feel for you. Please don't think that your marriage crumbling means you're not "family friendly". It is something that is happening to you and writing about it is your outlet. If your writing about it makes it easier for someone else to cope with their own failing marriage then you've helped someone right? You write beautifully and eventually, when you're ready, you'll be earning the big bucks! :) *Hugs*

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  15. OMG I so needed to read this. THANK YOU. The whole comfort zone thing is scary as, but like you say, it's got to be done. I'm getting there. I've put a lot of work into my blog over the last few weeks after having it for over three years. I've only just taken the time I need to start to build it up. I know the next step is socialising in person and as scary as that sounds, I think it could be just what I need for myself as well. Eek. Let's get on it then. I might see you at an event someday...! :) #PoCoLo

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    1. SO glad this has helped you. Good luck with the building your blog up, you're doing great. I'd love to see you at an event! :)

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  16. Morgan this is an amazing post, I love it! Well done for being asked to contribute to the other site, that's amazing and I hope that you achieve everything you want to! I am sort of middle of the road really, I don't blog for a living, I'm not high profile but I do go to events and the such, I'm at BlogCamp in a fortnight and BML16 in June and I can't wait!xx #PoCoLo

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    1. Thanks Hannah, I'm so glad you liked it. I'm at BML 16 in June too - I'll look out for you... or maybe you'll spot me first, I'll probably be the one hiding in the corner somewhere!!

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  17. Hi Morgan, your post has struck a cord with me. At first I took things slowly, learning, reading, growing as a blogger, but now I would like more opportunities. I have been contacted a few times, but regardless of whether the opportunities suited me and my blog I ran for the hills, doubting myself every step of the way.

    I have spent hours researching sites to submit a post to, but never feel quite ready, there's always something else to learn. I do hear the voice that says it's time to step outside of my comfort zone, but I'm just not ready to yet, but I also know myself well enough to know that I'll never feel ready, I must just take a leap of faith...

    I love your images. I need the quote full size on my wall as a reminder!

    xx

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    1. DO IT! Take that leap!
      If you wait until you're ready you'll never do it, like you said. You need to take a risk, ignore those nagging doubts and just go for it.

      Feel free to pinch that image honey!! :)

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  18. You've nailed it Morgan and this really strikes a chord with me. I secretly daydream that one day someone will find my blog and from that day the world will be my lobster.... (or something?) The idea of actually going out there and making it happen terrifies me though. You kind of hope to make it on your own merits of genius (which btw I do believe that you deserve to do!) without having to actually put yourself out there but you're right. We need to step outside our comfort zone to find the opportunities. I blog for M.O.M too and they are a lovely group of people. You will be made to feel very welcome and I'm thrilled that you will be part of the blog squad too! Wishing you every success - your blog is fantastic x
    Thanks for linking up with #FartGlitter.

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    1. Ah bless you thanks Dawn. I am completely blown away by your talent for rhyming, you're a wonderful writer. I think it's funny how we all doubt ourselves but totally big up our favourite bloggers! Bonkers.
      I can't wait to start contributing to M.O.M, it's an exciting (and daunting) new chapter. :)

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  19. What a great post. I hardly ever step out of my comfort zone either, it takes me ages to work up to it. Sometimes I just don't have the energy and other times I just put myself down. Your post has definitely given me food for thought.
    #TwinklyTuesday

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    1. Thanks, glad to help. It's taken me four years to even think about putting myself out there so I totally know where you're coming from. I hope you find the confidence to do so soon. xx

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  20. So true Morgan, and thanks for the pep talk - it's needed every now and then xx

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    1. Hehe you're welcome Stephanie. xxx

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  21. I love this. I think you are right. I want, more than anything, to go into some sort of journalism and it is such a competitive industry. Will you be going to Britmums? It would be nice to see you there!

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    1. Thanks Catherine. Good luck with the journalism, I know it's not easy but I'm sure you'll do great.

      Yes I am going to Britmums Live, I've just booked my train tickets! Would love to meet you. xx

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  22. Love this - it's so true! It's so easy to get overwhelmed & avoid things - I'm terrible for it! Glad you went for contributing to Meet Other Mums - I'm sure your pieces will be brilliant! #PoCoLo

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    1. Ah thanks honey. I'm terrible for staying in one place, wondering why exciting things aren't happening. But I'm learning, albeit slowly, that *doing* things makes those exciting things happen!! 😱

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  23. Oh Morgan this is such a great post. I'm so glad you've decided to take that step forward and put yourself out there because you deserve to! I love your writing and staying still doesn't get you anywhere, take huge strides my dear. GO Go Go

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    1. Ah thanks so much Ceri, I really appreciate that. I'm trying my best, hopefully it will lead to some exciting opportunities. x

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  24. I am about to step well and truly out of my comfort zone. I want to try and do some more writing for magazines and so far my pieces have come about after editors contacted me. Now I have ideas I want to pitch to them and this is something I have ever done before. Wish me luck. (a very late comment from #pocolo!)

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    1. Ooh exciting stuff. Good luck lovely! I'm sure you'll be great. xx

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