Time for a Switch-aroo!

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I always feel like a failure.


I know, depressing right? 

Morgan's Milieu | Time for a Switch-aroo: Yellow tulip shining in the sun.

It's not that I'm not happy, believe me I am, but a lot of the time I see the things I'm not doing rather than the things I am. I focus on the negative and bring myself down. If I've had a good week of writing I'll see the piled dishes in the kitchen. If the dishes are put away I'll focus on the fact I've got no writing done. 

I love writing and blogging and over the past month Morgan's Milieu page views have risen. It takes a long time to build up a readership and the past few months I've been blogging most days. Since January my page views have risen from about 5 per day to 100 per day. I have no way of knowing if this is good or bad but you can guess what the voice in my head thinks.

I can see, when I look at it logically, that the rise is good but in my head that nasty voice tells me the rise is small and it's because I'm not good enough. It screams insults and says I must be doing something wrong. I've been blogging for more than three years and I only get 100 page views per day? Bad, bad writer.

Whether it's the self-doubt demon eating away at me, writer's block stopping me from getting anything done or my own evil voice telling me I'm no good there's always a negative voice.

All these negative voices are me.

I hate myself.

It's time for that to STOP!

If I can't believe in myself how can I expect anyone else to believe in me?

After reading an amazing post from Kate Portman over at Pouting in Heels I've decided it's time for a switch-aroo*. 

Kate's post was about her inner voice and how she is becoming her own best friend. She talks to herself how she would talk to her best friend and it has transformed how she treats herself. 

I'm taking my cue from Kate and doing just that. I will be my own best friend, my cheerleader. If I hear that negative voice I will stop myself and focus on something good. Like today, I've written this blog post.

I've shared something in my heart.

I made myself smile.

As a busy mum, whether working or staying at home, it's easy to concentrate on things that aren't getting done. Your friends are there to tell you it's okay but your friends aren't there 24/7, YOU are.

If, like me, you tell yourself you're rubbish try a switch-aroo*. Praise yourself for the little wins. 

Put on your best dress, wear make-up and continue your day with a smile on your face. 

Wake every morning and do something nice for YOU.

You deserve it. You try to make others happy every day, it's time for YOU now.

Morgan's Milieu | Time for a Switch-aroo: Pink flowers growing up towards the sky.

Reach for the sky!

* My new word for turning things around.

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23 comments:

  1. Well done! For your awesome blog, for being so open and for dealing with the issue head on! Now how do we deal with the probolem of me thinking I'm doing great when I'm clearly just sat in my pyjamas eating wotsits? ;)

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    1. Thanks!

      Hey, if you're sitting in your pyjamas eating wotsits I'd call that a big WIN!!! Go You!

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  2. Good for you! Negativity is so bad....I like your new way of thinking!
    I love your blog....You are not a bad writer!
    Switch-aroo is a great word x

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    1. Ha! Thanks Kim. I love my new word and my new attitude. xxx

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  3. You're doing brilliantly Morgan! That negative voice in your head really is wrong and I'm glad you're taking steps to kick it to the curb. Your blog stats sound great to me (have just checked mine, and they're much lower) - I steer clear of looking at that stuff too often as I think it can easily make me feel negative about blogging when in actual fact I've achieved the most important thing to me which was making connections with lovely bloggers/writers! Good on you for the switcharoo. Oh and #whatImWriting is back from it's easter break now if you want to link this post up? xx

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    1. Bless you thank you Maddy! I agree with you on the stats thing, they're not everything and it is very hard to fight that voice when you see your stats take a dive. I love the fact that blogging has connected me to such a wonderful community of people. I did know that #WhatImWriting was back but didn't know if it was okay to link this post up as it's not really about writing. I've just linked up though so thanks for that. xx

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    2. It's totally relevant and honestly there are no hard and fast rules for #whatImWriting anyway - always happy to have you join in. xx

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  4. Hi Morgan, Thanks for following me on Twitter. Looking at the number of followers on my Twitter account, you are not so bad ! From this post, I know you are great, great great, great, great!! x0

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    1. Hi hun, you're welcome. Thank you for your very kind words. xx

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  5. Everyone needs to give themselves a positivity kick up the bum every now and then and blog stats certainly don't help things. Maddie is right about not being obsessed by them. The more important thing is that you enjoy it and you get lovely comments that make you smile!

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    1. Yes you're both right about that Nicola. It is really easy to get obsessed by stats, I try my best. :)

      I do love writing the blog and getting comments still makes my day every time. I can't believe people actually read what I write sometimes. Thanks for stopping by Nicola. xx

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  6. I hear you! It can be so hard to shut those negative voices up, but I love your positive attitude here. I honestly think a positive outlook is self-fulfilling and leads to lots more greatness - not that I'm actually very good at taking my own advice!! Good luck sustaining your switch-aroo :) xx

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    1. Thanks Sophie! It is hard to sustain positivity but I do my best. Now to get back to writing the novel and I'll feel awesome! :D

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  7. I agree with the others Morgan, you are fab. Very best of luck with squashing those self doubt demons and having a switcharoo xx

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    1. Thanks Renée. I just need to keep smashing the self-doubt demon over the head. I'll beat it if it's the last thing I do! :)

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  8. What a brilliant post! Love it! Those negative voices are a constant in my head so will be taking note and advice from you. Just what I needed to read :)

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    1. Ah thanks hun. I hope it helps you. xx

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  9. Very positive post. As a stay at home dad, I foten feel guilt at what doesn't get achieved on the domestic front (...because I get distracted by blogging!). Anyway, I know of long established bloggers who aren't hitting your figures! Best of luck #BrilliantBlogPosts

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    1. Thanks John. I think that guilt is never-ending but we can't let it get us down. If we put our minds to it we can achieve anything! Thanks for stopping by, I really appreciate it. xx

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  10. Go Morgan! Loving the positivity. The level of views you are getting is awesome. X

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  11. An amazing, thought provoking post. You have to be your own best friend and cheerleader - I totally agree with that. I am forever talking to myself and I will even disagree with myself. Don't let housework or anything else get you down - so much goes into blogging and you have done so, so well! Sending you big hugs - give yourself a a big cheer! Sim xxx

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    1. Thanks so much Sim, it is a constant battle but having the right attitude can make such a difference! xx

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