Spring Clean of the Mind

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As a stay-at-home mum I have lots of jobs to do on a daily basis and most of you know what they are. The typical jobs that drive us mad and never go away, cleaning, hoovering, ironing, etc. Sometimes those that don't do our job think that we sit on our bottoms all day watching Jeremy Kyle on the TV, cake and tea by our side. Other's think that as a stay-at-home mum we must really hate all these jobs and would love to go out to work every day. The truth is that we all fall somewhere in the middle.


A lot of the time I hate all of my jobs, I hate that, half-an-hour after the hoovering has been done, LP will have a pack of crisps and get half the pack on the carpet. I hate that even after spending a whole day loading the washing machine, and dryer, and ironing the clothes, within two days I will have a very large pile of dirty clothes ready to be washed again. I hate dusting all the counter tops, window sills and tables only to have that dust settle again and again and again. Absolutely all of the jobs that I do are never ending, I have to do the same work over and over and sometimes that really gets me down. The feeling that I'm never making progress will fill my head and that darkness will grow until I can't keep it in any more and I will break down in tears. It doesn't happen often but when it does I really do feel like I'm not worth anything, as if the work I do doesn't count.

The strange thing is that even though this is how I feel about the housework I can also feel the exact opposite. As you've probably gathered, if you're a regular reader, there have been a few things getting to me of late and I've felt that breaking point heading towards me fast. I never know what to do when I recognise the symptoms and usually I will just face that breakdown and let it pass but this time I've managed to abate it. You'll never guess what did it... Cleaning!

I know, odd right? I didn't actually decide that I was going to clean to try and get rid of my building darkness, that's not something I would ever think of given that it's the cleaning that usually causes it. I have friends coming over later today and yesterday the house looked like it had had various bombs land on it. A bomb filled with toys - Lego, Moshi Monsters and super hero figures had landed on the carpet in the lounge. One filled with bread crumbs and crisps had landed around the coffee table and sofa and another filled with paper, crayons, felt tips and colouring books had exploded all over my dining table. My kitchen didn't look much better and I knew there was some serious cleaning required. I got stuck in to it and spent most of the day tidying things away and making sure the house looked respectable. The more I tidied and cleaned the clearer my head felt and when I looked at my gleaming kitchen I smiled. I was actually achieving something.

By the time I'd finished my whole body ached, my arms felt like lead and my legs didn't want to move but my mind was brighter, the darkness had gone. Not only had I cleaned my house but I'd cleaned my mind too, who'd have thought?

After the kids had gone to bed the hubby and I settled down to watch a movie and last night we chose Music & Lyrics starring Hugh Grant and Drew Barrymore. If you love 80's music and romantic comedies then this is the movie for you, it's got all the necessary ingredients of a great movie. Before I knew it it was bed time and I realised I hadn't blogged at all so I took the computer upstairs with me to get on with some work. And that's when the internet decided to start playing up. I couldn't comment on the blogs I'd read and I couldn't post my own. That's what you get for living in a village I guess, intermittent internet problems. So here I am, early Wednesday morning writing my blog post.

I'm happy today, my darkness has subsided and I'm feeling bright and optimistic. Who knew cleaning could be so therapeutic?

How about you - is there something that's surprised you this week?


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12 comments:

  1. I often find that an hour or two spent being really productive makes me feel so much more positive. I find that being surrounded by mess has a really negative impact on my mood, and although that isn't always quite enough to do something about it (!) when I do, I feel so much calmer. I'm glad that you are feeling brighter x #MMWBH

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    1. I'm like that too, I can't write when there's mess. My little office used to be filled with all sorts of things, old baby clothes and equipment, old shoes, it was all piled high and I found it really difficult to write anything. I spent a whole weekend sorting it out, taking lots of stuff to the tip and giving some away and once I came back to a clean and tidy room I felt loads better. Thanks for stopping by and commenting. xx

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  2. I fall in the catagory that hates cleaning! It makes me miserable. I like to be productive but I generally am quite organised. I will tidy everything away but generally my hubby does the pants jobs like hoovering and polishing! I just class us as a "modern" family, my OH's family are under the impression the woman should do all of the house work. Glad you are feeling brighter and I only wish I could find cleaning more therapeutic! xx

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    1. I totally don't agree with 'the woman should do all of the house work', I think it should be a combined effort. However if the woman stays at home (like me) and the hubby goes out to work, or vice versa, then the stay-at-home parent ought to also take care of the housework. I believe that's part of my job and as long as things are tidy then there's no room for complaints. Sometimes I let it get on top of me and this is when I start to feel down, a good cleaning day always helps. :) Thanks for stopping by and commenting. xx

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  3. I hate cleaning...I mean really hate it...but I find when I am not quite feeling myself, all of a sudden there is a thorough deep cleaning of a room and I feel much better. I don't know how it works and the house is still a mess, but the fact that one room is spotless makes me feel better.

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    1. I wish I knew what made it happen, it's like magic isn't it? Thanks for stopping by and commenting. xx

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  4. Hate cleaning - love the immediate impact of a clean neat house. Its one of those blooming paradoxes! I work part time so I generally squeeze all my cleaning into about an hour once a week! Its the bare minimum but just enough. One day I will have the wherewithal to do a deep clean and that will be very satisfying but I know I will find reasons to put it off! I think mess, dirt and clutter can be overwhelming and depressing and the actual act of cleaning and tidying (once you're actually in the swing of it) is a kind of therapy...

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    1. You're so right, it is a kind of therapy. I love that 'fresh' feeling when everything's neat and tidy but like you hate actually starting the work to get it that way. Thanks for stopping by and commenting. x

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  5. Nothing better than the freedom of a clean house, although I'll procrastinate at every turn in getting there... thanks for sharing such a relatable post! #PoCoLo

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    1. Thank you for stopping by and commenting. I think we all do our fair share of procrastination when it comes to cleaning the house, I think it's knowing that the battle will begin again tomorrow - so what's the point? :)

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  6. I remember my mother casually mentioning that she could do with me and my teenage boyfriend having another one of our sporadic breakups so that I could go manic on cleaning the house again! I am not a particularly tidy person, but I definitely insist on clean! It may not be a fun task, and like anything else when it gets on top of you it becomes a deep hole, so understand the relief that getting something done and accomplished brings. Thanks so much for linking to #AllAboutYou xx

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    1. That's what I do! When I'm annoyed or angry I clean and for some reason it helps with my mood. You're absolutely right on the clean part, untidy is fine as long as things are clean. Thanks for stopping by and commenting. x

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