As a mother with sons, sometimes it can be difficult to integrate into their lives as well as you'd like. Young boys are more likely to gravitate towards their fathers due to shared interests. And that, sometimes, can leave you feeling isolated.
Don't get me wrong, mothers always enjoy a special bond with their sons, but they can't always bond over things so easily.
If you feel as though you're struggling to get involved in your son's life as much as you wish, there are a few steps you can take. Fair warning, though, most of it involves compromise!
In the end, though, it's definitely worth investing the time and energy. You'll enjoy a more fruitful relationship as a result, and your son will certainly appreciate it!
Here are the ways you can achieve this.
Share Their Hobbies
This might seem like it should go without saying, but very few mothers are able to fully invest in this. Fathers are far more likely to share interests with their sons simply by their nature. There's an element of a son looking to his father as a role model, which can result in them trying to impress their fathers. It's usually a mother's job to provide the sensitive side of the relationship, but it doesn't just need to be that way.
Instead, you should take the time to learn about their hobbies and interests. If they play sports, make sure you attend the games and get as involved as you can. For extra brownie points, take on the role of the 'involved' mother. You know, the type that washes the kits for the team, buys football trophies for the end of year awards and drives the kids there and back. Believe me, your efforts will not go unnoticed.
I'm sure we've all learned from experience that it takes an awful lot to get a man to open up to us about his feelings. Did you know, though, that the same applies to boys? There must be something in their genetic makeup because even young boys struggle to express themselves with words. One of the best things you can do to enhance your relationship is to learn how to spot it when there's something on his mind.
Whereas little girls are more likely to tell you how they are feeling, boys will do so with their actions. They may start acting up, or try to spend time on their own. Learn these little nuances and be the one to approach him if you suspect there's something troubling him. He'll find it easier to talk if you bring up the subject, and you'll find it easier to forge a healthy relationship together.
There are times when you'll feel at the end of your tether, and that's okay. Nobody ever promised that parenting would be easy. It is, by and large, a two-person job, after all. Don't be afraid to delegate to dad if you're at your wits end. Just understand that you both have important roles to play in your son's upbringing.