You are Beautiful

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When I was a teenager I felt ugly. I was super-skinny, tall (compared to friends), I had really thick and greasy hair, and glasses.

Morgan's Milieu | You are Beautiful: Photo of Morgan Prince.
Imagine mousy brown hair (three times as thick),
dark-rimmed round glasses and less wrinkles!

My friends were beautiful, other teenage girls were beautiful, but me - not so much. 

Having glasses only made me feel worse, I already hated how I looked but to add glasses to the mix when I turned 13 was devastating. I instantly became the "four-eyes" of the classroom and my self-esteem took another hit.

The teenage years are so hard on girls; growing boobs, periods, and not knowing how to deal with the hormones raging through your body. Add to that my parents' divorce and a dark secret, I was tormented.

I didn't have a caring mother showing me how to deal with the problems, I didn't have a friend who could understand. It was just me, all alone.

In my years on this earth I have heard some of the most hateful words from so-called friends. All about my appearance. They only reinforced what I thought about myself. 

But somewhere along the way I realised that I am beautiful.

I may not be supermodel-skinny, have radiant skin, or perfect vision, but I am beautiful. 

It's taken me a long time to realise that you don't have to look "perfect" to be beautiful. As with most things it was the children that made me see myself for who I really am.

We were looking through our wedding photo album, probably 6 or 7 years ago now. BP, who would've been 3 or 4 at the time, looked at me in my wedding dress. 

Morgan's Milieu | You are Beautiful: Morgan Prince, in her wedding dress.

"Oh mummy! You look like a princess!" he said.

Tears welled in my eyes and I smiled. 

When the Hubby and I got married I was a big size 16 and I wasn't too pleased with my appearance. My hair was still thick and unruly and I had bad teeth. But Big Prince didn't see any of that, what he saw was his mummy, dressed in a gorgeous ivory dress, with a tiara on her head. A princess.

That simple statement made me see.

It doesn't matter what you did before, who you were or what you look like. To your children you are the most beautiful person on earth. Even when you're in sweatpants and wearing no make-up. 

As we're growing we all have things we hate about ourselves, whether that's our skin colour, our thick hair or the fact that we wear glasses. But we are all beautiful.

You are beautiful.


You are unique, special, and talented. 


Those people who say hateful words, the ones who call you names and try to hurt you? They hate themselves too, and calling people names is how they deal with that hatred. They point it at someone else.

I am here to tell you to ignore those awful words. 

If you're hair is blonde, brown, or even pink, you have freckles all over, you wear glasses - great big thick ones, have birthmarks and stretchmarks or no, have scars from injuries, can walk or are in a wheelchair, have thick unruly hair or thin wispy hair...

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.


Don't let anyone tell you different.

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40 comments:

  1. Oh this made me tear up, aren't I a soppy mare?! Wonderful words, it's brilliant that you recognise your beauty now and I'm sad that your friends didn't help you see it as a teen.
    You look absolutely wonderful in your wedding dress. Your son was right by calling you a princess x glad I found you on #sharethejoy.

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    1. Ah thanks so much Tinuke. I think we all need a helping hand to see our own beauty sometimes and I hope that I can help others see their beauty with this post. :)

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  2. Such an inspiring post. I'm sorry that you had to encounter friends who were so unfair to you, but you have loved ones around you now who see your worth :) That is a really lovely, natural wedding photo - you look stunning! x

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    1. Thank you Jenny. I do have my loved ones now and you know what, they're all that matter! :) Thank you for your lovely, kind comments. xx

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  3. Brilliant post Morgan, just brilliant. You are absolutely right, and that wedding photo is amazing x

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  4. What a fantastic post! I am so sorry your teen years were horrible but you are an amazing person! So inspiring!

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  5. Oh wow! What a stunning wedding photo! Absolutely stunning! You are beautiful both inside and out - people generally say hurtful things when they are jealous of you. You keep smiling xx

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    1. Thanks so much. You are right they do, and the best way to deal with it is to make them feel worse. ;)

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  6. How beautiful, you are a princess, what a gorgeous post xxx bless him xxx great write up, thanks for sharing #sharewithme

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    1. Thank you so much. My boys mean the world to me and I'm thankful for them every day. :)

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  7. This is an important message and a lovely post. I love the photos too, you look beautiful in both of them...can't beat a wedding dress swoosh though! Lucy @ occupation:(m)other

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    1. Thanks Lucy. I think a lot of teenage girls grow up thinking they're not good enough and we need to do our very best to make them see their own beauty. Thank you for your kind words. xx

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  8. Lovely post Morgan and you're right, beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and our children will always see us as beautiful xx

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  9. What a lovely post, and you're so right. N calls me a princess and ballerina any time I wear a dress (highly unusual, he's probably only seen me in one about 5 times). It's a great feeling.

    I know I need to lose 5 stone to be healthy again, but having a young child worship you does make you think about the good things about yourself.

    And that wedding photo - you do look stunning in it.

    #sharewithme

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    1. Emma you should ALWAYS think good things about yourself, regardless of your size. It helps having children there to see the you that you don't. But you really need to work hard on seeing the beautiful you.

      All the parts of you that make you unique are what make you beautiful.

      Thank you for your lovely comments, it was a fabulous day and I loved that dress! :)

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  10. What I need today! You just dont know how bad I am feeling today. So many bad things happening this week for me to make me feel inappropriate. Thank you. #sharewithme

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    1. Oh my Merlinda I'm so glad you popped over and read this. I hope you are feeling better and so pleased that I could help you, if only a little. xx

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  11. What an inspiring post. I'm so pleased that you can see your beauty now, I hope someday soon I will see mine

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    1. Thank you and I hope you can too Olivia. You really are beautiful. Let the inner you shine and you will see that beauty. xx

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  12. *sniff* LOVE this! It made me think of the song 'Beautiful' by whats-her-name (senior moment) and you DO look like a Princess in your dress! Thank you for reminding us all that we're beautiful and for linking this up at #sharethejoy x

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    1. Thanks Michelle. I think the 'Beautiful' song was Christina Aguilera (is that spelt right?), I think... So glad you liked the post. We all need a little reminder sometimes. ;)

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  13. Love this! If only we could see ourselves through our children's eyes! You really are beautiful though and I'm glad you finally think so yourself! Thanks for spreading such a good message! #sharewithme

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    1. Thanks so much Krissy. It would be great if we could see ourselves that wouldn't it? I think it is now our job to teach our children to think this way, before they're bogged down with hateful thoughts. :)

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  14. OH they really see true beauty is all. Kids are yet tainted with the media and what looks beautiful to them at this age is true beauty. You look amazing on your wedding day. He was right. Lovely. Thanks for linking up to Share With Me. #sharewithme

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    1. Thank you Jenny.

      Oh yes, the media have lots to answer for don't they?

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  15. What a lovely inspiring post, you really do look like a princess on your wedding day x #sharewithme

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    1. Ah thanks so much. I'm glad you enjoyed it. xx

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  16. A lovely post Morgan and it hits the nail on the head. I think it's a shame we only learn these things after the years of upset. Our 13 year old selves really needed a pep talk like this back then didn't we? Luckily we can tell our children. Gorgeous photos too x

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    1. Thanks Emily, you're totally right. I'm glad we can pass on our wisdom to our children and I hope we can prevent the heartache. Thank you. xx

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  17. Aw this is a beautiful post. And I love that photo of you in your wedding dress!

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  18. This is such a lovely post and brought tears to my eyes. I think every teenage girl should read this because it really is such a traumatic time of your life and it's not until you are grown up that you can look back and realise these things.

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    1. So very true Nicola. I wish we could make them see how beautiful they are, and how beautiful they will become. It is so hard to get it through to them though. Thank you for your kind words. xx

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  19. Lovely, lovely post Morgan and so very true! And I'm not at all surprised your son thought you looked like a princess in that shot - you look amazing! Thanks for linking to #WhatImWriting xx

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    1. Ah thanks Maddy. Our children have a wonderful talent for making us feel amazing don't they? You can be at your lowest and all it takes is a little smile from them and you're on top of the world. :)

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  20. Great post and absolutely spot on-I love how our children remind us of what's really important.

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    1. They really do. Thank you and I'm glad you liked it. xx

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