Finding Joy When The Bus is Late

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Yesterday, as usual, I sent BP out of the house at 7:50am so that he could catch the bus to school. He text me at 8:25am to say that the bus hadn't turned up and I told him it was probably late and he should keep waiting.

Red Bus, "finding the joy when the bus is late..."


When I drove LP to school at 8:30am BP was still waiting at the bus stop so I told him I would take him to school if he was still waiting when I drove past on my way home.

While I walked with LP I phoned BP's school to let them know the bus was running late and that I would take him to school if necessary. The school was understanding and told me that he didn't need to worry and they were aware of a problem. 

BP is a worrier, the bus not turning up, or even being late, will cause him to worry his socks off, sometimes it can bring him to tears. I text him while I was still at school with LP to let him know I'd phoned the school and he shouldn't worry, but I knew he would.

Once LP was in school I drove down the road again to see BP still waiting for the bus. My immediate reaction was one of annoyance, I couldn't believe the bus service would just not run. 

Before I could let the annoyance and anger take hold of me I stopped. I realised that this was an opportunity, one that I don't normally get. 

I got to drive my eldest to school and chat on the way.


On a normal day I would let something like this get to me. I'd get annoyed at the bus company for not making information available, I'd get annoyed that I had to drive longer to take BP to school, and I'd be annoyed that that would mean I had less time for blogging, housework, and all the other things I do during the school day.

Yesterday though, I decided not to, I saw the positives instead. I looked for the joy.

Having a tween in the house isn't much fun, most mornings there's an argument about something. Usually it's about turning the TV off or me asking him to brush his teeth. BP will leave the house in a mood, or crying sometimes, and the Hubby and I end up feeling guilty all day. That happened yesterday morning too, BP left the house in a mood and the Hubby and I felt bad that he was leaving the house unhappy.

Then I got to take him to school, I got to talk to him (not nag him) and he went into school happy. He may have been a little late but he was happy, and that was more important. I shared the joy with my son.

Rather than getting annoyed about something I had no control over I decided to find the joy. I was so glad I did because both BP and I started the day much happier than we would have.

When was the last time you decided to find the joy?


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42 comments:

  1. Sometimes it's the only thing to do... there's no point in getting irritable when there's no solution other than to get on and do something to resolve a problem. Well done for staying positive x

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  2. How lovely! Well done for staying positive.
    We had a situation like this on Monday when Becky went to get her braces tightened. They were running really late and it give me chance to have a chat and giggle with my girls without the interruption of the TV, computers or them wanting to go off and play x

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    1. Thanks. That's great, glad you got to have a giggle with them. xx

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  3. Well done you, so important to just stop sometimes and take stock and realise things can be a blessing in disguise. Mich x

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  4. It's so hard when things don't go to plan but I always try and take a deep breath and make the best of it - sounds like you did a good job! #PoCoLo

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    1. It's not always easy but I managed it this time, and actually enjoyed the drive. :)

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  5. So frustrating when buses run late like this (did it even run that day I wonder?) but so good to be able to reframe it in such a positive way and enjoy having time with BP and send him into school in a much happier mood. Glad you managed to find the positives in something like this :-)

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    1. Thanks hun, I did manage to find out later that the bus didn't actually run through our village until after 9:30am that day. Apparently because of an accident in the village - that had been cleared away by 8!

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  6. Well done in finding the joy in the late running bus. All I'm finding at the moment is the cold!

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    1. Thanks hun, yes it's rather cold isn't it?!

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  7. sometimes the best way to get a teen to communicate is to trap them in a car with you. These always seem the times I can get mine to open up a little also

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    1. It must be something to do with not being able to look at them while you talk - that's all I can think of anyway! :)

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  8. Hi Morgan, sometimes it is hard to find a positive in a negative situation, but it is so worth it. I am so glad that the bus being late turned the start to your day around, a definite positive.

    xx

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  9. Brilliant attitude to have right there, finding the positive! #PoCoLo

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  10. What a great way to turn the situation around! I try to think of Pollyanna and find something in everything to be glad about - even if it doesn't quite fit the philosophy and is more along the lines of 'at least so and so is suffering through this snoozefest too!' ;) #pocolo

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    1. Thanks - yes the Pollyanna thing is a good thing to keep in mind. :)

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  11. I've been in a position lately where I've HAD to find the joy/gratitude in things otherwise I'd have gone insane! Something as mundane as speaking to a utilities company just yesterday and being spoken to (and not listened to) by the most obnoxious person I've ever come across in customer 'care'. I asked several times to speak to someone else and was refused. And so instead of arguing any more, I simply hung up and redialled. And breathe! As for your post Morgan, well done you for finding the good in something that could have been annoying...

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    1. Thanks Carol, and good for you for not letting it get to you. xx

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  12. That's a good way to look at it! The bus not turning up was considered to be the holy grail at my school - all kids hoped for it! #PoCoLo

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    1. Hehe, I never caught the bus when I was at school but I imagine it's still the same! ;)

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  13. I am very much a believer of things happening for a reason - and I think this was your reason. So you could spend a bit more time with him. Well done for finding the positives. It isn't always an easy thing to do! #PoCoLo x

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    1. Thanks Victoria, you're probably right. xx

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  14. Time in a car is always a good way to talk to teens and tweens, they don't have to look straight at you and you can get a good conversation going of things they might not otherwise share with their siblings around or in the rush of everyday life. #Sharethejoy

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  15. It's a worry when the buses are not reliable, it happened to us a lot. I started the year with an attitude of looking at the positives, my glass is half full. I do think it makes me happier and more content with my lot. #abitofeverything

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    1. It does help to focus on the positives. xx

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  16. Love this Morgan, as it's only a small mindset change but it's made such a big difference I'm sure to both of you - let's hope the bus is a bit more reliable but that you can also do this again :) x #PoCoLO

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    1. Thanks Steph, the whole looking for Joy thing has really made a difference to us. x

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  17. I try to do this all the time, to see the positive in everything. Of course it's not always possible, but I try. For example, I have a cold now and I'm feeling pretty miserable. But I get to eat some of my favourite things because the hubby is spoiling me :P #AllAboutYou

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    1. Hehe, see, even though you're ill you get to be spoilt - there's positivity in almost anything, you just have to see it. :) Thanks for stopping by. x

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  18. What a positive way to deal with a situation... it's amazing how we parents find joy even the littlest things for the sake of our kid's happiness. Lovely post! #happydiarieslinky

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  19. Great attitude, I'd probably have lost it. I lived in a village miles from my school when I was a teen and our bus frequently didn't turn up for one reason or another. I used it as a great excuse to spend the day at home. But I think I was naughtier than your kid :-)

    #fartglitter

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    1. Haha! He's only 11 so I don't think he's got to that naughty stage yet, but there's still time! I'm hoping the bus is a little more reliable now though. ;)

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  20. Well you know how much I'm gonna love this post right Morgan? Finding the joy in situations that would otherwise cause frustration is such an amazing skill and follow that up with gratitude as you have and sharing the joy with others is awesome isn't it?! *High Five* Thanks for linking up this happy post at #sharethejoy (Michelle Reeves from The Joy Chaser and The Essex Barn )

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    1. Ah thanks Michelle, I thought you might like it. ;) xx

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  21. Yes, what a lovely way to turn around an annoying situation! Well said, Morgan! I have to take a leaf out of your book. I would have been grumbling about the bus to my child all the way to school.

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    1. It takes a little more effort but I didn't let myself get angry, it would've been pointless because I could do nothing about it anyway. I'm glad I was able to see the positive. :)

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