Happy As I Am


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A friend of mine came over a few days ago and brought her girls with her. This kept my boys occupied and meant that we could have a good long gossip (you know us women are like). Whilst enjoying a coffee we talked about all kinds of stuff from divorce to outings with the children.

One of our many topics was getting dressed up to go out. My friend had told me she'd been shopping recently and spent a bit of money on clothes. She recently met a new man and was excited about looking nice for him. On her trip out she'd tried on a really fancy looking dress, not because she had anywhere to wear it to but because she liked the dress. She told me how gorgeous it looked and how fantastic she felt in it. In the end she didn't buy it but I think she should have - a little treat never hurts.

Talking about fancy dresses got us onto the topic of going out and I told my friend how much I missed getting dressed up. When the hubby used to work elsewhere there would be a big christmas party to go to and I'd go shopping for a new dress every year. I loved it. The day of the party would be a big deal - I'd have babysitting sorted for the whole day and overnight, I'd be booked in at the hairdressers and I'd spend hours getting ready.

It's been years since I've done that and I used to miss it. I didn't miss the hours the hubby had to work and the time he spent at the office. I didn't miss all the trips out of the country he had to make but being able to spend a whole day looking for just the right dress and another making myself look fantastic was the highlight of my year.

These days my nights out aren't 'out' at all, me and the hubby much prefer to watch a movie together and have a drink at home. And that's the strange thing, although I know that I missed all the excitement of that one night out the idea of it sounds much better than the reality of having to do it. I'd feel like I should be doing something else, like the washing or ironing!

Back when I looked forward to those christmas parties I was young and enjoyed being out and socialising. Now I love nothing more than sitting in front of the TV watching a great movie or brilliant series, my man next to me and a cold bourbon and (diet) coke in my hand. I don't need all that glamour and other nonsense, I am happy as I am. Especially when I'm wearing my pj's too!

As for my friend, it turns out she may be needing that glamorous dress after all.

What things do you miss from your past, if anything?

Mama and More


  1. Getting dressed up and pampering yourself for the day does sound fun! I always feel like doing something like that to bring in the New Year. Haven't gotten around to actually planning it though! My husband travels a lot so when he's home, I really enjoy doing what you described-watching a movie alone together. :) #allaboutyou

    1. I think that's the thing, it *sounds* like fun! Too much trouble these days!
      I totally agree with what you do when the hubby's home, enjoy your time alone - it's the best. :)
      Thanks for stopping by. x

  2. I am exactly the same hon. I used to love the fancy black tie Xmas work dos but couldn't think of anywhere I'd rather be less nowadays... I'm useless at socialising in general at the mo, unless it's just with one or two friends #allaboutyou

    1. I'm so rubbish at socialising, being an introvert I guess it's not surprising. I made a conscious effort this year to talk to people and have made a couple of new friends. Hate the big gatherings now though, too much effort required. ;)

  3. I love the glitzy dos just as much as I do the snuggling up on the sofa - sometimes I miss the glam events I used to attend more regularly through my work, and dressing up for work itself, but although I'm at home with the kids most days, I still make sure I don't feel like I've given up in terms of what I wear. I'm in a different place now, and wouldn't change that for the world. I don't see anything wrong in looking back fondly at the past, and enjoying the present! Thank you so much for linking up to All About You xx


    1. I don't think I've given up on the fashion stuff, I try at least! I do admit to feeling a lot more comfortable at home though, but that may be a consequence of ten years of parenting! :)


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