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So far on this blog I’ve not made a big thing about my writing, it’s just something I do to keep the boredom at bay and hold on to my sanity. When the idea first struck me I thought I’d give up before I finished anything but it seems to have stuck and I keep going. 


Morgan's Milieu | Thank You: My new toy, a Macbook Air.

To be honest I’m just kind of winging it. I’ve written one novel that is in the editing stages and half-written two others - one abandoned and the other I’m currently working on. I try to fit in the writing whenever I can but sometimes the chores of motherhood get me down. 

Well… not motherhood, more housewife chores, the constant tidying, hoovering, polishing, washing clothes, all those things that no one else does. I look at my house and see piles of clothes ready to wash, notice the dust that has settled on the surfaces and see the dishes ready to be put into the dishwasher and a darkness descends around me. 

Why can’t someone else do it for a change? Why am I the one everyone turns to?

Instead of asking for help I keep quiet. I put the dishes in the dishwasher, put the clothes in the washing machine and grab the duster and polish, all the time muttering to myself. I end up feeling angry and I have no idea why. After all, it’s my own fault for not asking for help, right? The problem with asking for help is I feel guilty. The Hubby works (well someone has to!) and the kids, well they’re just kids. So either way, whether I ask for help or not, I end up feeling bad.

The writing has been like having a therapist and even if I don’t write down what I’m feeling, the process of typing words into the computer helps. It’s turned into something that I need to do. 

Morgan's Milieu | Thank You: A hot cup of tea.
The fact that the Hubby is taking it seriously helps too. He’s spent time and money making sure I can work to the best of my ability. He came up with a genius plan for keeping the house tidy, it’s a sticker chart for the kids. Every day they have to put all their toys away before going to bed, if they can do this they get a sticker and once they get 10 stickers we can all go out for a meal. They get to choose where we go and the current aim is TGI Fridays and they have 8 stickers. I can’t believe it’s been working as well as it has but I think it’s wonderful. It means that I can walk around the house first thing in a morning and see that it’s tidy. I can have a cup of tea knowing that there’s not hours of work before I can sit in front of the computer. It brightens my day so much.

That’s not the only thing the Hubby did. He bought a new iMac recently and I was delighted when he said I could use the old one, it meant I could get a new program I’ve been wanting for ages and perhaps even get more writing done. Then, last weekend, we took a trip to PC World and he surprised me by buying a new Macbook Air! Wow! I’d been saying how much I love working on the iMac but it’s a bit uncomfortable sitting at the dining table and that was his solution. Now I’m sitting on our recliner in the lounge with the Macbook Air on my lap writing this blog post.

Sometimes I focus on the wrong things, like getting worked up about having to do housework. It’s just one of those things and seeing as I don’t have to go to work I think it’s okay that everyone expects me to take care of them. That’s my job. I’m a mother and housewife and that’s what we do, but we also need time for ourselves. Everyone needs private time, a time to think or do something they enjoy and having an understanding partner makes all the difference.

In the last few weeks I’ve gone from having hardly any time for my writing to being able to write as much as I choose to and that’s all thanks to the Hubby. So, here’s to all the understanding husbands and wives out there who do all they can to support their partners. Even if that’s just making them a cup of tea in the morning. 

Thank you x


8 comments:

  1. Yay, for a supportive husband. Mine is too. I just made the transition from a full time job, to stay at home mom/writer. It's hard, but I agree when you find the time to write it's the best. :) Good Luck.

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    1. Thanks Heather.

      I wouldn't give up this job for the world but sometimes it does get you down. Having that time for me really makes a difference. I'm glad you have a supportive husband too, it's great isn't it?

      Morgan x

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  2. This sounds like something I would write, and what I love so much about blogging. Being able to write down how you feel and getting everything off your chest. I too have a very supportive husband. I work full time, as does he, but he gets home a few hours before I do and by the time I do, the house is clean, dishes washed, and carpets hovered. Even so, there is this thing, and that thing, and usually some other thing that I need to do before I can sit down to write, so know how hard it can be. Good luck huni with the writing.

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    1. Thanks Bernadette,

      With the school holidays starting I've been unable to write much at all. The time is spent entertaining the children and keeping them out of the hubby's way because he works at home. I feel for you, I can't imagine having to work full time as well as everything else. I really admire those women that do, it's a tough job.
      I sometimes struggle with the blogging, I've not been doing it long and wonder if anyone is reading so it's lovely when I get responses like yours and Heathers.

      Thank you.
      Morgan x

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  3. When my daughter was little, I’d get up in the middle of the night to get some uninterrupted writing done. I did the same thing all the years I worked outside the home, just to squeeze in some “me” time for writing. Now, years later, I work fulltime from home as a writer and artist, with plenty of free time to write during “normal” hours of the day—-but I’m still in the habit of waking about 3 in the morning with ideas racing inside my head. I ask the intrusive voices to PLEASE just shut up and let me get a few hours more sleep. LOL

    As for guilt, Morgan, I think women were born to deal with it on a daily basis—it’s just what we do. And it’s difficult to ask for help.

    I agree, about writing being therapeutic. It’s the same when I do my illustrations.

    Congrats on your new Macbook Air! I’ve seen them at the Apple store at the mall and they look fabulous. I’ve always been a PC user but I am SO very temped to get a Mac.

    I, too, am extremely fortunate to have a very supportive, encouraging husband. My daughter, who’s now an adult, is the same way. That just makes all the difference in the world! Happy writing! :D

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    1. Thank you Susan.

      I have to admit that I LOVE sleep. I'm not sure I would be able to function properly if I sacrificed a couple of hours sleep, it's hard enough with 6hrs sleep!

      With it being the summer holidays it's even more difficult to find that time to get any writing done. I've decided to take them to a play centre, that way I can sit and do work while they are playing. At least its something.

      Get a Mac. Get a Mac. Get a Mac! Hehe! I think it is SO much better than windows. It's just my opinion but I find it much more pleasant to use. I had always used windows until about a year ago, I used the iMac before the hubby needed it for work. I enjoyed it so much that I hounded him when he used it for work. In the end he got a new one and I did too!

      Thanks for popping by, it's always nice to see you here, and thank you for your comments. You always make me smile!

      Morgan x

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  4. Sticker chart sounds like an awesome idea. And the iMac- definitely some big brownie points there!

    I totally agree about writing being therapeutic. Plus, characters and plot can be needy like children, but they can't follow us when we walk away. At least most of the time ;)

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    1. The sticker chart has worked wonders! Somehow my children have been transformed into neat freaks, it's great!

      I find that my characters are fine being left alone but after a while (a week or so) they decide to pester me until I return. For example, the kids finished school last week so I haven't been able to get any writing done and my characters have been popping into my head suggesting new ways to deal with the situations they have found themselves in. It's rather frustrating! Especially when I'm out of the house and there's no chance of getting to the computer. I'm just glad I always have my phone with me, it has my Notes app! : )

      Morgan x

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