10 Things I've Learned From Parenting

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When you become a parent not only are you giving life to another human being but you're starting on a journey that will take you on some of the most exciting and terrifying rides you'll ever have.

I was 23 when I became a mum and I was scared, I had no experience of looking after a baby. The Hubby worked full-time so I was at home with the baby, alone, all day. I was the one he looked to for all his needs.

That little bundle of joy is now 11 years old, and he has a younger brother who is 7. For more than 11 years I've been a mum to boys, they've driven me mad, hugged me to death, and made me so proud. In that time I've learned a lot, it turns out that parenting has quite the learning curve, and it seems the learning never ends. Even with an 11 year old child, a boy on the brink of Teenage-dom, I still have learning to do, as I found out recently after checking his phone.

But there are some things that will always be true about parenting, and so with that in mind below you'll find 10 things that I've learned from parenting. I think these are things that will NEVER change.




Children's toys are expensive


From the simplest cuddly toy to the most extravagant Lego kit you can buy children's toys are incredibly expensive. You can buy teddy bears for more than £100 and Lego sets can reach in to the £1000's. Admittedly Lego has it's benefits and I've been known to play occasionally as you can see in my Taj Mahal, and Tower Bridge posts. 

What I find most frustrating about the cost of children's toys though is the fact that their prices seem to increase just before Christmas. Something you can buy for less than £20 before Christmas will cost you more than £30 from November onwards.


They can be entertained with almost anything


Because of the cost of some toys I have, once or twice, resorted to entertaining my children with household things. 

Cardboard boxes


Cardboard boxes work great, even 6 year olds can be coaxed into playing with cardboard boxes. Take a large cardboard box, cut out holes for windows and one for a small door, and you've suddenly got yourself a playhouse. 

Pots and Pans


These work great if you have some small balls around the house. Place pots/pans at one end of the room and get the children to stand at the other end of the room and try to throw the balls into the pots/pans.

Used Kitchen roll


Use an old kitchen roll as a sword, a gun, a bomb thrower, pretty much anything. The boys and I have many a war with them.

Blankets and pegs


Grab a few sheets and blankets from your cupboard and using pegs to secure them make a den. The boys absolutely love it when I make them a den and even now, at 11 years old, BP will spend hours in a blanket den.


Your ironing/washing pile will reach everest proportions


Mud covered school clothes, food on t-shirts and jumpers, and clean clothes on every day means that your washing pile will get bigger. A lot bigger.

Some days I wonder if my washing pile will fall over and smother me!

I used to be able to stay on top of my washing but since having two boys who insist on playing in the rain, playing football, and basically being boys my washing pile resembles Everest.

As a result so does my ironing pile, I've actually resorted to trying to catch the dryer just as it finishes so I don't have to iron clothes!!


The smallest of things can drive you NUTS


1 solitary shoe left in the middle of the room for you to fall over will leave you seething. Dried toothpaste on the side of the sink, dirty pants left on the bedroom floor, and worst of all, an empty toilet roll left hanging there. All these things drive me insane, I am forever repeating myself and can often be found saying "pick up your pants!" in my sleep!



It's impossible to keep the house tidy all the time


I gave up trying to do this a long time ago. My boys seem to think that leaving things where they take them off is the same as putting them away. Stray shoes, unpaired socks, even pens and pencils from pencil cases can be found on our floor. 

As much as I hate it I know that my boys are happy and they don't stress about making sure everything is in its place. Our house is lived in, not untidy. 





Being a parent is hard


Before you have children you judge parents. You see a new mum pushing a pushchair, she has dishevelled hair, her top is covered in stains, and she looks incredibly tired, and you think she mustn't be trying hard enough. 

Nothing can tire you out more than a child can. From the moment they arrive in this world you worry about them, do everything in your power to protect them, and wear yourself out trying to keep them happy and healthy.

When they get older you have to learn to adjust too, they start school and you have to step back and allow them to learn about independence. They make friends, fall out with friends, and get upset, and all the time you have to let it happen.

You're always feeling conflicting emotions, you want to protect your child at the same time as helping them learn valuable lessons. 

Parenting is the hardest job in the world.


You don't know everything


You could be a genius but the moment you become a parent you learn (fast!) that there are many things you don't know. Your six year old child will come up with questions that leave you stumped. Your toddler will bombard you with questions until your brain is mush. 

And then there's the questions from your tween when they get the influx of hormones and like a girl or boy in school. The heartbreak when they don't get what they want. The tears. 

Sometimes there are just no answers.


The most peaceful time of the day is just after bed-time


Imagine it, the house is quiet, the kids are in bed sleeping soundly, all is calm. This is the BEST part of every day. 

You are able to sit down with your partner (or alone) and enjoy the quiet time however you like. You can watch your favourite TV show in peace, you can have a sneaky glass of bourbon (or wine, whichever you prefer), and you can talk to another adult without being constantly interrupted. 

Make time to enjoy this time of day.


There are some things you can't control


You'll learn fast that there are things in this world that you have no control over. From their first illnesses to the time they fall over and you end up rushing to the hospital to have their arm put in a cast. 

The world will keep on turning, things will happen, and the best thing you can do is be there for you child if and when they need you. 


Nothing will make your day as much as seeing your child happy


Seeing your child bounding along with the biggest smile on their face will fill your heart with such love you may want to cry. The time they open their Christmas/birthday presents and are so pleased with their gift that they scream with joy. When you pick them up from school and they run out of school, with grinning face, and wrap their little arms around you.

There is nothing like seeing your child happy.



Parenting is one of the most fulfilling things you will ever do, and you will learn lots too!

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40 comments:

  1. Aww what a lovely post Morgan. I am with you on these. Imagine how much 4 lots of Christmas presents are lol. No wonder I never have any money. I remember buying expensive presents when they were younger and they loved the boxes more. I think as they get older you worry more. 2 of mine are now at Uni and I am always hope they are ok, eating properly, not drinking too much etc!! Thanks for stopping by the Wednesday blog hop :):)

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    1. Thanks Claire. Oh gosh 4 lots of Christmas presents... like you said, no wonder you've got no money!! Haha, yes I can imagine worrying more when they go to Uni because you don't see them as often. :)

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  2. I agree with all of these! Such a lovely post, thanks for sharing. (I really take my hat off to you becoming a mum so young!!)#coolmumclub

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  3. I love your list and can certainly identify with all that you've listed! I have daughters that are 13 and 15, and I continue to learn more about parenting with every season that passes!!

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    1. oh goodness, two teenage daughters!? I can imagine what that's like! I have two sisters and our house was insane when we were teenagers!!

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  4. That's a fab list. I'm much newer on the parenting journey but I can definitely identify with all of these. Parenting is incredibly hard, as is accepting that there are so many things that you have no control over. That moment when they're asleep and you can take a deep breath and relax is utter bliss (as much as I love spending time with my children, having a bit of time for myself helps to keep me sane). The thing about toys getting more expensive in the run up to Christmas drives me mad too - I'm never organised enough to get them early enough! Thanks for linking up to #FamilyFun

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    1. Funnily enough Louise, this year is the first year we've actually already bought something for Christmas. We're slightly prepared! It may only be one thing but it's a big win for us. :)

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  5. oh I'm with you on so many of these - the washing!! The not knowing everything - though i'm good at blogging that bit but not the washing - can't blag that - it just has to be done, sadly! I really need staff! wouldn't change it for the world though xx #familyfun

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    1. Ooh yes, staff would be really good!! I need that too. :)

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  6. Brilliant points Hun. I've had to learn to get over the mess and not to stress about the washing Everest. My washing basket is never empty but my favourite is your last point - you are spot on there really is nothing like seeing your child happy. TY for linking up to #FamilyFun 🎉

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    1. It's funny isn't it, we spend every day complaining and going through the motions but give us a happy child at the end of the day and we're happy! No wonder people think parents are crazy!! 😂

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  7. All of these are so true, but particularly the last one - there is nothing in the world that beats that big smile on your child's face! Also - an empty kitchen roll tube is the best toy ever! #PoCoLo

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    1. Thanks Katy. x Hehe, we've used kitchen rolls as light sabers, swords, flame throwers, all kinds of things (usually weapons - that's boys for you!). 😂

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  8. I loved reading this. What a great post and all so true!

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  9. We've definitely found this since Marianna came along - baby / toddler toys are so expensive, and all she ever wants to play with is the remote control, or an empty crisp packet or something! It will be harder when she's older though and knows she's being fobbed off with a cheap alternative... ;) x #pocolo

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    1. Haha, yes it definitely gets harder to buy the cheaper alternatives. BP, now 11, knows when he's being fobbed off, and doesn't like it one bit! The funny thing is though, even now BP loves playing with the remote control!! 😂

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  10. So true. Parenting strips off the surface and leaves you with just yourself. Sometimes you like what you see, other times not so much! Great post :)

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    1. Thanks lovely. You're right it does do that, and sometimes you really have to search for yourself. xx

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  11. Lovely post Morgan. Very relatable to all of us. The mess, toot and constantly challenging attitude and worry are far out weighed by the moments of joy. #pocolo

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    1. Joy is key, I think. Finding the joy in the simplest of things makes it all worth it. :)

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  12. Morgan that was great, my boys are 10 and 7 so I can relate to so much that you say. Just last night my youngest had a rare nightmare and slept next to my bed, I've had very little sleep as I was aware of him all night and concerned that we had entered another phase of this. Now he's popped out for a bike ride with my other half and his brother so I could have some me time. It is so hard and so emotional being a parent. More so when you're tired!:) Lovely post x

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    1. Oh yes I agree with that. It's not often I have to get up in the night with either of my boys but when I do I am certainly more emotional for the rest of the day. I hope your youngest doesn't have more nightmares. xx

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  13. Hi Morgan, what makes parenting so difficult is that how we work together as people depends very much on our personality and what works well for one child may not for the other. I've always tried to parent using a good smattering of humour and plenty of patience and find it works for me (most of the time).

    I've also learned that children are perfect for laying the blame at for the extremely lived in look our house always seems to have, not being of a tidy nature myself (shhhh that's between us!).

    My favourite time of the day was watching them when they were sound asleep (something I'm sure they do to me now). Since having children I have learned that I am a morning person and now my favourite time of the day is the time in the morning before anyone else gets up. It's priceless and it's my time.

    Being a parent isn't easy, but would we change it?... Probably not!

    xx

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    1. Oh you're so right Debbie. The house looking lived in is definitely more acceptable because we have children. And you reminded me that I do love the mornings before everyone else gets up. When it's just me. It's lovely to have a coffee and watch the news in peace. :)

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  14. I think every parent out there can relate to this post.
    I also became a Mum at 23 and my other half was working a lot, it's hard doing it on your own but you do get use to it I think. #PoCoLo

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    1. Yes, you do Gina. I think it's more about learning about yourself as you go along, it's all rather scary but once you've been doing it for a while you settle into it. 😊

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  15. On. Point. My house is tidy for about four minutes after I've cleaned it. I stand and look and smell the air freshner and try and appreciate all four of them :)

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    1. Haha, I do that too! It's very rare that my house is tidy for more than about four minutes too. 😊

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  16. This is so touching Morgan. I can already relate to so much that you've written here (My God toys are expensive, and will also permanently be on the floor!) But I can see that I still have so much to learn as the years fly by and they continue to grow.
    Thanks for sharing with #fartglitter xx

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    1. Thanks Dawn. Enjoy the times while they're young honey because before you know it you'll be rhyming about tween/teen tantrums and sex videos! 😱 😘

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  17. The empty toilet roll is a killer! It drives me mad, I asked my teen to change it the other day, she did, but she just left the empty one on the floor, about a foot away from the bin?!?! why would anyone do that? it drives me insane lol - your post is all very true! #fartglitter

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    1. Hehe, thanks honey. I actually got my eldest to change the toilet roll the other day too. And he did just the same thing! I guess we weren't specific enough, next time we'll have to say "and make sure to put the empty one in the bin!!!" 😂 😂

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  18. These are all so true. They really can be entertained by anything - remote controls, button holes, straws...! #PoCoLo

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    1. Hehe thanks honey, it's great isn't it? xx

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  19. awww such a lovely post. Yeah I havent seen the bottom of my laundry basket or parts of my carpet for a very long time and we're only 10months in... eek!
    #pocolo

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    1. Thanks lovely. Hehe, 10 months... boy you've got a lot to come!! 😉

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  20. Great post Morgan and I concur with all of these! I'm convinced our washing breeds once it's in the basket as there always seems to be more coming out of it than went in! And keeping the house tidy is a bit like painting the fourth bridge isn't it? You think you're done and then you have to start all over again :) Thanks for joining us at #sharethejoy x

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    1. Thanks Michelle, I think you're right the washing definitely breeds! xx

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