Chaos IS Normality. Who Knew?

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For the last few months I've written a few posts about normality being restored after various incidents. Blogger's block, kids holidays and illness have taken their toll and I always refer to me writing again as being 'back to normal'. Over the easter break I've come to realise that this just can't be true, the interruptions to my writing time seem to happen more often than not so Chaos must equal Normality!

Whether it's blogger's block, being ill, kids holidays or anything else that might pop up, they're all normal; my everyday routine. Those times when things calm down and I do actually have time to get a decent amount of writing done, they're the blips, the disruption to routine. I don't know why I didn't realise this before, after all isn't that what being a parent is? Living amongst complete chaos and somehow managing to not go insane?

I've said before that I thrive on routine, I like to know that what happened yesterday is going to happen today. The time I had last week will be just the same this week and nothing is going to get in the way of that. But of course when you have children this just doesn't happen, there's always something going on. That routine I crave so much is just a figment of my imagination and it will never arrive.

My boys are back at school today and the house is quiet, which is lovely. The kitchen needs tidying, there's a mountain of washing and ironing to do but at least the kids toys are away. I'm trying very hard to find that motivation to make sure all the housework gets done. For the whole easter break I've felt like all things conspired against me and I got nothing done. I was ill for about a week, then LP was ill and then it was my turn again. All this on top of decorating BP's bedroom, a friend's birthday party and travelling to see family. Now that the boys are back at school all I really want to do is go to bed and sleep. I feel drained.

I'll keep going, pushing myself to complete the housework (at least partially) and squeezing in as much writing as I can before the school run. Eventually the fitness will be back into my 'routine' and I'll begin to feel like me again. Finding time for everything is hard, prioritisation just means that some things don't get done. But again, it's human nature and sometimes it's okay to forget about things and just relax. 

Being a parent is difficult and draining and making sure the family and home runs smoothly is a 24/7 job. From now on I'm going to give myself the breaks when I need them and I suggest you do the same. It's pointless berating ourselves all the time for not getting things done, chores will still be there tomorrow. Pushing our bodies harder and hoping that we have the strength to work past illness without taking breaks just doesn't work. Take the breaks you need, take time for yourself and everything else will fall into place. 

Or at least I hope it will...


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12 comments:

  1. Hi Morgan, thanks for stopping by you reminded me to hop over. I struggle with finding time to blog and family too. The whole blogging thingy takes a lot of time writing and caching up with everyone especially in holidays. Can you believe I have been meaning to stop by your blog for weeks since your last visit, haha better late than never :) I try to get up earlier and bed later but twitter/facebook then takes up my time!!

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    1. I think all bloggers know exactly what you're talking about Claire. Hehe, I've done that a few times, meaning to hop over to someone's blog and then completely forgetting until they comment on something I've written. I have a terrible memory, I use my phone to remind me of things and sometimes even that doesn't work! The staying up late or getting up earlier never works for me, the kids always get up or start being naughty! Thanks for stopping by. xx

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  2. It's so true that we need to take time to rest and time to do things that we enjoy. We encourage others to do it, but it's hard to make ourselves do it guilt free!

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    1. Oh yes, that guilt is always there isn't it? Thanks for stopping by. xx

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  3. Essential to take time out and do what makes you happy too-big believer in being a happy mummy makes happy kids, we all put ourselves last so often but we need strength and rest to be the best parents we can. #allaboutyou

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    1. Strength and rest are really important and you're right, happy mum does make happy kids. xx

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  4. Awwww more power to you Morgan.....it happens to the best!! I've been a working mom ever since I could remember so I can relate to all the chaos but now that my kids are all grown up, I miss those days! I'm just a message away if you need someone to talk to. :-)

    Rebecca
    www.redtagchiclosangeles.com

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    1. That's so nice of you Rebecca, thank you. I'm not sure I'll get to the 'missing' these days, the chaos is a little overwhelming sometimes! Thank you for stopping by. xx

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  5. I could have written this Morgan! And feel like this most of the time! Totally agree with Honest Mum too. Also, I find switching off from tech helps with my sanity when I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed! When I'm stressing out about what to tweet or how many people are following me, it's time to switch off and do some washing! Or reading or chatting to a friend, you know what I mean? xx #allaboutyou

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    1. I really do know what you mean, I tend to let it all go while I'm running/walking. Just let the energy flow through me and completely forget about everything but my feet pounding the ground! Thanks for stopping by. xx

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  6. Hi Morgan, it all sounds perfectly normal to me! In fact I get a little bit suspicious of people who are immaculately turned out, have clean and tidy houses (all the time), have well turned out children (always) and manage to do everything they want/plan (whilst constantly smiling). That to me is just not normal, as is having a tidy underwear drawer and not having a junk drawer of some type!

    Family is most definitely what gets in the way of my blogging and although I know my life runs better and I achieve more with routine, I also know that one day the chaos will be gone (well not totally as I'm just not that kind of person)....And if the floor doesn't get swept or the windows cleaned, it doesn't matter as there is always tomorrow....Or the day after...Or the day after that...And if not, it will probably never be mentioned in my obituary, so it doesn't really matter!

    Best place for taking a break is under the bed or walking the dog!

    xx

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    1. Thanks Debbie. I'm not the sort to have perfectly turned out children or house, I don't see the point in spending lots of energy trying to keep a house spotless when I have two active boys. Also, I hate chores, and would much rather spend the time blogging!

      Haha, I'd have to clean under the bed first! And we don't have a dog so that's not an option. I tend to hide in the bathroom! ;)

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