Re-defining Myself

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Last week I asked "Are You A Writer?" and, if you are, when you realised you were a writer. Some of you told me you'd always thought of yourselves as writers and some said it was a few years ago that you realised.

Morgan's Milieu | Re-defining Myself: A tidy desk with Macbook - if only mine was this tidy!


I've been writing since 2011 but didn't think of myself as a writer. I blogged about being a stay-at-home mum (SAHM), I wrote a (terrible) novel, and each time I wrote I felt a sense of achievement. Writing gave me something else to worry about other than Little Prince starting nursery. I was a young mum and letting my youngest go to nursery was a hard step. Writing was my saviour.

Over the past few months I've written daily. The start of the year saw me start writing my novel in 30 minute bursts and I made great progress. I enjoyed the writing time, got into a great routine and my story stayed in my head. Then half-term happened and messed up the routine. Not that I'm complaining, sometimes having a break does us good. The problem is the novel is still waiting for me to get back to it.

But I have done more writing.

Blog writing daily, somehow finding things to write about, has been great. It makes me feel I've achieved something every day.

I always thought of myself as a SAHM but it's time I redefined who I am. I don't just stay at home and do housework anymore. Yes, there's still laundry to do and dishes to clean, but it gets done after picking up my boys from school. The majority of my day is spent writing and yesterday I earned money for writing something - you will not believe how happy that makes me!

I decided to re-define who I am, I'm no longer a SAHM I'm a WAHM (work-at-home mum). I may work for myself but I am working and it feels awesome!


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18 comments:

  1. I'm not sure we're ever stay at home mums really so I love that you've changed your status to work at home mum, sounds like you've been busy and completely earned that title #AllAboutYou

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    1. Thanks! All mums are busy, whether they're SAHM's, WAHM's or working mums. It's only really in my own head that things have changed. Although when people ask now I may well tell them I'm a writer. :) Thanks so much for stopping by and commenting. xx

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  2. It's really positive to think of your role differently. I get annoyed that society is a bit down on SAHMs (and it can be down on working mums too!). Whatever we do it feels tough and we get dispirited. But you should be calling yourself a writer because that's what you do. I've been a WAHM for many years now.

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    1. As usual you're right Emily, society really is down on SAHMs. Yep, I'm a writer. Woo! Thank you. xx

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  3. I don't like many assumptions that seem to be made about being a mum today-whether it's as a 'SAHM' or 'working mum'. I suppose it has its legacy in a long and complicated history that is still unfolding. I think the most important thing is how we see ourselves-enjoy your new identity :)

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    1. Thanks Iona. It's a big step for me, my role as mum has been fixed for a long time so it feels kind of strange changing it (I'm still mum, just working mum). It is all about how we see ourselves, you're right. xx

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  4. BOOM! Awesome post - great you've got your focus! So exciting for you!

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    1. Ah thanks Aimee. xx I may even use the positivity and determination to get back to that novel!

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  5. I love how you have reframed your role, and you are absolutely right! And, I do think that the role of a SAHM needs redefinition too, in general terms. I work just as hard now :) #whatimwriting

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    1. I think the role of SAHM suggests you have ample time to yourself and in reality that's just not the case. It's only when the little ones get a bigger that you have more time and even then a lot of that time is spent cleaning up after them or washing their clothes. Thank you Sara. xx

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  6. Hooray! It's great that you've found the confidence to call yourself what you are! Are you now going to start calling yourself a writer when people ask what you do? Bet earning that money felt great - well done you! Thanks for linking to #WhatImWriting xx

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    1. OMG Maddy - earning the money was wonderful! And yes, I will be calling myself a writer, it is what I do and I won't be afraid to own it anymore. The book may be a long time coming but I still write every day and that makes me a writer. xx

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  7. Well done for earning money for your writing - a really big step! I often wonder quite what to call myself. Such a big portion of my day is spent writing (alongside the childcare), but until I'm actually getting some kind of income from it I find it hard to call myself a 'work' at home mum, even though I'm working bloody hard! Recently I've contented myself with 'write at home mum', which seems to do the trick :) xx

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    1. I totally know where you're coming from Sophie. It took for me to earn money (not much I admit) from my writing to be able to take that step. For you, it sounds like you're well on your way to earning money, once your book is out there I'm sure it'll do great! xx

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  8. Yeah, go you! You work so hard on your blog, that it's great to get the recognition for that with some paid work. Love this positive post.

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    1. Thanks Nicola. I really do work hard and I'm constantly battling the fear that the block will get me soon. But for now I'm doing okay and I'll keep going while I can - you never know when it'll end. :)

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  9. Well done, Morgan. It's diffuclt fighting those demons and recognising that writing is a job and it's bloody hard (almost as hard as parenting!) X

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    1. Almost. They share a few common things though, like talking to yourself!

      Thanks Chrissie. xx

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